The Art of Repair: How To Reconnect After Conflict, Strengthen Communication & Stay In Love, with Relationship Expert Baya Voce

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“We’re taught how to fall in love, but not how to stay there.” So in today’s must-listen episode, I chat with renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, to learn the art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict.

Arguments happen (they’re an important part of relationships and individuation!) — but they don’t have to break your bond. In this powerful episode, we dive into proven tools for transforming conflict into deeper connection, and Baya’s strategies for building better communication, boundaries, and emotional safety.

If you’re in love, want love, or care about love, this is your roadmap for working towards interdependence, rebuilding trust, and creating love that lasts.

With an MSW from Columbia University, Baya specializes in couples counselling and MDMA-assisted couples therapy research, and is supervised by the incredible Esther Perel! Her work has been featured in a TED Talk, on Vice, Forbes, MTV, and ABC, and her videos on everything from boundaries, to using AI for therapy, to navigating jealousy, have been viewed by millions.

Tune in as we explore:

💞 The three stages of lasting relationships and why many couples get stuck in Stage 2

🤝 Navigating the disillusionment phase

🗣️ Is there such thing as healthy vs. harmful conflict?

🔄 Baya’s 4-step relationship repair framework to reconnect after a conflict

🧠 What dysregulation looks like during conflict (and how to calm your nervous system)

❤️ Rebuilding trust and emotional safety after a rupture

✋ Setting healthy boundaries in your relationship

🕵️ Curiosity as the antidote to blame and defensiveness

Resources & Links:
Follow Baya on Instagram: @bayavoce
Baya’s website: https://bayavoce.com/

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