EP 248: The 4 Types of Body Image ~ How to Heal from Negative Ideals & Appreciate Your Body in Recovery

Her Best Self: Freedom from Disordered Eating, Body Obsession & Perfectionism

Girlfriend, if you're tired of the never-ending cycle of body checking, comparing yourself to everyone around you, and feeling trapped in a body you don't recognize, this episode is for you. Host Lindsey Nichol breaks down the 4 categories of body image according to the National Eating Disorder Collaboration and walks you through practical exercises to challenge the negative body ideals that are keeping you stuck.

In This Episode, You'll Discover:

The 4 Categories of Body Image:

1. Perceptual - The way you SEE your body
2. Affective - The way you FEEL about your body (shape, weight, emotions)
3. Cognitive - The way you THINK about your body
4. Behavioral - How you REACT and engage based on the first three

Plus, You'll Learn:

• How to identify where your "body ideal" came from (and why it might not be real)
• The truth about social media comparison and "comparisonitis"
• Why achieving your ideal body still won't make you feel "enough"
• How conditioning from a young age programmed false beliefs about your body
• The difference between focusing on being skinny vs. focusing on strength and health
• Practical ways to shift from body dissatisfaction to body appreciation

Key Takeaways:

✨ You are NOT your body - Your body is a vessel, not your identity
✨ Body ideals are conditioned, not truth - Society programmed you to believe skinny is good and fat is bad
✨ Your true beauty is who you are WITHOUT restrictive behaviors
✨ Choice is your superpower - You can choose appreciation right now, today
✨ You can change the way you see, feel, and think about your body - And that changes everything

Powerful Exercises to Try Today: 1. The Body Ideal Inventory

Write out every detail of your "perfect body." Then ask yourself:

• Where did this image come from?
• Is there a specific person (celebrity, friend, family member) that comes to mind?
• Has social media contributed to this ideal?
• Would I care about this if I lived alone on an island with no one to compare myself to?

2. The Appreciation Practice

Today, look at someone in your life without judging or comparing their body to yours. Find ONE thing you can admire or appreciate about their body. Then reflect on what this reveals about your own body ideals.

3. The Mirror Challenge

Look at yourself face-to-face in the mirror and say OUT LOUD: "I am willing to do the hard things. I am willing to make changes in my life. I may not be seeing what is real and true because of false distortion, but I can choose right now to appreciate, respect, and care for me regardless."

4. The Reframe Exercise

Choose one body part you criticize. Now reframe it - what can you appreciate about this part? Just like you appreciated something about someone else, extend that same grace to yourself.

5. The Shift from Skinny to Strong

Instead of idolizing being skinny, focus on STRENGTH. Instead of weighing less, focus on HEALTH. What would change in your life if you made this shift?

Questions to Journal On:

• What would my ideal body be if I had no one to compare myself to?
• Would I be restricting food if I lived on an island alone?
• At what point in my life did someone make me feel "less than" about my body?
• What if this belief I've held for so long isn't even true - just a programmed distortion?
• What do I want to be KNOWN for beyond my appearance?
• Who am I outside of my body?
• What can I appreciate about myself RIGHT NOW?

Powerful Quotes from This Episode:

• "You are not your body. Your body is a vessel."
• "Comparisonitis is real and it's poison to your being"
• "Your true beauty is who you are without restrictive behaviors"
• "You can be 80 pounds or 400 pounds and you're still YOU"
• "What if this belief in your heart that you've been believing for so long is not even true?"
• "Do you not know that your body is a temple? You were bought at a price. Honor your body to honor your creator." - 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Who This Episode Is For:

This episode is for you if you're:

• Tired of the never-ending cycle of disordered eating
• Sick of restricting some days and eating other days
• Done with the shame game and feeling "not good enough"
• Exhausted from hating your body while simultaneously punishing it
• Ready to stop comparing your body to everyone around you
• Wanting to feel happy, confident, and empowered in your skin
• Wondering if body acceptance is even possible after years of struggle

Scripture Reference:

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 - "Do you not know that your body is a temple? You are not your own. You were bought at a price. Honor your body to honor your creator."

Resources & Next Steps:

Join the Community: Connect with other women on the recovery journey in Lindsey's private Facebook community - www.herbsestselfsociety.com !

Work with Lindsey: Ready for one-on-one support? Lindsey offers personalized recovery coaching. Visit www.herbestself.co/services to book a complimentary consultation and see if coaching is the right fit for you.

Take Action: Grab your journal, do the exercises from this episode, and share your insights in the Her Best Self Facebook community. Recovery isn't meant to be done alone, girlfriend!

Connect with Lindsey

• Website: www.herbestself.co
• Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com
• 1:1 Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms

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About the Host

Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom.

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*While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder