148: Quickie: Negotiating for Threesomes + Sex Fantasies

Sex Love Psychedelics

Have different desires than your lover? Does this mean that you're not compatible? Does this mean you can’t have the sex life that we desire?

Worry not, my lovers. I really believe in the power of all of us having the sex life of our dreams. ....And I also understand how threatening it can feel when our partner doesn't have the same desires that we do… Tune into this ep to hear the strategies for negotiating for threesomes and sex fantasies.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL HEAR:

• The dynamics that emerge when your partner's desires differ from yours
• The delicate art of negotiation to co-create meaningful experiences
• Navigating the nuances of negotiation in scenarios involving threesomes or moresomes
• The various internal aspects of ourselves, each with its own beliefs and feelings
• Collaborating on plans independently of your partner's expectations
• The vulnerability required to express your desires, boundaries, needs, and fantasies
• Strategies for fostering a satisfying sex life that resonates with both partners
• A deep dive into the Wheel of Consent, distinguishing between allowing and receiving
• The fear that can arise in relationships when conflicting desires or unconventional preferences emerge
• Dr. Cat's guide on the Yes, No, Maybe framework
• A tantalizing look into the upcoming course exploring Tantra and BDSM: Alchemy
• A discussion on the collective trauma surrounding women's sexuality being reduced to entertainment
• Introducing a "play lab" with your partner, setting aside 20-30 minutes to explore new experiences
• And much more!

WANT MORE?

• https://bettymartin.org/videos/
• Alchemical ecstasy: Your complete guide to erotic negotiation: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexualNegotiation
• My 4-week course, ALCHEMY, is now open for enrollment. Sex Love Psychedelics: Alchemy is a four-week LIVE course, taking you through the experience of sex as psychedelic with teachings in tantra, embodiment, + BDSM. Join here. ⁠https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/alchemy