Limerence: The Psychology of Romantic Obsession with Brandy Wyant

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Forrest and therapist Brandy Wyant discuss limerence, an intense and often one-sided state of romantic obsession. They explore how limerence differs from both love and ordinary crushes, why uncertainty fuels it, and how it can take over a person’s inner world. Brandy shares both clinical insights and her own lived experience, describing the obsessive thoughts, compulsive behaviors, and shame that often accompany limerence. They examine its overlap with OCD and addiction, and discuss practical strategies from CBT and ACT.

Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:00: What is limerence?

5:26: Limerence vs. a crush

11:28: Why research and treatment lag behind

13:38: Treatment approaches and practical strategies

24:47: Attachment, susceptibility, and shame

29:05: How limerence shapes relationships

38:12: Online communities and reinforcing obsession

49:18: Self-worth and validation

53:41: Recap

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