How To Stop The Nice Guy Pandemic: JR Harvey Kings Community #286

Set The Standard

Most men say they want purpose… but they’re actually addicted to struggle.
In this episode, I sit down with JR Harvey founder of Kings Community and one of the most grounded, embodied mentors for men in the game to unpack what’s really keeping men stuck.
We go deep on:
• Why “managing pain” isn’t healing
• The nervous system cost of constantly performing
• Why men lead best when they stop trying to be liked
• The addiction to helping others as a way to avoid yourself
• And the real reason your relationship or leadership keeps collapsing
This conversation isn’t for the guys looking for more mindset hacks.
This is for the men who are ready to actually feel, lead with clarity, and build something sacred from a solid nervous system not from pressure and pretend power.
If you’re over the noise, stuck in your head, or feel like the leader version of you is hiding this one will flip the switch.
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🔗 LINKS TO JR HARVEY
Kings Community → https://www.instagram.com/kings__community/
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⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Intro – Meet JR Harvey
01:12 Why Most Men Are Addicted to Pressure
03:45 Nervous System vs Nervous System Games
06:30 The Illusion of “Helping” While Avoiding Yourself
09:01 Leading Without Performing
12:20 What’s Under Your Need to Fix
15:10 Why “Doing The Work” Can Be a Trap
18:02 Sex, Shame, and Self-Betrayal
22:49 Building Brotherhood From Authenticity
25:50 The Real King Energy Men Are Missing
29:30 Final Words for the Men Playing Small

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1. The Pain of Breaking Up (00:00:00)

2. Nice Guys and Boundary Setting (00:06:30)

3. The Emotional Dumping Problem (00:14:16)

4. Finding Purpose Beyond Pain (00:23:16)

5. The Value of Male Connection (00:31:53)

6. Content Creation and Authenticity (00:41:44)

7. From Failure to Purpose (01:00:16)

8. The Choice of Meaningful Pain (01:06:28)

9. Closing Thoughts and Gratitude (01:43:39)