105. 7 Essential Characteristics of the Healthy Adult Mode

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In this episode, Gemma dives into the cornerstone of schema therapy: the Healthy Adult mode. This is the part of us that represents balance, wisdom, and compassion—our best self that helps us navigate relationships, emotions, and life’s challenges effectively.

What You’ll Learn:

Mindfulness: Why mindfulness is the foundational building block for self-awareness, self-reflection, and personal growth.
The Healthy Adult as Executor: How this mode acts as the caretaker, director, and overseer of all other modes.
The Wise and Courageous Self: The importance of facing reality, leaning into discomfort, and making wise, courageous decisions.
The Compassionate Self: How to practice genuine compassion toward yourself and others without overextending or self-sacrificing.
The Good Parent: Prioritizing meaningful self-care and addressing unhealthy coping strategies to nurture yourself like a loving parent would.
Self-Awareness and Growth: Recognizing your schemas and embracing psychological awareness to create meaningful change.
Flexibility and Openness: Developing an open, adaptable mindset to navigate life’s ups and downs without rigidity.

Why This Episode Matters:

Understanding and strengthening your Healthy Adult mode is central to breaking unhelpful patterns and living authentically. Gemma shares practical insights and strategies to help you embrace this transformative aspect of yourself.

Resources Mentioned:

Book recommendation: Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young.
Previous episode: "You’re Not Your Diagnosis."

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105. 7 Essential Characteristics of the Healthy Adult Mode

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What You’ll Learn:

Mindfulness: Why mindfulness is the foundational building block for self-awareness, self-reflection, and personal growth.
The Healthy Adult as Executor: How this mode acts as the caretaker, director, and overseer of all other modes.
The Wise and Courageous Self: The importance of facing reality, leaning into discomfort, and making wise, courageous decisions.
The Compassionate Self: How to practice genuine compassion toward yourself and others without overextending or self-sacrificing.
The Good Parent: Prioritizing meaningful self-care and addressing unhealthy coping strategies to nurture yourself like a loving parent would.
Self-Awareness and Growth: Recognizing your schemas and embracing psychological awareness to create meaningful change.
Flexibility and Openness: Developing an open, adaptable mindset to navigate life’s ups and downs without rigidity.

Why This Episode Matters:

Resources Mentioned:

Book recommendation: Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young.
Previous episode: "You’re Not Your Diagnosis."

Support the show

Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going!

🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time.

🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here!

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112. Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: Six Questions to Help You Reconnect with Yourself 46:23

منذ 5 أيام46:23

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Send us a text In this episode, Dr Gemma takes a deep dive into one of the most common and persistent life patterns— people-pleasing . If you've ever found yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own, struggling to say no, or feeling exhausted from always trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you. She explores: ✅ What people-pleasing really is and why it’s not just one behavior but a collection of patterns ✅ The three main schemas that drive people-pleasing ✅ How early experiences and conditioning shape this pattern and why it can be hard to break ✅ Six powerful self-reflection questions to help you tune into yourself, your needs and your emotions These six foundational questions are designed to help you: 🔹 Reconnect with who you really are beneath years of learned behaviours 🔹 Identify what you truly want, need, and believe —instead of looking outward for validation 🔹 Start making decisions from a place of self-awareness and confidence If you’ve been a chronic people-pleaser and you’re ready to start shifting this pattern, this episode will give you practical first steps to create real change. Resources & Links: 🔹 Learn more about The Red Flag Project : theredflagproject.com 🔹 Upcoming Therapist Webinar – Supporting Clients with Narcissistic Parents (March 27th) – Early bird discount ends March 8th! Registration Link https://podcast.feedspot.com/australian_psychology_podcasts/ https://podcast.feedspot.com/mood_podcasts/ Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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111. Seven Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater: Red Flags You Can’t Ignore 47:18

منذ 28 يومًا47:18

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Send us a text Episode Description: Are you dating someone new and wondering if they’re truly a good match? Or do you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners? In this episode, Gemma breaks down The 7 Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater —key warning signs that indicate deeper personality issues and potential toxic relationship dynamics. These signs often reveal themselves early—sometimes even on the first date. Recognizing them before you get emotionally invested can save you from heartbreak and manipulation. These behaviors aren’t just annoying quirks—they’re significant predictors of toxic relationship patterns. I also share 2 real success stories from women who’ve identified these red flags early, broken their old patterns, and found secure, emotionally available partners. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: 🔗 Work with Me – Schema Coaching 🔗 The Red Flag Project – Online Course 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! 💬 Let us know your thoughts on this episode! Send feedback or questions to justineandgemma@goomood.com.au Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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110. Q&A: Understanding Emotional Availability and Narcissistic Family Challenges 38:31

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Send us a text Episode Overview: In this engaging Q&A episode, Dr. Gemma Gladstone answers two listener questions, diving into the nuances of emotional availability in relationships and managing complex dynamics with a narcissistic parent. Key Topics Covered: Emotional Availability in Relationships How to assess emotional availability beyond just words like "I love you." Why actions, consistency, and reliability are key indicators of emotional connection. Navigating personal triggers while building a secure relationship. Dealing with a Narcissistic Parent Supporting a partner who is enmeshed with a controlling or manipulative parent. Setting healthy boundaries and fostering autonomy without becoming the "fixer." How schema therapy offers insight into narcissistic family dynamics and coping strategies. This episode offers relatable insights for anyone navigating relationship challenges or family complexities. Whether you’re questioning emotional availability in a partner or dealing with a narcissistic parent, Dr. Gemma provides practical advice, grounded in schema therapy, to help you move forward. Healthy relationships are built on emotional availability, mutual respect, and consistent actions. Understanding the deeper dynamics in family or romantic relationships can empower you to set boundaries, support yourself and others, and foster meaningful connections. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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109. When Family Ties Hurt: Navigating Estrangement and Difficult Relationships 35:29

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Send us a text Episode Overview: In this deeply personal and insightful episode, Dr. Justine Corry shares her experience of family estrangement, reflecting on her relationship with a narcissistic mother and the impact on her life. Dr. Gemma Gladstone joins the conversation as they both discuss the psychological toll of estrangement and how schema therapy can help individuals heal and move forward. Key Topics Covered: What drives estrangement and why it’s never an easy decision. The role of schemas in shaping family dynamics and coping mechanisms. Personal reflections on living without a parent and how to navigate the associated grief and loss. Understanding the motivations and limitations of difficult family members, including narcissistic parents. How self-preservation and boundaries can lead to healing and healthier relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with a difficult family relationship, faced the possibility of estrangement, or want to better understand the psychology behind toxic family dynamics, this episode provides both professional guidance and heartfelt relatability. Estrangement is never easy, but understanding the dynamics at play can help bring clarity and healing. With the right tools and support, it’s possible to move forward and build a life that aligns with your well-being. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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108. Which Life Script Do You Want to Let Go of This Year? 36:50

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Send us a text Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2025, Gemma invites you to reflect on the life scripts and recurring patterns that no longer serve you and take intentional steps toward rewriting them. Life scripts are the unconscious stories and patterns that shape how we think, feel, and behave, often holding us back from living authentically and joyfully. By unpacking and letting go of these outdated narratives, we create space for personal growth, healthier relationships, and a life aligned with our true selves. In This Episode, Gemma Discusses: What Are Life Scripts? How they differ from schemas and influence our decisions and behaviors. Examples of common life scripts, such as people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt. The Connection Between Life Scripts and Schemas: How schemas like abandonment, defectiveness, and unrelenting standards often underpin these scripts. Three Common Life Scripts: People-Pleasing: "I need to make everyone happy to be loved." Perfectionism: "If I don’t do this perfectly, I’m not good enough." Self-Doubt: "I’m not capable or as good as others." How to Let Go of Limiting Life Scripts: Identify the Script: Recognize the recurring patterns or schemas that are holding you back. Visualize Change: Imagine life without the script—what would it look like? Create a Mantra: Use affirmations to focus your intention and remind yourself of your growth. Take Small Steps: Start with achievable actions, like setting a boundary or reframing a critical thought. Real-Life Examples: Gemma shares powerful success stories of clients who rewrote their scripts and transformed their lives. As we begin 2025, this episode is your invitation to reflect, reset, and take steps toward letting go of the old scripts holding you back. P.S. If you’re ready to go deeper and tackle your life scripts with focused 1:1 coaching, Gemma has limited spots available for new clients. Reach out at reception@goodmood.com.au to enquire. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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ENCORE + More: 73. Six Strategies for dealing with difficult relatives over the Holidays 51:22

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Send us a text Welcome to the final Episode for this year! We will be back with new episodes in 2025. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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107. The Guilt Game: Inside The Martyr Mode 32:56

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Send us a text In this episode of we dive deep into the "martyr mode," a coping style often discussed in schema therapy. We explore what it means to have a martyr complex or mode, how it shows up in relationships, and the emotional dynamics that fuel this behaviour. Key topics covered include: The defining traits of the martyr mode and how it may stem from deeper emotional wounds, unmet needs and emotional deprivation. The guilt-inducing and manipulative aspects of martyr behaviour, and its impact on relationships with children, partners, and others. How this mode can flip between seeking validation, playing the victim, and striving for indispensability. Insights into the covert ways martyrs seek emotional control and validation, often leaving others feeling resentful or guilty. Practical advice for recognizing and addressing martyr tendencies in yourself or dealing with someone exhibiting this behavior. Whether you're navigating a relationship with someone in this mode or noticing these patterns within yourself, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for creating healthier dynamics. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to FOLLOW the show and share it with others who might benefit from this discussion. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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106. Healthy Adult Daily Practice: An Intentional Reflection Tool 19:27

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Send us a text Healthy Adult Daily Practice: An Intentional Reflection Tool In this episode, Gemma introduces a practical tool called Healthy Adult Daily Practice , designed to help you strengthen and nurture your Healthy Adult mode. Building on the foundational features of the Healthy Adult mode discussed in the previous episode, this episode walks you through a simple, intentional practice that can be integrated into your daily life to promote emotional resilience, self-awareness, and healthier relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: What is the Healthy Adult Mode? A quick recap of its foundational characteristics: mindfulness, self-compassion, emotional regulation, and more. How embodying the Healthy Adult mode supports wiser, more compassionate decision-making and self-management. Healthy Adult Daily Practice Tool: Set Your Intention: Choose one Healthy Adult quality (e.g., patience, empathy, gratitude, self-care) to focus on for the day. Daily Embodiment: Actively embody this quality in your actions, thoughts, and interactions throughout the day. End-of-Day Reflection: Evaluate how you embodied this quality, reflect on challenges, and identify lessons learned for future growth. Why This Practice Works: The importance of intentionality and repetition in developing new neural pathways. How this practice builds emotional resilience and integrates Healthy Adult traits into your personality over time. By engaging with this tool, you'll build greater self-awareness, foster healthier relationships, and develop the emotional resilience to face life's challenges with confidence and clarity. Reflection Questions for Healthy Adult Daily Practice: What Healthy Adult quality will I focus on tomorrow? Why is this quality meaningful or important to me right now? How do I plan to incorporate this quality into my daily life? How did I embody this quality today? What challenges did I face in practicing this quality? How did this practice influence my interactions, decisions, or emotions? What did I le Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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105. 7 Essential Characteristics of the Healthy Adult Mode 51:20

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Send us a text In this episode, Gemma dives into the cornerstone of schema therapy: the Healthy Adult mode . This is the part of us that represents balance, wisdom, and compassion—our best self that helps us navigate relationships, emotions, and life’s challenges effectively. What You’ll Learn: Mindfulness: Why mindfulness is the foundational building block for self-awareness, self-reflection, and personal growth. The Healthy Adult as Executor: How this mode acts as the caretaker, director, and overseer of all other modes. The Wise and Courageous Self: The importance of facing reality, leaning into discomfort, and making wise, courageous decisions. The Compassionate Self: How to practice genuine compassion toward yourself and others without overextending or self-sacrificing. The Good Parent: Prioritizing meaningful self-care and addressing unhealthy coping strategies to nurture yourself like a loving parent would. Self-Awareness and Growth: Recognizing your schemas and embracing psychological awareness to create meaningful change. Flexibility and Openness: Developing an open, adaptable mindset to navigate life’s ups and downs without rigidity. Why This Episode Matters: Understanding and strengthening your Healthy Adult mode is central to breaking unhelpful patterns and living authentically. Gemma shares practical insights and strategies to help you embrace this transformative aspect of yourself. Resources Mentioned: Book recommendation: Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young. Previous episode: "You’re Not Your Diagnosis." Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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104: The Good, the Bad and the Bond: Understanding Trauma Bonding. 47:04

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Send us a text In this solo episode, Gemma dives deep into the concept of trauma bonding, shedding light on why some people feel emotionally tethered to unhealthy or toxic relationships. Drawing from listener questions she explores the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bonds, including the powerful dynamic of the "good-bad ratio" and how it can replicate patterns from childhood. Gemma also discusses how schemas—such as abandonment, mistrust/abuse, and defectiveness—can make individuals more vulnerable to trauma bonding and highlights the role of manipulative behaviors like love bombing, gaslighting, and boundary-pushing in these relationships. If you've ever wondered why it’s so hard to leave a toxic relationship or felt stuck in cycles of abuse, this episode is essential listening. Topics Covered: What is a Trauma Bond? How emotional connections form in abusive or toxic relationships. The Abuse Cycle: Key stages like love bombing, boundary-pushing, and manipulation that create and reinforce trauma bonds. The Role of Schemas: Why unresolved schemas, such as abandonment or mistrust/abuse, make it harder to leave. Breaking the Cycle: How understanding the "good-bad ratio" in relationships can help you regain clarity and self-worth. Red Flags to Watch For: Love bombing, arrogance, and other warning signs of toxic relationships. How to Heal: The importance of schema work, slowing down in relationships, and taking steps toward self-reflection and recovery. Additional Resources: If you’re ready to explore this further, check out Breaking Free From Love-Traps , a self-paced mini-course that unpacks why we’re drawn to certain partners and how to break free from unhealthy patterns. Visit The Red Flag Project for more details. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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103. A Deep Dive into the Self-Sacrifice Schema 39:24

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Send us a text This episode will resonate with anyone struggling with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility to others and those who feel “stuck” in cycles of overgiving. In this solo episode, Gemma dives deep into the self-sacrifice schema, exploring how it manifests, its origins in family dynamics, and the toll it takes on those who constantly prioritize others over themselves. This schema, often seen in people who struggle with setting boundaries, can lead to burnout, resentment, and a diminished sense of self-worth. Gemma delves into the drama triangle—the roles of victim, rescuer, and persecutor—and explains how these dynamics often shape and reinforce the self-sacrifice schema. Additionally, she examines the enmeshment schema, which often appears alongside self-sacrifice, further complicating one’s ability to differentiate personal needs from the needs of others. Topics covered include: Defining the Self-Sacrifice Schema: How it drives people to prioritize others’ needs over their own, even to their detriment. Origins of the Schema: Common family dynamics that foster self-sacrifice, such as growing up with an over-entitled or narcissistic parent, or being cast into the rescuer role in the drama triangle. The Schema's Impact on Relationships: Why those with a strong self-sacrifice schema often attract self-absorbed partners and struggle to set boundaries. Enmeshment and Self-Sacrifice: How enmeshment can fuel self-sacrifice by creating a sense of responsibility for others’ emotions and well-being. Schemas and Coping Styles: Different coping modes, including surrendering to, avoiding, or overcompensating for the schema. The Role of Guilt and Empathic Distress: How these emotions fuel self-sacrifice behaviors and make it difficult to prioritize self-care. Practical Exercises: Techniques like chair work to identify core beliefs tied to self-sacrifice and to build a healthier relationship with oneself. Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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ENCORE. Dating with an abandonment schema: Coping with triggers 41:11

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102. Dating Without Fear: 8 Common Anxieties and How to Overcome Them 35:24

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Send us a text New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Spots are limited. Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize unavailable partners. It’s recommended to take the course before joining the coaching program to get the most out of the sessions. Access it here. Special limited time discount code: HERBESTLIFE Get the FREE GUIDE - Dating with an abandonment schema In this episode, Gemma explores the emotional and psychological barriers that often arise when dating. Whether you’re re-entering the dating scene or currently navigating it, this episode will help you identify and manage common sources of anxiety. Topics discussed: Fear of rejection or judgment Pressure to make a good impression Attachment styles and schemas Overthinking and self-criticism Fear of repeating past patterns Cultural and societal expectations Uncertainty of the unknown Physical and mental effects of anxiety Throughout the episode, Gemma offers mindset shifts and practical tips to help you feel more calm, confident, and authentic in your dating journey. How to Connect for relationship & dating content: Website : The Red Flag Project Email : JustineandGemma@goodmood.com.au Instagram : theredflagprojectofficial Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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Exciting Opportunity for Women: Ready for a Fresh Approach to Dating? 4:35

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Send us a text Exciting Announcement - Join Our New Group Coaching Program Exciting News: Join Our New Group Coaching Program for Women – Date Differently - Secure your place now - SIGN UP BY 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Come and join us live for six 90-min group sessions designed to revamp your approach to dating and get you feeling hopeful & confident again! Plus added bonuses. Summary - Introducing our new 6-week online group coaching program for women called Date Differently . If you're navigating the complexities of dating, struggling with emotionally unavailable partners, or feeling triggered by past patterns, this supportive group coaching experience is designed for you. The Date Differently program will draw from material in our signature course, The Red Flag Project , which has recently been revamped with new content. This course, hosted on wearebesties.com, covers essential topics like schemas, red flags, and how to avoid emotionally unavailable partners. For anyone joining the Date Differently program, we highly recommends completing the course beforehand (or alongside the group coaching) to get the most out of the sessions. Key Takeaways: Date Differently is a 6-week program starting 6th November, created to help women navigate the dating world with more confidence and self-trust. The group sessions will focus on schemas that affect relationship choices, identifying red flags, and making healthier decisions when dating. The Red Flag Project course is an essential companion to the coaching program, providing deeper insights into emotional unavailability and dating patterns. How to Join: Date Differently - Group Coaching Program: For more information or to sign up for Date Differently. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE! The Red Flag Project Course : Access the newly revamped course on wearebesties.com/courses . A special discount code is available for a limited time (coupon is HERBESTLIFE). Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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Send us a text Special Announcements: New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize unavailable partners. It’s recommended to take the course before joining the coaching program to get the most out of the sessions. Access it here. Special limited time discount code: HERBESTLIFE How to Connect for relationship & dating content: Website : The Red Flag Project Email : JustineandGemma@goodmood.com.au Instagram : theredflagprojectofficial Summary: In this episode, Gemma and Justine explore how the Abandonment Schema impacts dating and relationships. They discuss the core beliefs tied to this schema, such as the fear of being left or replaced, and how it can cause anxiety and insecurity even in the early stages of dating. They dive into how the schema is often triggered by ambiguity in communication, delayed responses, or inconsistent behavior from partners, and how these triggers can lead to overthinking and self-doubt. They also share practical tips for dating more mindfully with an Abandonment Schema, including identifying red flags early, managing emotional triggers, and setting healthy boundaries to avoid staying in unfulfilling relationships for too long. Key Takeaways: The Abandonment Schema can make dating feel unstable and trigger fears of rejection or being left behind, even when it's not warranted. It’s essential to recognize early signs of emotional unavailability and avoid getting stuck in relationships that reinforce old patterns. Learn to manage triggers and address abandonment fears through self-awareness, setting boundaries, Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Webinar for therapists: Therapeutic Strategies for Clients with Narcissistic Parents. Be quick - early bird END midnight 8th March Syd, Aus time. 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Red Flag Project theredflagproject.com Instagram Facebook Email: hello@theredflagproject.com https://linktr.ee/theredflagproject Resources for women to break free from negative relationship patterns and avoid red-flag relationships.…

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