People Pleasing; An HSP Tendency With Todd Smith

Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

One of the common behavior patterns we HSPs can be prone to is people pleasing – or partner pleasing! Interestingly, on the surface people pleasing seems lovely, it can wreak real emotional havoc and really hurt our intimate relationship over time.

Today my special guest, Todd Smith, a highly sensitive person and host of the podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People, and I are going to talk about all about people and partner pleasing: what it looks like, what it leads to (ahem, talk about resentment! And overwhelm!), why we do it, and how it affects us and our marriages.

You’ll hear examples of how we both have "people pleased” in our own lives and relationships, and client stories, as well.

Then we will offer several ways to break this habit or pattern, and ultimately be TRUE to yourself, more authentic and honest in your marriage, less stressed and overwhelmed, and feel more loved for who you really are.

Whether you think you may sometimes fall in to people pleasing, or not, you may be surprised at what you’ll learn about yourself and other people in your life as you listen to this fun, important, laughter-filled conversation. You’ll come away intrigued by how much opportunity for real loving change can come from leaving this pattern in the past, and clear on how to get started.

SHOW NOTES:

TODD SMITH:

• Find Todd's website and free Stress Test HERE
• Listen to his podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People here.

HANNAH BROOKS

• FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it’s affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.
• Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever--WITHOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. Get started by filling out this form.
• See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.