Episode 54 - Two Thought Experiments and Initial Meanderings about Conflict Resolution

The Hopeful Humanist Cafe

Conflict is inevitable. As the saying goes, "Conflict is not the problem ... the problem is how we approach and solve the conflict." In this episode, by inviting you the listener to participate in two thought experiments, I hope to raise thoughts about what the conflict resolution landscape might look like. Additionally, below I have included three videos from William Ury, who co-authored the book, "Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In" with Roger Fisher.

Show Case Resources:

1) Click this link to listen for free the full audio version of "Getting to Yes," by Roger Fisher and William Ury - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQz-psxGeC8

2) Sometimes when we are having a conflict, we have to take a step back or go to what William Ury calls the "balcony." It will give us perspective, which according to the VIA Strengths Inventory is a strength that can bestow wisdom. Interested in learning more about the "balcony," click this YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-c-SUdBoD6M

3) When we are stuck in our positions unable to stimulate those creative juices, sometimes we need help from the "Third Side." Reaching out for help is definitely an option. In this video, William Ury gives a number of examples about the benefits of inviting a "Third Side" into our discussions. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hc6yi_FtoNo

4) In this last YouTube video, William Ury emphasizes the importance of listening to solving conflict. He has suggested that perhaps we collectively need to usher in a "Listening Revolution." Listen here to see what you think: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=saXfavo1OQo

Thank-you for joining me for this "seed discussion" about conflict and conflict resolution. The conversation has so many more parts. For instance, we should define what conflict is and explore a particular model about the conflict resolution process (i.e. what steps should one take to resolve a conflict?). As always, the conversation is on-going and continuous. Until our next blithering moment ...

Peace, take care, be well and share!!!