Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame

Sex Help for Smart People

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State Secrets: Inside The Making Of The Electric State

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The Secret To Getting Inspired: Millie Bobby Brown & Chris Pratt Go Behind The Scenes 21:04

منذ 4 أيام21:04

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Step into the mysterious and visually stunning world of The Electric State as host Francesca Amiker takes you behind the scenes with the creative masterminds who brought Simon Stålenhag’s dystopian vision to life. In this premiere episode, directors Joe and Anthony Russo, stars Millie Bobby Brown and Chris Pratt, writers Christopher Markus and Stephen McFeely, and producers Angela Russo-Otstot and Chris Castaldi reveal how they transformed a haunting graphic novel into an epic cinematic experience. Watch The Electric State coming to Netflix on March 14th. Check out more from Netflix Podcasts . State Secrets: Inside the Making of The Electric State is produced by Netflix and Treefort Media.…

منذ عام واحد 35:46

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This episode takes you inside a transformative conversation about sexual confidence and body trust. My former client Kama shares her raw experience of moving from sexual shame and orgasm challenges to deep embodied wisdom. This conversation goes beyond typical success stories, diving deep into how sexual healing catalyzes growth in all areas of life—from business decisions to personal relationships.
Kama's story powerfully demonstrates how learning to trust your body's signals and treat yourself with compassion can lead to unprecedented personal freedom.
Whether you're struggling with intimacy issues or simply curious about sex coaching, this authentic dialogue offers valuable insights into the transformation possible when we dare to address our deepest insecurities.

Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com.
Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.

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#Fitness #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Sexuality #Laura Jurgens, Ph.D #Laura Jurgens

Sex Help for Smart People

Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame

Sex Help for Smart People

published منذ عام واحد

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59 حلقات

#Fitness #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Sexuality #Laura Jurgens, Ph.D #Laura Jurgens

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Sex Help for Smart People

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Christina & Brooke Share Wisdom from the Middle of the Change Process 36:56

منذ 21 hours36:56

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Sometimes at the end of the journey it can be hard to even remember what it was like to be in the middle. Listen in to my interview with a wonderful couple of humans, Christina and Brooke, who are currently working with me. They openly share how they started out disconnected with lots of resentment. They discuss what they've learned so far and how they feel now mid-way through the process of transforming their relationship. Anyone seeking better, more authentic, and stress-free intimacy will benefit from their perspective. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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How People-Pleasing Kills Intimacy & What to Do About It 15:45

منذ 8 أيام15:45

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There are 3 things I really want you to know about people-pleasing and intimacy. When you're a people-pleaser, you'll often feel like you're doing things to make others happy or doing things out of obligation. You'll also often feel like you're not getting the appreciation you want, like you don't have space and time for yourself, and/or like you are just tired of people wanting stuff from you. There's often an underlying current of resentment you may or may not acknowledge. Here's the truth: people-pleasing is hell on intimacy and relationships. This episode will walk you through how it wreaks havoc on your libido, your sense of connection and relationship satisfaction. It's a big deal -- and it's also fixable. Join me for this short episode and get started on the path to freedom today. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Three-somes & Group Sex: Fantasy, Reality & Avoiding Pitfalls 29:28

منذ 15 يومًا29:28

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Lots of folks fantasize about threesomes or group sex, and some of us decide to try it for real. Both can be fun. This episode will guide you through how to have more fun with fantasy and how to make real-life group sex a good experience for everyone. Plus, I'll give you my best tips on how to find other partners and deal with the logistics of setting it up so everyone has a good time. If you're interested in threesomes, don't miss this one! Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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Paths to Sexual Confidence: Real vs. Fake Confidence or Arrogance 34:47

منذ 22 يومًا34:47

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A lot of people want more confidence but are afraid of fake confidence and arrogance. You’re right to be wary of that. It’s not helpful to be falsely confident or arrogant in intimate relationships and sexuality. Today we're going to talk about why, how to avoid fake confidence or arrogance, and how to build real confidence and empowerment instead. We'll talk about why it's the opposite of selfish. I'll also share the path to creating a deep, all-encompassing sense of worth and love-ability. I'll even give you a quick exercise to get you started. I absolutely believe you are 100% worthy of love and acceptance exactly as you are -- and I want you to believe that too. It will feel amazing to you and be a gift to everyone in your life. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Curing the Libido Mismatch Blues 38:40

منذ 29 يومًا38:40

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If Libidio Mismatch is something you struggle with – you know it can be super hard on relationships. It is very stressful and disconnecting. If it feels like a big deal, it is. Research shows that most of our happiness is tied to how we feel about our relationships – so stress in a primary partnership is devastating to quality of life. It's smart to prioritize solving rifts like this above a lot of other things in your life, because it’s going to make the biggest difference to happiness and enable everything else to feel easier. The problem is that it is incredibly hard to find good help on this issue. You need a desire-arousal specialist like me because, frankly, even therapists and doctors aren't trained at all to solve this problem. So join me for this episode where we'll dive into what's going on with Libido Mismatch. You'll learn: 1. Why it's absolutely possible to solve this problem in most cases (despite a lot of bad advice to the contrary) 2. How blame is part of the problem and it's never one person's fault (in fact, it is no one's fault) 3. The first step to getting free of this stressful issue and finally feeling on the same side with your partner Register FREE for the Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour and learn the 5 step process to get free of this painful situation Feb 18 & 19th 2025 February 18, 2025 5-6pm Eastern US time (Zoom option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232092474759?aff=oddtdtcreator February 19, 2025 6-7pm Eastern US time (phone-in option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232093056499?aff=oddtdtcreator Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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7 Myths to Bust to Make It Easier to Ask for What You Want in Bed 23:35

منذ 5 weeks23:35

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Today we're making it easier for you to ask for what you want in your intimate relationships by busting common myths that hold us back. Make your life easier by listening in. Special Event Links: Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour: walk away feeling better about your capacity to reconcile a libido mismatch in your relationship Free 1-hour FAQ and Ask the Expert February 18, 2025 5-6pm Eastern US time (Zoom option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232092474759?aff=oddtdtcreator February 19, 2025 6-7pm Eastern US time (phone-in option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232093056499?aff=oddtdtcreator Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame 35:46

منذ 6 weeks35:46

35:46

This episode takes you inside a transformative conversation about sexual confidence and body trust. My former client Kama shares her raw experience of moving from sexual shame and orgasm challenges to deep embodied wisdom. This conversation goes beyond typical success stories, diving deep into how sexual healing catalyzes growth in all areas of life—from business decisions to personal relationships. Kama's story powerfully demonstrates how learning to trust your body's signals and treat yourself with compassion can lead to unprecedented personal freedom. Whether you're struggling with intimacy issues or simply curious about sex coaching, this authentic dialogue offers valuable insights into the transformation possible when we dare to address our deepest insecurities. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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4 Steps to Confidence & Comfort in Intimacy 27:09

منذ 7 weeks27:09

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These are the steps to confidence and comfort that work. Tune in to learn the 4 key steps that will take you from anxious and underconfident to a true, deep, felt sense of comfort and capability in sex and intimacy. Frankly, they are not all easy, though some are surprisingly fun. These steps are what my practice is based on and why it's been so effective for my clients. That's why I'm sharing them with you today. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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The Biggest Thing You Can Do To Feel More Sexual Empowerment This Year (and it's FREE) 23:25

منذ 8 weeks23:25

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This episode will explain the best, biggest thing you can do to improve your relationship with your own sexuality this year AND your intimacy with a partner. This is the one thing most people are NOT doing – and it is FREE. That’s right, people will spend loads of money this year trying to spice things up by buying stuff: lingerie, sex toys, vacations, and even sex rooms. But most people will fail to do this one, totally FREE thing that is the biggest game changer of them all, and the most empowering thing you can do to change your sex life. Tune in to discover this secret and how to get started today. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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The Most Powerful Step 23:32

منذ 9 weeks23:32

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Today I’m going to tell you a really personal story of how I almost quit on my marriage. I’m also going to share one of the most powerful ideas in the world for changing your life and your relationships. That sounds like a giant claim, and it is, but it is also really simple. If you look at the most joyful people who are living the lives they want – you will see this idea at work all the time. It is their defining approach to life, and it’s what enabled me to rescue my relationship. Register for the Confident in Connection workshop January 24 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1120149891479?aff=oddtdtcreator Use code PODFAN to get a $25 ticket Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Liberation from Religious Shame & Repression: an interview with Lisa 38:17

منذ 10 weeks38:17

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So many people feel disconnected from their authentic sexuality due to a history of religious repression and shaming. In an ideal world, religion would be universally supportive and comforting. Unfortunately, so many people have had the opposite experience, and wound up with decades of harmful ideas about themselves and their sexuality that they struggle to overcome. In this episode, I interview Lisa, a former client, who emerged from many years of religious shame and repression to discover her own authentic sexuality and access her own capacity for pleasure. Tune in and listen to Lisa's inspiring story. To register for the Rocking Relationship Repair workshop, use the code PODFAN for a $25 ticket and register here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rocking-relationship-repair-tickets-1120149891479?aff=oddtdtcreator Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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Rethinking Conflict: How Conflict Avoidance Undermines Relationships & What To Do Instead 34:20

منذ 11 weeks34:20

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Conflict is inevitable in close relationships. Doing it well is key to feeling confident, connected, seen, and safe. Many people avoid conflict, or let their default strategies overwhelm them in unhelpful ways. This episode will help you learn to stop avoding necessary conflict and instead use it to get closer and solve problems together. Conflict isn’t bad in itself – in fact, it’s really important for intimacy. It is doing conflict badly that is a problem. I was absolutely terrible at conflict, but I learned and it totally changed my life. You can learn too. I'll walk you through how. Click the link below to register for the ROCKING RELATIONSHIP REPAIR Workshop January 24, 2025 with the special code PODFAN to get a $25 ticket! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/rocking-relationship-repair-tickets-1120149891479?aff=oddtdtcreator Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Getting the Right Help for Pelvic & Sexual Pain: Interview with Dr. Susie Gronski 39:20

منذ 12 weeks39:20

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Pelvic and sexual pain is absolutely treatable, even though it can be hard to admit and challenging to find the right help. Join me to hear from pelvic health expert Dr. Susie Gronski. This episode will help you release shame or stigma about pelvic pain, which is very common. Dr. Gronski also explains common struggles with sexual and pelvic pain for both penis and vagina-owners, and helps you navigate the challenges in finding the right professionals to support you. Meet my guest: With over a decade of expertise in pelvic and sexual health, Dr. Susie Gronski is a Licensed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Pelvic Health Specialist, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator, and the founder of a multidisciplinary pelvic health clinic in Asheville, North Carolina. You can follow her on YouTube, where she educates and empowers individuals by addressing taboo pelvic and sexual health topics, actively working to dispel misinformation. To learn more about her and her team, visit drsusieg.com . Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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When You're Bummed That You Have to ASK... 18:20

منذ 13 weeks18:20

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It's common for people to feel upset and disappointed about having to ask for what you want. This is especially true if you believe you shouldn’t have to ask, and that your partner should "just know" what to do for you (whether that's in bed, in flirting, foreplay communication, or romantic gestures). After all, we see that played out in movies and TV all the time: the magic intuiting of the partner's needs. But while it's common to think "they should just know," it also tends to make you feel awful, creates distance and resentment in your relationship, and doesn't help you get what you want. Tune in to this episode to find out how to free yourself from this belief system and get more of what you're craving. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Pleasure & Connection Self-Assessment & Making Pleasure Goals 21:49

منذ 14 weeks21:49

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Ready to be one of the brave, joyful souls who wrings the most pleasure out of this life? I'm going to help you get there. It's December and that means it's the perfect time for some guided reflection: where are you at with your experience of pleasure and connection in your life? Where do you want to be? This episode will walk you through a self-assessment and help you figure out how to set yourself up for a beautiful new year with more pleasure and connection than ever before. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Strap-Ons For Every Body 28:03

منذ 15 weeks28:03

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Get started the fun way with strap-ons. Everyone can play with strap-ons and there are loads of reasons you may want to try it out. This episode will guide you through choices of equipment, accessories, positions. It will help you make the decisions that will bring you and your partner the most fun while avoiding painful bad experiences. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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3 Reasons You Have a Hard Time Talking About Sex & How to Overcome Them 20:02

منذ 16 weeks20:02

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This episode is for all of you that have a hard time talking about sex, even with your partner. I'll cover the 3 top reasons people struggle to have conversations about sexual desires, needs, and interests. I'll also give you a place to get started in solving these challenges for each one. From the episode recommendations, here is a link to the blog post from Somatica Institute on my most highly recommended relationship repair process: https://www.somaticainstitute.com/blog/9-steps-to-successful-relationship-repair/ Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

Sex Help for Smart People

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How to Be Sexual Without Accidentally Being Creepy 20:04

منذ 17 weeks20:04

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If you can't figure out why women seem to get turned off by you even though you're a super nice guy -- this episode is for you! We cover how to know if you’re inadvertently creeping out women or turning them off no matter how great a guy you are (and 99% of the people with this issue are cis-gendered hetero men). We'll talk about why that can happen, why it's not your fault (but is something only you can fix), how to stop it, and what’s up if you’re on other end (meaning that you get creeped out or turned off even by wonderful, kind men). Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Butt Fun: How to Start & How to Avoid Traumatic Mistakes 40:41

منذ 18 weeks40:41

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Today we’re talking about butt stuff – all things anal pleasure. The rear end is the other half of your pelvis and has loads of nerve endings to enjoy, but it can also be a place of shame, pain and trauma when we aren't careful. I’m going to give you some perspectives on releasing shame and expectations. I'll also cover in detail the Cardinal Rules of Butt Fun so you can stay on the pleasure side of the equation rather than the pain and trauma side. As usual, I’m going to end on an invitation to explore on your own, and this exercise is really important for those of you starting out with butt play, or if you’ve had bad experiences in the past. We'll also cover good butt-safe toys, hygiene, communication, pacing, lube, and all the details to help you be successful – which means every one has fun and no one gets hurt. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Experiencing More Pleasure & Satisfaction (Plus How Arousal & Desire Fit In) 13:30

منذ 19 weeks13:30

13:30

What is your relationship to physical pleasure? Today is all about investigating this question so you can experience more of it. We'll talk about how you can boost pleasure, dive in to how desire and arousal get confused with pleasure, and how to focus on what really brings deep satisfaction. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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How To Start Having G-Spot & Cervical Orgasms 20:28

منذ 20 weeks20:28

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Do you want to have G-spot or cervical orgasms, but don't know how to get there? This episode is for you! Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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The Missing Part of the ED Conversation 17:37

منذ 21 weeks17:37

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This episode will help you understand the most common underlying causes of erectile challenges and how to solve them. While drugs can mask symptoms, they don’t actually address the underlying causes of ED. I explain the big missing piece of the ED conversation, which is how relationships, socialized pressure, psychology and emotional situations affect erections. If you have a penis, play with people who do, or just want to be more aware of how to support people who do – this one is for you. Note: it is important to know that it's normal for erections to come and go. Do please get checked out by a doctor, especially if you have trouble getting erections all the time, including while masturbating. Consistent ED can be a symptom of underlying health issues. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Special Episode: Finding Calm & Helping Others When Disaster Strikes 18:58

منذ 22 weeks18:58

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This is a special episode, recorded at my home in Asheville, North Carolina, USA in the aftermath of massive devastation from Hurricane Helene. It is for all people dealing with difficult times. In it, I walk you through a calming exercise to help de-escalate anxiety, overwhelm, stress and other challenging, activating emotions. I also talk about how you can help other people through co-regulation. Note that there is no explicit content here and it is suitable for anyone. Way to help Western North Carolina flood victims directly: https://www.BelovedAsheville.com is a well-established local organization that is doing amazing work on the ground and needs support. Venmo link on their website. https://www.mannafoodbank.org/ is a long-established local food bank providing food despite having lost their entire warehouse in the flood -- the people and volunteers rallied and have risen to the challenge. https://cerfplus.org/ is offering grants to craftspeople and artists who lost everything in the floods. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Up Your Foreplay Game 21:57

منذ 23 weeks21:57

21:57

This episode will help you get more creative and relaxed about foreplay. We'll cover why that’s super important for keeping the fire lit in your sex life, and what some of the blocks are to good foreplay. We're also going to dive into what's up with the foreplay deficit in America, the common problem of boring foreplay, and discuss how to overcome the worries and logistical issues that can keep us from getting more exploratory and creative. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Your Options for Help: Coaching vs. Therapy, Plus Pros & Cons of Each 37:06

منذ 24 weeks37:06

37:06

This episode covers when to see a therapist and when to seek out coaching, strengths and weaknesses of both (because all modalities have pros and cons), and what to watch out for. I'll also go over different types of therapy and different types of coaching, and which versions are good for what situations and challenges, in my perspective. This is part of a series of sessions that aim to help you understand the various options for help available to you. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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What we did in sessions this week 14:45

منذ 25 weeks14:45

14:45

Ever want to know what actually happens in coaching sessions? This episode is story time. I’m going to give you a peek inside my office at what we did in several different sessions this week. Through these little stories, you will get a flavor of the kinds of activities we do in my particular coaching practice, and get a sense of the kinds of help available to you as an individual or a couple who wants to have a better love life. Take a listen and discover how progress and solving problems can actually be fun! Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Why don't they just know? 22:12

منذ 26 weeks22:12

22:12

What can you do when you really want your partner to know what you want and they just don’t. You keep waiting and they keep not knowing and not doing it. You are disappointed, frustrated, or heartbroken (or all three). This is a recipe for disaster if you stay on the disempowering side of this. Take a listen and learn how to get out of this stuck place and move forward. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Break Free From Arbitrary Rules: Cleaning Out Your Should Closet 12:31

منذ 27 weeks12:31

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This week we're diving into how "shoulds" sneak in and mess up our confidence, relationships, dating, and sex lives. Shoulds come from all kinds of places (society, religion, your grandma, that 2nd grade math teacher who said you had messy handwriting...whatever). They undermine us and our relationships, often subconsciously. Every time you let a "should" in, you're criticizing yourself or others and holding up standards you may not even believe in. Today I share a fun, easy tool to help you clean out your brain and free you up from these unhelpful, cognitive distortions. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Skip The Frustration By Understanding Attachment Styles 24:23

منذ 28 weeks24:23

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Everyone has an attachment style. Knowing yours will enable you to manage relationships effectively as an adult, not just react at people. You'll feel much more able to communicate your needs, and much more in the driver's seat of your own experience in relationship, if you understand your own attachment style. So join me while I break down the main attachment styles. I'll explain how to manage and even avoid conflict in relationships where you have different styles. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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Inside a Session on Emotional Desires: Asking For What You Want Without Shame or Blame 47:25

منذ 29 weeks47:25

47:25

In this special episode, I let you listen-in on a live session with client Kris (with her permission!). She and I tackle the topic of owning our own emotional desires when we’re in relationship. Think of our emotional desires just like sexual ones. Sometimes we know them, sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we want to ask for something, but we don’t really know how to ask. Or how we’re asking isn’t working – the other person isn’t receiving it the way we mean and we need to try something new. Sometimes we think everyone is wired the same way and of course they “should” know what we want…but just like sexual desires, that’s just not true. So we can’t expect everyone to magically know what feels good to us. This is true for sexual and emotional desires. We’re way way more likely to get what we want for both kinds of desires if we are asking clearly and not making anyone wrong – us or them. Notice how great Kris is at embracing the "no one has to be to blame" part. Please don't expect to be a pro so quickly -- she has done a lot of personal growth work to build her capacity! To try this out at home: Notice what it is you actually want to FEEL – not just the action you want your partner to take, but how you want to feel. Pick one overwhelmingly desired feeling. See if you can challenge yourself to make no one wrong – your partner isn’t wrong for not understanding yet and you aren’t wrong for wanting it in the first place. Ask how can we use this to connect and learn more about each other? How can I share about myself vulnerably here? Assume that one thing you think they need to do isn’t available or is impossible for whatever reason. Try on sentences or alternative things your partner could say or do to help you get the feeling you want anyway. When I say try it on, I mean really imagine it and see how it feels in your body. Get a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, plus learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com . Get a transcript of this episode by going to https://sexhelpforsmartpeople.buzzsprout.com/ Click on the episode, then choose the transcript tab.…

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