The Toxic Truth About Being Selfless

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QUALIFIED: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work with Shari Dunn | 284 33:58

منذ 7 أيام33:58

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

منذ عام واحد 13:49

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Hilary explains how the pressure to be selfless erodes self-worth, breeds resentment, and creates hollow, transactional relationships. She challenges the narrative that sacrificing yourself for others is noble, exposing how it leads to emotional burnout and a lifetime of feeling undervalued. Instead, Hilary offers a liberating alternative: prioritize yourself unapologetically. Because when you treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve, you teach others to do the same.

Episode Highlights:

Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful.
How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do.
The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued.
Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference.
Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer.
The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life.

Episode Breakdown:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:53] Meet Hillary Silver

[01:57] The Myth of Selflessness

[02:28] The Big Lie

[04:15] Consequences of Selflessness

[05:57] The Void and Compulsion to Give

[06:33] Resentment and Transactional Relationships

[07:05] Self-Serving Giving

[08:40] Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness

[09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First

[12:54] Conclusion

Stop putting yourself last—it’s time to take the lead. 💅 Grab Hilary’s free mini video training, "This Changes Everything" and start making yourself the priority you’ve always deserved to be: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

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#Fitness #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Hilary Silver

The Hilary Silver Podcast

The Toxic Truth About Being Selfless

The Hilary Silver Podcast

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Episode Highlights:

Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful.
How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do.
The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued.
Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference.
Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer.
The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life.

Episode Breakdown:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:53] Meet Hillary Silver

[01:57] The Myth of Selflessness

[02:28] The Big Lie

[04:15] Consequences of Selflessness

[05:57] The Void and Compulsion to Give

[06:33] Resentment and Transactional Relationships

[07:05] Self-Serving Giving

[08:40] Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness

[09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First

[12:54] Conclusion

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منذ 5 أيام13:25

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منذ 7 أيام10:22

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منذ 9 أيام18:13

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منذ 12 يومًا13:38

13:38

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منذ 19 يومًا12:20

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منذ 26 يومًا17:11

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منذ 5 weeks15:03

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منذ 6 weeks15:40

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Don't Give Up When You Mess Up 16:51

منذ 7 weeks16:51

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How Letting Go Is the Ultimate Power Move 13:44

منذ 8 weeks13:44

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منذ 8 weeks8:26

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The Toxic Truth About Being Selfless 13:49

منذ 8 weeks13:49

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We’ve been told that putting others first is the hallmark of a good person, but what if that’s a big, fat lie? In this episode, Hilary Silver tackles the myth of selflessness head-on, revealing how this deeply ingrained belief isn’t just harmful—it’s downright toxic. Drawing on her decades of experience as a psychotherapist and lifestyle mentor, Hilary introduces the third core concept of her self-centered model: "In your life, you come first and you go first." Hilary explains how the pressure to be selfless erodes self-worth, breeds resentment, and creates hollow, transactional relationships. She challenges the narrative that sacrificing yourself for others is noble, exposing how it leads to emotional burnout and a lifetime of feeling undervalued. Instead, Hilary offers a liberating alternative: prioritize yourself unapologetically. Because when you treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve, you teach others to do the same. Episode Highlights: Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful. How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do. The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued. Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference. Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer. The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [00:53] Meet Hillary Silver [01:57] The Myth of Selflessness [02:28] The Big Lie [04:15] Consequences of Selflessness [05:57] The Void and Compulsion to Give [06:33] Resentment and Transactional Relationships [07:05] Self-Serving Giving [08:40] Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness [09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First [12:54] Conclusion Stop putting yourself last—it’s time to take the lead. 💅 Grab Hilary’s free mini video training, "This Changes Everything" and start making yourself the priority you’ve always deserved to be: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/…

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Believing This Lie Leads To A Life Of Regret 9:38

منذ 8 weeks9:38

9:38

Ever been told, “The world doesn’t revolve around you”? Yeah, same. Hillary is here to call BS on that tired cliché. In this episode, she’s rewriting the narrative and proving why your world absolutely should and DOES revolve around you For too long, we’ve been guilted into thinking that putting ourselves first is wrong, especially women. Hillary is showing you why being the sun in your own universe is the only way to thrive. When you focus on your energy, your mindset, and your desires, every part of your life—relationships, career, health—levels up. If you’re sick of playing small, living on autopilot, or settling for whatever life throws your way, this is your permission slip to flip the script. Hillary’s breaking down how to stop people-pleasing, start thinking about yourself (a lot), and live a life that’s unapologetically yours. Episode Highlights: Why “the world doesn’t revolve around you” is the real selfish statement. How to reclaim your title as the star of your personal universe. Why self-reflection is the ultimate power move. Living on autopilot? Here’s why it’s killing your vibe. The ripple effect: How leveling up one part of your life elevates everything. Hillary’s personal mic-drop moment that changed her life. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:57] Core Concept: Your World Revolves Around You [02:29] The Impact of Your Energy on Your Life Areas [04:37] Spend More Time Thinking About Yourself [05:30] Knowing Yourself to Make Aligned Choices [07:06] Elevating One Area Elevates All Areas [08:08] The Power of Self-Realization [08:29] The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth [09:22] Conclusion Ready to Make Yourself the Priority? 💡 Get Started Today and Head to hilarysilver.com/guides for free resources, including Hillary’s mini video training This Changes Everything and her 90-day Daily Journal—designed to help you own your life unapologetically. Your world, your rules. Now, go claim your crown. 👑…

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منذ 8 weeks10:40

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If you’ve ever wished you could cut through the noise of self-help fluff and get straight to the good stuff, buckle up. Hilary is about to deliver 25 years’ worth of raw, unfiltered, no-BS therapy advice—distilled into just 12 minutes. Best believe she’s not here to hand you more surface-level band-aids for your problems. Hilary’s seen it all. After tens of thousands of hours spent in one-on-one sessions with clients, she’s got the receipts on what works and what doesn’t. In this episode, she calls out the big lie of self-help: most advice out there is just symptom management. Meditate your anxiety away? Sure, that’s cute—for a minute. But unless you tackle the root cause, it’s like playing whack-a-mole with your problems. The truth is, you are both the problem and the solution. And while that truth might sting, it’s also your golden ticket to real change. Hilary’s “self-centered” model shows you how to stop blaming the world and start owning your life. She’ll guide you through identifying the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free once and for all. Episode Highlights: Why most advice is just symptom management and how it keeps you stuck. The real problem: Hint—it’s you (and that’s great news). Hilary’s “self-centered” model and why it changes everything. How to spot and break free from limiting beliefs and recurring patterns that keep you stuck. Why taking ownership of your life is the ultimate game-changer. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Welcome and Introduction [02:30] The Five Self-Centered Core Concepts [03:01] The Real Problem vs. Temporary Solutions [03:56] Root Cause and Recurring Patterns [04:27] YOU Are the Problem [05:20] Self-betrayal and Trusting Yourself [07:17] Stop Blaming Others! [07:28] Ownership, Responsibility, and Mindset Shift [08:10] Ultimate Power [09:35] Empowerment, Liberation, and the Magic Pill Ready to Transform Your Life? Don’t just listen—take action. Watch this episode to start making powerful changes today. And if you’re ready to go deeper, sign up for Hilary’s free video training, This Changes Everything: http://hilarysilver.com/guides. Your best life starts here. Don’t wait.…

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How I Quit Being Self Disciplined & Got Super Fit 10:15

منذ 9 weeks10:15

10:15

Think self-discipline is the key to success? Think again. Drawing from her own transformation, Hilary explains why self-discipline is the anti-hero of personal growth—restrictive, harsh, and downright unsustainable. Instead of relying on rigid rules and unrealistic expectations, Hillary introduces the concept of self-devotion—a compassionate, loving, and sustainable approach to achieving your goals. Think of self-devotion as the unwavering commitment you’d expect from a devoted partner but turned inward. When you show up for yourself out of love, not obligation, everything shifts. Whether you’re looking to crush your resolutions, build a thriving business, or create a healthier lifestyle and body, Hillary’s approach to self-devotion is the game-changer you’ve been waiting for. Episode Highlights: Why self-discipline is more harmful than helpful. The life-changing shift from self-discipline to self-devotion. How self-devotion turns goals into meaningful, joyful experiences. Practical examples of embracing self-devotion in everyday life. Real talk on why loving yourself is the most effective strategy you’ll ever use. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Self-Discipline [01:40] The Downside of Self-Discipline [02:12] The Cycle of Self-Criticism [03:38] The High Cost of Self-Discipline [04:09] The Dysfunctional Relationship with Ourselves [05:03] The Most Important Relationship: With Yourself [05:44] The Shift from Self-Discipline to Self-Devotion [06:15] What is Self-Devotion? [06:47] Applying Devotion to Yourself [07:39] Discipline vs. Devotion [08:54] The Logic of Self-Importance [09:25] The Ease of Following Through with Devotion [09:47] New Year, New Me: A Devoted Approach Take Action! Break up with self-discipline and step into the new year with a mindset that truly supports your growth and happiness. Love yourself enough to follow through—not because you have to, but because you want to. 👉 Ready for more? Hit play now and start transforming the way you achieve your goals!…

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