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EP 195: Self Regulation Doesn't Exist (2nd Edition)
Manage episode 441525357 series 2971735
If self-regulation doesn't really exist- then what do we mean when we talk about self-regulation? And why does it matter?
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What self-regulation REALLY is
- How “self” regulation develop
- Why you should still teach self-regulation skills
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/selfregulation
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
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Manage episode 441525357 series 2971735
If self-regulation doesn't really exist- then what do we mean when we talk about self-regulation? And why does it matter?
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What self-regulation REALLY is
- How “self” regulation develop
- Why you should still teach self-regulation skills
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/selfregulation
Follow Me On:
Facebook
Instagram
Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!
Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!
Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources
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1 Ep. 208: Bravely Being With Grief with Rose LaPiere 48:19


1 Ep. 206: Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel 1:05:49


1 Ep. 204: The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson 53:57

1 REPLAY: Living with Someone Chronically Dysregulated 27:56

1 REPLAY: Silliness as a Sign of Dysregulation 43:08



1 REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs 33:02

1 REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 48:11

1 REPLAY: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 40:23





1 Ep. 200!: Gratitude for Our Watchdog & Possum Parts 35:01

1 Ep. 199: Scaffolding Relational Skills as Brain Skills with Eileen Devine 1:04:14

1 REPLAY: Titrating Connection (Oppositional Series - Part 4) 45:30

1 REPLAY: When Connection isn't Safe (Oppositional Series - Part 3) 38:00

1 REPLAY: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior (Oppositional Series - Part 2) 46:08

1 REPLAY: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior (Oppositional Series - Part 1) 45:24



1 EP 196: Whiplash! When a Meltdown Comes Outta Nowhere 34:58

1 EP 195: Self Regulation Doesn't Exist (2nd Edition) 35:54

1 EP 194: Improving Connections Between Home and School with Jessica Sinarski 57:50


1 EP 192: Is Co-Regulation Just Coddling?? 36:23

1 REPLAY: When Your Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain 49:32

1 REPLAY: Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? 24:09

1 EP 191: Helping Siblings with Verbal Aggression 40:30

1 EP 190: When Two (or more) Kids Are Dysregulated at Once! 39:11

1 EP 189: How to Help Siblings During a Meltdown 36:01

1 EP 188: Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs 38:31

1 EP 187: Teach Siblings about Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums... Without Excusing! 37:39

1 EP 186: Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting 43:24

1 EP 185: Setting Boundaries that Stick with Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored 1:00:39

1 EP 184: How to Not Care what Other People Think 46:41


1 EP 183: Is Watchdog and Possum Behavior Always Protective? 30:27

1 REPLAY: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation 49:13

1 Ep 182: There Is Nothing Wrong With You! With Guest Janet Nordine 53:52

1 REPLAY: Co-Regulation Before Self-Regulation 34:46

1 EP 181: What's the "Connected Response" to {Insert Specific Difficult Behavior Here}? 41:43



1 EP 178: EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain! 36:05


1 REPLAY: Self-Compassion Keeps you Regulated 28:43

1 EP 176: Feel Better, Even If Nothing Changes 40:02


1 EP 175: Secure Relating with Guests Sue and Ann from Therapist Uncensored 1:03:07

1 REPLAY: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting 32:25

1 Ep. 174: When it's Hard to Keep Offering Connection 41:08

1 REPLAY: Low Demand Parenting with Amanda Diekman 1:00:52

1 Ep. 173: Are Connected Kids always Cooperative 34:14

1 REPLAY: School Refusal with Eliza Fricker 59:23


1 REPLAY: Lying as a Trauma Driven Behavior 28:36

1 EP. 171: Living with someone chronically dysregulated 26:35

1 REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try This!!! 32:50

1 Ep. 170: Why Kids Act Better for Other People 32:39

1 REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior? 39:58

1 Ep. 169: The Privilege of Parenting with Safety 33:17

1 REPLAY: Undoing the Aloneness in Parenting 26:32

1 Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings 41:09


1 Ep. 167: Silliness As A Sign Of Dysregulation 42:31

1 {REPLAY} What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair) 59:54


1 REPLAY: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean? 31:59

1 EP. 165: What’s Up With Rude & Disrespectful Behaviors? 41:24

1 {REPLAY} How to Influence - Not Control - Behaviors 27:48

1 EP. 164: Attachment Science in Action- A conversation with Jessica Sinarski 1:02:54

1 Ep. 163: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 48:25

1 Ep 162: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 40:44


1 REPLAY: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? 56:00

1 REPLAY: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior 44:03

1 REPLAY: When Your Child Doesn't Participate in Therapy 40:12


1 REPLAY: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs 28:26

1 REPLAY: Trauma, Memory, Behavior - Part 2: Mental Models and Behavior 51:41

1 REPLAY: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior - Part 1 1:14:39


1 REPLAY: Healing from Blocked Care with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls 59:06

1 REPLAY: When Your Nervous System is Fried 59:27

1 REPLAY: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression (Boundaries Series: Part 3) 1:07:18

1 REPLAY: Boundaries that Create Success (Boundary Series: Part 2) 44:04

1 REPLAY: Boundaries with Connection (Boundaries Series: Part 1) 45:16

1 REPLAY: Is Understanding Behavior Excusing It? 40:26

1 Ep. 160: When your Child won't Talk about their Watchdog and Possum Brain 46:36

1 Ep. 159: Titrating Connection- Oppositional Series Part 4 45:32

1 Ep 158: When Connection isn't Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3 38:17

1 Ep. 157: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior- Part 2 47:42

1 Ep. 156: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior- Part 1 46:07

1 Ep. 155: Match the Energy, NOT the Dysregulation 43:02

1 Ep. 154: (BONUS) Let me Tell You About The Club 41:49

1 Ep. 153: Marshall Lyles & Robyn Gobbel Talk about Writing #RKB3 1:00:50

1 Ep. 152: BONUS - A little snippet from the Book #RKB3 (BOOK RELEASE Day) 23:35

1 Ep. 151: Loving your OWN Watchdog and Possum Brain (IT'S BOOK RELEASE WEEK!) 44:30

1 Ep. 150: Why You Can Know What to Do and Still Not Do It?! 40:07

1 Ep. 149: "Fix" Behaviors by Calming the Watchdog & Possum Brain 41:29

1 Ep. 148: "Fix" Behaviors by Growing the Owl Brain 34:38


1 Ep. 146: Parenting When Your Partner is Not On Board 41:56

1 Ep. 145: Calm the Chaos- a Transformative Framework for Parenting 47:52

1 Ep. 144: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting 43:42

1 Ep. 143: Building Safe Spaces: The Crucial Role of Adults in Children's Recovery from Trauma 55:04

1 Ep. 142: Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics and Nurturing Trust 1:01:25

1 Ep. 141: Peaceful Discipline & Story Teaching with Sarah R. Moore 55:00

1 Ep. 140: This Mom's Story: Marna Pacheco's Innovative Way of Supporting Vulnerable Nervous Systems 1:03:50

1 Ep. 139: When Your Nervous System is Fried 59:27

1 Ep. 138: Stealing- Behavior is Just a Clue 45:36

1 Ep. 137: Disappointment: A Sneaky Cause of Baffling Behaviors 45:32

1 Ep. 136: Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors 34:14


1 Ep. 134: What if Trauma Informed... Isn't? 40:36

1 Ep. 133: School Refusal with Eliza Fricker 1:03:07

1 Ep. 132: Screen Time & Mental Health with Debbie Steinberg Kuntz 54:32

1 Ep. 131: Knot Parenting with Carrie Contey 58:37

1 Ep. 130: More About Blocked Care- Friday Q&A 40:10


1 Ep. 128: My Child Hates Having their Feelings Validated- Friday Q&A 19:52

1 Ep. 127: Surviving the Mother Load of Parenting with Meredith Ethington 1:10:32

1 Ep. 126: What Does this Look Like with Teens- Friday Q&A 21:25

1 Ep. 125: When you Feel Like a Parenting Failure 20:53

1 Ep. 124: Should My Child be in Individual or Family Therapy? Friday Q&A 21:53

1 Ep. 123: Healing from Blocked Care with Lisa Qualls and Melissa Corkum 1:00:15

1 Ep. 122: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean? 29:00


1 Ep. 120: What Does Toxic Shame Look Like? 43:25

1 Ep. 119: The Neurobiology of Toxic Shame 43:46

1 Ep. 118: How Can The Club Help my Family? Q&A 38:15

1 Ep. 117: How I've Strengthened my Psychological Boundaries 52:29

1 Ep. 116: Why does my child demand constant attention? Friday Q&A 17:09

1 Ep. 115: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore: Boundaries with Connection Part 3 of 3 1:09:27

1 Ep. 114: Can I teach my child about their brain? Friday Q&A Series 20:39

1 Ep. 113: Boundaries that Create Success: Boundaries with Connection Part 2 of 3 42:34

1 Ep. 112: The Problem with a RAD diagnosis- Friday Q&A series 24:28

1 Ep. 111: Boundaries with Connection Part 1 of 3: Boundaries You can Control 41:37

1 Ep. 110: Does my child get dysregulated on purpose? Friday Q&A Series 14:45

1 Ep. 109: Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? 37:55

1 Ep. 108: It's Me! Hi! My 2022 Reflections 1:03:57

1 Ep. 107: Helping Kids Discover their Superpowers with Dr. Chaitra Wirta Leiker 40:46

1 {REPLAY} Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm 53:39

1 {REPLAY} Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior? 42:27

1 {REPLAY} What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? 52:14

1 {REPLAY} Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs 32:14

1 {REPLAY} Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated 29:07

1 {REPLAY} Why Do I Get So Dysregulated? 36:43

1 {REPLAY} Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad 22:11

1 {REPLAY} Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!! 32:21

1 Ep. 106: Bringing Regulation to Educators with Emily Daniels 1:03:52

1 Ep. 105: Caring for our Tender Parts with Ilyse Kennedy 44:59

1 Ep. 104: Being Adopted with Amy Wilkerson 43:18

1 Ep. 103: How to be a Cycle Breaker with Mindi Kessler 45:33

1 Ep. 102: Telling the Truth to Adopted Kids- Even When it's Hard with guest Marcella Moslow 54:11

1 Ep. 101: How to Influence- Not Control- Behavior 25:01

1 Ep. 100: What Does it Mean to Be With? 30:30

1 Ep. 99: Loving Someone with Baffling Behaviors (& a neuroimmune condition) 55:24

1 Ep. 98: From the Inside Out- My husband's journey with a neuroimmune condition 50:10

1 Ep. 97: Neuroimmune Disorders and Big, Baffling Behaviors with Dr. Qazi Javed 1:01:19







1 Ep. 93: Help for Sensory & Emotional Challenges with Jessica Sinarski 51:42



1 Ep. 91: Trauma, Memory, Behavior Part 2- Mental Models and Behavior 47:42

1 Ep. 90: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior 1:10:35

1 Ep. 89: Facing Impossible Decisions Big & Small with Guest Laura Strohm 58:02

1 Ep. 88: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs 35:06

1 Ep. 87: Creating Brave Spaces with Selma Bacevac 49:07

1 {BONUS} Writing My Book: Behind the Scenes 35:03

1 Ep. 86: When Your Child Doesn’t Participate in Therapy 37:20

1 Ep. 85: Ableism in Trauma Informed Parenting with Guest- Marshall Lyles 1:15:05

1 Ep. 84: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior 40:53

1 Ep. 83: How to Change People Pleasing Behavior 35:19


1 {REPLAY} From Correction to Connection Based Parenting: This Dad's Journey 58:55

1 {REPLAY} Lacy Alana With Hope: Even When Things Seem Hopeless 1:14:43

1 {REPLAY} Mark Vatsaas Helps Parents Feel Seen and Heard 1:28:00

1 Ep. 82: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation 45:18

1 Ep. 81: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? 52:14

1 Ep. 80: What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair!) 59:04

1 REPLAY: Bonnie Badenoch on Healing Attachment with Safety and Presence 56:06


1 REPLAY: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment 31:14

1 REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Avoidant Attachment 25:02

1 REPLAY: A Closer Look at Insecure Anxious Attachment 28:51

1 REPLAY: A Closer Look at Secure Attachment 35:37


1 REPLAY: Bethany Saltman with A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment 55:41

1 Ep. 79: Brain Body Parenting with Dr. Mona Delahooke 51:25

1 REPLAY: But...What About A Consequence 41:51

1 Ep. 78: How Self Compassion Changed Things for This Mom 40:51

1 Ep. 77: Q&A! After experiencing post-adoption depression, my child and I are struggling. I need help! 22:22

1 Ep. 76: How To Make Food and Feeding Less Stressful 54:20

1 Ep. 75: When your Child's Behavior Doesn't Change, This Can Help 42:24

1 Ep. 74: Q&A! What do I do when my kid gets stuck and ends up flipping her lid? 18:30

1 Ep. 73: When My Owl Brain Flew Away (Spoiler: The Movers weren't a Ponzi Scheme) 33:13

1 Ep. 72: Q&A! How do I help adoptive parents feel more empathy toward their child's parents? 22:18

1 Ep. 71: What To Do When you Don't Like Your Kid 30:48

1 Ep. 70: Q&A! Why Can't I Do All the Parenting Skills I've Learned? What am I Doing Wrong? 21:31

1 Ep. 69: How to Talk to Your Teen About Anything- with Katie Malinski, LCSW 57:13

1 Ep. 68: Q&A! What do I do when my child flops and acts exhausted by the simplest request? 17:37

1 Ep. 67: You Don't Need More Parenting Experts 35:12

1 Ep. 66: Becoming Securely Attached with Dr. Sarah Bren 54:36


1 REPLAY: X-Ray Vision Parenting Superpower 33:46

1 REPLAY: Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm 54:47

1 REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior? 43:35

1 REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs 33:22

1 REPLAY: Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated 30:15


1 REPLAY: Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad 23:19

1 REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!! 33:29


1 Ep. 63: Connections over Compliance with Dr. Lori Desautels 47:52

1 Ep. 62: Trauma Informed Schools with Jim Sporleder from Paper Tigers 58:43

1 Ep. 61: Against a Behavioral Approach with Greg Santucci 55:13

1 Ep. 60: Creating Trauma Sensitive Schools with Julie Beem 1:02:26

1 Ep. 59: The Regulated Classroom with Emily Daniels 1:01:32

1 Ep. 58: How to Advocate for our Kids at School 32:03

1 Ep. 57: The Relationship Between Nutrition & Behavior with Dr. Nicole Beurkens 1:09:13

1 Ep. 56: But- What About a Consequence? 43:55

1 Ep. 55: From Correction to Connection Based Parenting: This Dad's Journey 58:55

1 Ep. 54: Has Trauma Informed Become Another Behavior Modification Technique? 30:48

1 Ep. 53: What Our Kids Really Need (and us, too)...Moments of Healing 31:48

1 Ep. 52: Occupational Therapy: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain 51:06

1 Ep. 51: Equine Assisted Trauma Informed Psychotherapy: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain 51:37

1 Ep. 50: Theraplay: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain 59:27


1 Ep. 48: The Safe & Sound Protocol: Strengthening the Foundation of the Brain 48:34

1 Ep. 32: Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad 22:11

1 Ep. 31: Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm 53:39

1 {BONUS} What Behavior Really Is- And How to Change It 57:51

1 Ep. 30: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior? 42:27

1 {BONUS} Mother's Day is Hard (or worse...) 16:27

1 Ep. 29: Marshall Lyles with Be Brave. Be Reflective. Be Connected. Be Human. 58:19

1 Ep. 28: Your Child Wants Connection...Promise. 21:30

1 Ep. 27: Marti Smith on Becoming a Connected Therapist 54:00

1 Ep. 26: Toxic Shame: Why was I failing at Shame Resilience? 32:00

1 Ep. 25: Lacy Alana with Hope- Even when Things Seem Hopeless 1:07:52

1 Ep. 24: Parents Need CoRegulation, Too!!! 33:54

1 Ep. 23: Karen Buckwalter and Parenting the Challenging Child 44:42

1 Ep. 22: Undoing Aloneness for Parents of Kids with Trauma 25:11

1 Ep. 21: Jessica Sinarski on Shifting the Paradigm- for Everyone! 51:48


1 Ep. 19: Aerial Silks, P!NK, and Curiosity: Robyn Gets Vulnerable 43:26

1 Ep. 18: Child always dysregulated? Try this!!! 32:21

1 Ep. 17: Felt-Safety: What's the Big Deal? 28:57

1 Ep. 16: Mark Vatsaas Helps Parents Feel Seen and Heard 1:21:08

1 Ep. 15: Lying as a Trauma Driven Behavior 30:41

1 Ep. 14: Eileen Devine and Brain First Parenting 32:13

1 Ep. 13: X-Ray Vision Parenting Superpower 32:38

1 Ep. 12: Imperfect Parenting is Perfect 30:41

1 Ep. 11: Changing How We See People Changes People 37:15

1 Ep. 10: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs 28:22

1 Ep. 9: Co-Regulation Before Self-Regulation 32:51

1 Ep. 8: Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated 29:07

1 Ep. 7: Connection or Protection? The Science of Opposition 30:01

1 Ep. 6: What's Regulation Got To Do With It? 30:24

1 Ep. 5: Saying the Unsayable with Special Guest Anne Heffron 29:13

1 Ep. 47: A Neurodevelopmental Approach- Right Intervention, Right Time 22:03

1 Ep. 46: Imperfect Parenting Grows Resilience with Guest Dr. Amy Stoeber 50:46

1 Ep. 45: Cooking is Connecting with Special Guest- Chef Kibby 55:27

1 Ep. 44: Supporting the Families of Kids with Big Behaviors: Podcast Swap with Therapist Uncensored 57:17

1 Ep. 43: There is No Such Thing as Self-Regulation! Podcast Swap with Empowered to Connect 1:06:42

1 Ep. 42: IPNB, Being a Therapist, and a Human (part 2)- Podcast Swap with Karen Buckwalter 50:56

1 Ep. 41: IPNB, Being a Therapist, and a Human (part 1)- Podcast Swap with Karen Buckwalter 34:15

1 Ep. 40: Bonnie Badenoch on Healing Attachment with Safety and Presence 56:06


1 Ep. 38: The Tragedy of Disorganized Attachment 31:14

1 Ep. 37: A Closer Look at Insecure Avoidant Attachment 25:02

1 Ep. 36: A Closer Look at Insecure Anxious Attachment 28:51

1 Ep. 35: A Closer Look at Secure Attachment 35:37


1 Ep. 33: Bethany Saltman with A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment 55:41



1 Ep. 1: Welcome to Parenting after Trauma with Robyn Gobbel 7:36

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