The Hidden Patterns that Keep You Stuck

The Dr. Shyamala Show

You know that moment…the conversation ends, and a wave of shame hits your chest.

You replay what you said. How your voice sharpened. How you shut down, gave in, or lashed out.

And then the thought comes: “I thought I was past this.”

Not because you haven’t done enough. But because it’s confusing when insight doesn’t translate into change.

This week on the podcast, I’m taking you into the real reason you’re still reacting in ways that don’t feel aligned — even though you’re self-aware.

These aren’t character flaws. They’re protective strategies — coded into your nervous system long ago.

They once helped you survive. Now? They’re keeping you stuck.

Inside this episode, I walk you through:

• Why emotional reactivity is not a mindset problem — and what it actually signals

• The 3 hidden protective patterns women default to when emotions run high

• Subtle signs you’re stuck in the reactive, avoidant, or appeasement pattern (even if you look calm on the outside)

• What creates real change — beyond mindset, journaling, or communication techniques

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This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about reclaiming your agency over how you show up in the moments that matter most.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your own reactions — especially when you thought you’d moved beyond them — this episode is a must-listen.

With grounded clarity, Dr. Shyam XO

P.S. If you recognize yourself in those patterns, that’s not a problem — it’s a portal.

This is the exact work we do inside The Emotional Reset: identifying what’s no longer serving you and rewiring it from the inside out. Reach out if you're feeling the pull.

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