المحتوى المقدم من Trisha Lewis. يتم تحميل جميع محتويات البودكاست بما في ذلك الحلقات والرسومات وأوصاف البودكاست وتقديمها مباشرة بواسطة Trisha Lewis أو شريك منصة البودكاست الخاص بهم. إذا كنت تعتقد أن شخصًا ما يستخدم عملك المحمي بحقوق الطبع والنشر دون إذنك، فيمكنك اتباع العملية الموضحة هنا https://ar.player.fm/legal.
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At the dawn of the social media era, Belle Gibson became a pioneering wellness influencer - telling the world how she beat cancer with an alternative diet. Her bestselling cookbook and online app provided her success, respect, and a connection to the cancer-battling influencer she admired the most. But a curious journalist with a sick wife began asking questions that even those closest to Belle began to wonder. Was the online star faking her cancer and fooling the world? Kaitlyn Dever stars in the Netflix hit series Apple Cider Vinegar . Inspired by true events, the dramatized story follows Belle’s journey from self-styled wellness thought leader to disgraced con artist. It also explores themes of hope and acceptance - and how far we’ll go to maintain it. In this episode of You Can't Make This Up, host Rebecca Lavoie interviews executive producer Samantha Strauss. SPOILER ALERT! If you haven't watched Apple Cider Vinegar yet, make sure to add it to your watch-list before listening on. Listen to more from Netflix Podcasts .…
المحتوى المقدم من Trisha Lewis. يتم تحميل جميع محتويات البودكاست بما في ذلك الحلقات والرسومات وأوصاف البودكاست وتقديمها مباشرة بواسطة Trisha Lewis أو شريك منصة البودكاست الخاص بهم. إذا كنت تعتقد أن شخصًا ما يستخدم عملك المحمي بحقوق الطبع والنشر دون إذنك، فيمكنك اتباع العملية الموضحة هنا https://ar.player.fm/legal.
Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small. Hosted by Trisha Lewis, this series dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty. No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
المحتوى المقدم من Trisha Lewis. يتم تحميل جميع محتويات البودكاست بما في ذلك الحلقات والرسومات وأوصاف البودكاست وتقديمها مباشرة بواسطة Trisha Lewis أو شريك منصة البودكاست الخاص بهم. إذا كنت تعتقد أن شخصًا ما يستخدم عملك المحمي بحقوق الطبع والنشر دون إذنك، فيمكنك اتباع العملية الموضحة هنا https://ar.player.fm/legal.
Welcome to Self Belief Unsquashed, the podcast that takes you on a liberating journey to bring your whole self to the surface. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert—let’s face it, you’re human—this is your space to untangle the messy knots of self-doubt and squash the myths that keep you small. Hosted by Trisha Lewis, this series dives headfirst into the everyday barriers that hold us back: the sneaky grip of comparisonitis, the weight of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection, and the baggage of past experiences. With warmth, wit, and wisdom drawn from her own journey, Trisha offers bite-sized episodes filled with thought-provoking reframes, actionable challenges, and raw honesty. No fluff, no filters—just real talk about what it takes to show up as your true self and feel good about it. Ready to bash down the barriers and build unstoppable self-belief? Tune in and let’s get unsquashed.
In these stressful times, we often forget the simplest antidote to our troubles – laughter. In this episode we explore the profound effects laughter can have on our mental and physical health, presenting historical anecdotes and scientific research to validate these claims. And it all starts with laughter - listen! Discover how a practice as old as time can relieve stress, boost your immune system, and enhance the quality of your relationships. A sprinkle of humor a day may indeed keep the doctor away. Learn how laughter can effectively elevate your mood and improve resilience against life's challenges. Explore practical ways to incorporate more laughter into your everyday life, whether it's through comedy, joyful experiences with friends, or even laughter yoga. Embrace the contagious nature of joy and make a conscious effort to bring more laughter into your world – for your wellbeing, and the wellbeing of those around you. REFERENCES for further exploring Dr. Robert Provine – Laughter: A Scientific Investigation Dr. Lee Berk – Loma Linda University Studies on Laughter Norman Cousins – Anatomy of an Illness My 'laughter makers' Nick Abbot Show - LBC radio The Rest is History Podcast Joyce Grenfell and Norman Wisdom - Narcissus The Laughing Policeman…
In this episode, I explore the concept of biorhythms and how they impact our daily fluctuations in energy and mood - something we all experience. What is the connection between your body and mind? With insights from "How Emotions Are Made" by Lisa Feldman Barrett, I highlight the importance of treating low moments as temporary - observe and understand your body's signals. Through personal anecdotes, such as experiences at the climbing wall, I illustrate how sudden mood changes can be seen as part of our natural ebb and flow, rather than a crisis. I advise against making rash decisions during these "off" days and remind you to be nice to yourself! Stay curious and embrace those unique rhythms. Emotions can often be just noise needing patience and observation. Whether it's the weather, sleep, or subtle stressors, recognizing and navigating these elements can lead to a more balanced and less reactive approach to life's challenges. Based on personal experience - of course! I'm human. (The quote about butterflies is attributed to a number of people! Lisa Feldman Barrett mentions her daughter's karate teacher using it... and it might be orignally from Rob Gilbert - motivational speaker. Not sure! It's a good image though.) “It's all right to have butterflies in your stomach. Just get them to fly in formation” (Video version over on YouTube)…
In this episode, I delve into the widely accepted notion that staying in your comfort zone can be akin to stagnation or even a proverbial "graveyard" for dreams and ideas. But is it necessary to always step out of one's comfort zone to grow, or is there value in staying cozy and enjoying the comfort it offers? Join me as I explore personal stories of embracing challenges and rediscovering passions, alongside insights and theories from Gay Hendricks’ book "The Big Leap." We'll evaluate the concept of an "upper limit" and the idea of self-sabotage, questioning if pushing beyond what we know is truly the path to success. Reflect on your own comfort zones and examine whether staying within them is holding you back or keeping you content and happy. Video on YouTube - Self Belief Unsquashed Channel More about 'Self Squashing' - trishalewis.com (Link to book and TEDx)…
In this episode of "Self-Belief Unsquashed," Trisha Lewis encourages listeners to explore shifts in perspective that can lead to profound self-discovery. Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful reflections, Trisha highlights the transformative power of viewing ourselves through different lenses. She shares a heartwarming story of reconnecting with an old friend and how it provided surprising insights into her own identity, challenging long-held beliefs about herself. This episode invites you to break free from stagnant thinking patterns and embrace new perspectives, whether from longstanding relationships or fresh connections. By staying curious, open-minded, and receptive to the viewpoints of others, you unlock the potential for personal growth and self-awareness. Join Trisha in her mission to unsquash self-belief and experience a broader understanding of who you are.…
Join me for an inspiring episode of Self-Belief Unsquashed as we kick off 2025 with the exciting Green Eggs and Ham Challenge. Inspired by Dr. Seuss, this episode encourages listeners to conquer one fear this year by trying something new and outside their comfort zone. Discover how taking small steps can lead to significant personal growth and unexpected joy. Listen to personal stories of overcoming challenges and finding new passions, like climbing and forming meaningful friendships, reminding us that great experiences often arise from the unknown. This year, embrace curiosity and courage, and see where the Green Eggs and Ham Challenge can take you.…
Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed by your emotions? Do you feel like a softie when you well up in the middle of a work meeting or social event for seemingly small reasons? Do you suppress or release your crying? Let's put 'crying' on the forensics table. Not just any old crying - 'emotional crying'. A little look at the science of crying and a real story to illustrate the potential embarrassment (and learning opportunities) of unbid and out of proportion 'emotional crying'. Those waves of feeling that hit you without warning and quickly flood you - if you let them. Is there a way to stop the tears? Do you need to? Are you being over-reactive or simply human? This is not a sad listen. This is about building a better relationship with your emotions. Real stories, some brain/body stuff, and practical tips to try. ******* Research for further investigation: How Stuff Works - How Crying Works. The Relationship of Gender Roles and Beliefs to Crying in an International Sample. More 'Unsquashing' resources and links - go to my website. Follow me on Medium for all sorts of 'human' stories around the topic of 'self-squashing'.…
This episode explores the complexities of imposter syndrome, a feeling of inadequacy despite evidence of success. We delve into the idea that instead of viewing imposter syndrome as solely a negative experience, you can reframe it as a catalyst for growth and learning. Could the feeling act as a motivator to push past comfort zones, embrace vulnerability, and acquire new knowledge. We consider the importance of self-awareness, a growth mindset, and finding supportive communities to overcome the debilitating aspects of imposter syndrome and harness its potential for positive change. REFERENCES The first quote is from: The importance of stupidity in scientific research - Martin A. Schwartz Books: Mindset - Carol Dweck Think Again - Adam Grant Dunning-Kruger Effect TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy Book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self Coaching and more on 'unsquashing' - my website.…
Ever been at a social event on your own and with loads of strangers - wedding, awards ceremony, business networking - and felt suffocated by self-consciousness - the kind that leaves you mute and convinced that everyone is looking at the way you hold your knife and fork - that sort of thing? I have! This episode explores the symptoms, drivers and then offers some very good tips to stop the torture! References: You Learn by Living - by Eleanor Roosevelt Letters to a Young Artist - by Anna Deavere Smith The Spotlight Effect More on 'Self Squashing' - TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy Book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self Resources and links at trishalewis.com…
That self generated feeling of being an outsider when with a group of people - familiar? New word - 'self-outsidering'. What are the symptons and drivers of this unhelpful self-squashing feeling - and what reframes and actions might help. The 'self' part of this is the key! You are doing it to yourself. Something has triggered this 'outsider' feeling - what might it be? What are the FIBs that are holding you back - fears, illusions and baggage. Your host shares a couple of personal anecdotes - briefly - that might resonate ... or surprise! REFERENCES Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman How Emotions are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett ********* More on 'unsquashing' - have a look at my website . The Mystery of the Squashed Self - Self-help book with a difference! Beware the self squashing prophecy - TEDx…
You want to stand out with more confident, heart-led copy and content. You want to delve into your creative mindset - but a host of fears, illusions and bits of baggage - hold you back. My guest Bee Higgins gets it! She feels it herself and she has tons of experience and expertise in creative writing. Bee is a messaging mentor who doesn't offer top tip templates for writing success - she offers insights and practical ideas on putting more of your own personality into your writing without getting squashed by comparisonitis and generic advice. Just listening to her gentle wisdom will inspire you! If you want to connect more with Bee - LinkedIn Instagram More about 'unsquashing'? Head to my website - links to my book, TEDx and other resources.…
This episode explores the tension between wanting to make and impact and wanting to conform to the norm. Is it possible to do both? What are the symptoms of too much blending in or even too much standing out - when you are not coming from a place of 'you-ness'? As always we look at the symptoms, drivers and then possible solutions to try out. As always I refer to a book or two and some areas that you might want to explore more - if you like a good rabbit hole like me. References for this episode: Book - A Fraction of the Whole by Stand Toltz Book - A Life of One's Own by Marion Milner Theories: Impression Management Social Identity I also refer to my book and TEDx talk Book: The Mystery of the Squashed Self TEDx: Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy More resources at www.trishalewis.com…
Do you have a recurring flush of embarrasement or even shame well after you have done something stupid? Do you dwell on the stuff you messed up on? Do you worry too much about what people think about you? Welcome to another episode that explores the human stuff - the stuff that can sometimes hold you back and stop your JIG - joy, impact and growth! The potential to self-sabotage is in us all - and dwelling on the things that didn't go so well or maybe just felt like a way bigger issue than it actually was.. well that could have you falling down the self-squashing, self-doubt spiral! We look at the symptoms, drivers and then reframe actions. Quotes from a great book - Chatter - Ethan Kross - https://amzn.eu/d/2G7fpZX More on Self-Squashing on my website https://www.trishalewis.com/ where you will find links to the TEDx talk and my book - all exploring this variant of Imposter Syndrome - Self-Squashing.…
Time to explore a very human fear - fear of rejection. Can you really protect yourself from being disliked? What are the symptoms of this fear? What drives this fear? Time to name and reframe - and make sure this classic 'self-squasher' isn't holding you back. Inspired by this book: The Courage to be Disliked - by Ichiro Kishimi and FUmitake Koga Also referenced: The Presentation of Self in Every Day Life - Erving Goffman Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Jo Dispenza Research - ' The Liking Gap' - Erica Boothby and colleagues 2018. My book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self My TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy Links and more - trishalewis.com…
Do you give yourself enough credit? My guest Ben Franklin shares his experience from the very start of his journey - and as he puts it - the setbacks and growth moments will be part of your journey at every point - wherever you enter, whatever your background or age. We explore the importance of taking risks, gaining practical experience, and overcoming setbacks and self-doubt. Ben gives examples of recognising the value of personal experience and skills. We also touch on the challenges of comparing ourselves to others on social media, impostor syndrome triggers and handling negative feedback. We share our personal experiences and insights on how to build resilience with a focus on embracing differences and focusing on personal growth whilst taking inspiration from others. Connect with Ben Franklin - LinkedIn Listen to his podcast 'Ground Zero' on most podcast platforms. Also on YouTube here. In this episode we refer to a community we are both involved with - ' You are the Media' - more details here. Transcript PDF on my website trishalewis.com Video of this episode on my YouTube Channel.…
How come you blindly accept 'expert' opinion and even default thinking about yourself! Common sense ideas and public opinion can be too readily accepted by us all. Time for some healthy skepticism - time to get curious and examine! Who better to help us with this process than the philosoper Socrates? Whilst he might be long gone - his ideas remain as relevant as ever. There is a method of examining known as 'the Socratic Method of Thinking' - and it is clearly laid out in the book I reference - 'The Consolations of Philosophy' by Alain de Botton. You will be taken through the 6 steps of this method - with an everday example. You can then place any example of an 'unquestioned truth' into the 'curiosity' machine - and see what comes out! Video of episodes are available on my YouTube channel More resources on 'self-belief unsquashing' to be found at trishalewis.com…
Next time you fall into a self-doubt spiral full of negative self-talk getting you nowhere - try this! Use the 'principled negotiation' technique espoused by Fisher and Ury (expert negotiators) - to negotiate with your emotions and inner chat! In this episode I explore two of the ingredients of 'principled negotiation' - Separate the people from the problem - and - Focus on interests not positions - and flip them to a negotiation with your own thoughts/emotions/assumptions and baggage! Practical tool - we explore when, why and how to use this technique - on your self! I wrap up with some powerful quotes from two classic books I've had on my shelf since uni days - referenced below. Pull yourself up before you fall down the self doubt spiral and achieve - nothing! PDF transcript on the episode page at trishalewis.com REFERENCES in this episode: Getting to Yes - Roger Fisher and William Ury Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman Borkovec - research on 'worry' Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
Why do humans struggle with doing nothing on their own! Busy doing nothing - not as meaningless as it sounds. Here's how to get good at being bored and alone - a total reframe that will have you feeling meaningful. References: Research - Timothy Wilson 'How Much do we not like being bored.' Sunday Neurosis theory - Sander Ferenczi Book - Flow - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi PDF transcript on my website - trishalewis.com YouTube - video of this episode…
Is your fear of being judged as cocky, arrogant or a 'know it all' holding you back from simply showing up with confidence? You are not alone! If you have ever been in the company of a 'cocky' type - you will have thought - 'I don't ever want to come across like that'. The fear is so real that you second guess anything that means you show confidence! Like sharing opinions, giving good presentations, sharing your achievements etc. In this podcast we explore the fear, the mis-associations and the mix that you need to build your confidence - without fear of being judged as cocky! I share a really useful graphic from the book 'How to be Confident' by James Smith - and a wonderful quote by Maria Popova (The Marginalian). We explore humility, competence and debunk some myths! You can view this on YouTube. More 'unsquashing' resources at trishalewis.com…
If you have ever burst out into tears, 'lost it' or gone into a mild form of panic attack - and regretted that public display of intense emotion - this is for you! If you are human - this is for you. In this episode I invite my imaginary guest (a new feature) - Daniel Goleman (author of Emotional Intelligence) - to share insights on a powerful part of our brain - the 'amygdala'. We also look at the part played by your 'triggers' - your very individual 'stuff' - including your learning style. As always - a story or two to illustrate, the forensics to better understand - and some action steps to try out. Nothing wrong with intense emotions - all part of our survival instincts - but... they sometimes kick off without a obvious reason ... and potentially creating awkward or 'squashing' after effects. I start this episode with a quote from a great little book called 'Anxiety is Really Strange' by Steve Haines There will be a video of this episode on my YouTube channel - and transcript available in the shownotes on my website.…
Are you falling into self-doubt spirals by beating yourself up when things don't go perfectly? You are human - it will happen. In this episode I explore the connection between self-esteem, self-doubt and this 'fighting with yourself' thing! You will go through some forensics with me - including unwrapping a real example to illustrate. It all starts with you doing a powerful visualisation involving a robot! I quote from the classic book on Self-esteem - The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. I also refer you to other episodes - especially this one: 155 - Manage your negative self talk with this mind trick. For more on 'unsquashing' your self belief - check out my TEDx talk 'The Self Squashing Prophecy' and my book 'The Mystery of the Squashed Self'. If you want to see this episode as a video - head over to my YouTube Channel.…
'Just be yourself' - what does that mean to you? This well meaning advice needs a closer look. In this episode you'll discover that personality is not a label or stone sculpture round our neck - we can become something we are not without being a con artist! We can adopt what Brian R Little calls - a 'free trait'. Intriqued? Listen to this short unsquasher episode to learn more - and gain insights into ways in which you can 'be yourself' a bit differently! The way you approach interviews, presentations, networking conversations and all sorts of situations - will be greatly enhanced by understanding more about your eminently mutable self! Health and happiness benefits too! Referenced in this episode: Book - Me, Myself and Us by Brian R Little Research - Self monitoring Scale - Mark Snyder (1979) See this article from 'The Cut' - where you will also find the scale itself. Video version of this episode. PDF transcript at trishalewis.com - podcast page. Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
When you are feeling a nervous mess before public speaking, interviews or any performance event where you fear messing up.... the friendly advice is 'calm down - breathe deep - visualise lovely things' etc! You tell yourself to 'calm down' as you see your hands trembling and feel your stomach full of butterflies.... but.... what if there was a better way to proceed that seems very counter-instinctive? This short unsquasher episode explores an alternative way. Inspired by reading a highly recommended book - 'Cringeworthy' by Melissa Dahl and some research refrenced by the author. Book and research links and transcript PDF in shownotes at https://trishalewis.com/ Video of this episode Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
As a human you are motivated to learn, develop and grow. But it can't just be about study and fancy qualifications surely. What are the basic feeders of personal growth or even business, hobby skills growth? Welcome to an episode full of those growth feeders. My guest Alan Braithwaite (see previous episode with Emily Braithwaite) - is co founder of 'Yellow Tuxedo' - helping businesess be visible online. But he and Emily have also built a brilliant community called 'Digital Circus' - helping smaller businesses by real practical tips and - so much more. That 'more' is the power of a team. The growth ingredient of working together - and we unwrap that in this conversation. Alan is a proud Scout leader - and you will be surprised by the learnings from this that are so relevant to us all as growing humans! As Alan says: "It's about fun, safety and adventure. And all of a sudden, you're an adult with all of these skills that you don't really remember learning then they just built into you." From a Top Gun Maverick mantra to Scouting stories to very real observations about community, fun, motivation - squashing and unsquashing - this is a rich listen. Alan Braithwaite is the co-founder of Yellow Tuxedo. - The online visibility specialists.…
You are feeling a bit stale and stuck. Your motivation is wobbly. Time to explore your options you think. But how you go about this exploration might be more meaningful than you realise. This episode explores how to explore. The episode is inspired by the journaler and author Marion Milner (aka Joanna Field) and the two psychologists behind the self-discovery tool known as the 'Johari Window'. What would you think if you were invited to explore your options by exploring your unknown unknowns? What does it mean to explore with 'wide attention' versus 'narrow attention'? How can you practically use these insights to go on a mini voyage of discovery - a bit like being aboard the Starship Enterprise - but very down to earth. You can see the video of this episode on my YouTube Channel. If the concept of 'unsquashing' intriques you - I invite you to explore my book and TEDx talk and connect with me on Instagram and LinkedIn. Or just head over to my website for links and more resources.…
Stop beating yourself up! Not so easy. Negative self talk, inner critic, catastrophising, self-doubt spirals - they are a natural consequence of being human. But - our rush to beat ourselfs up when we believe we have 'failed' in some way - is a real squasher! It stops us moving forward and often results in us wallowing in a swamp of self-doubt for hours, weeks or even years! In this episode you will join me in exploring why we do this negative self-talk and - crucially - how we can manage it - accept it and then do something to move us forward. There is a kind of mind trick involved - and it revolves around a well researched concept - 'distanced self talk' - Article here. I also recommend the book - 'Chatter' by Ethan Kross. And - my book - 'The Mystery of the Squashed Self' and TEDx talk. Subscribe and share - please!…
How to flourish as an individual in a Collective. Have you found your tribe? Do you feel valued for your individual approach and contribution whilst also part of a supportive group with shared aims? Emily Braithwaite is the co founder of 'Yellow Tuxedo' - online visibility for small business owners. They have a brilliant community called Digital Circus and so she understands this need for being amongst a group that see you as an individual. In this episode you also hear her squashing and unsquashing story and how she maintains her individuality whilst working with her husband! Emily also shares an inspiring story about a recent trip to Malawi with a group of women - to work with a group of aspiring business women. A gripping listen! The podcast with full PDF Transcript is on my website - also on all main pod platforms. https://trishalewis.com/unsquashed-blog/ Emily Braithwaite - Yellow Tuxedo Website: https://www.yellowtuxedo.co.uk/ NB - If you prefer to watch - the video is on my YouTube channel - here: https://youtu.be/dtYLYjcxWxQ?feature=shared Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at https://trishalewis.com/stay-unsquashed/…
Do you get a pang of feeling inferior when you hear someone else being praised. You know it is irrational. You don't want to be an envious type. You want to feel fine about other people being great! The problem is - you are reacting from your self-squashed self! How to stop this odd form of comparisonitis? How to embrace other people's achievments without seeing it as a dig at you - that someone you are 'less than'? In this short unsquasher episode you will be asked to do an audit on the FIBs that might be fuelling this reaction - the fears, illusions and baggage. Short and sweet - and very human real! Full transcript at www.trishalewis.com - pod/blog page. Video version on my YouTube channel. Subscribe to this podcast for the short unsquashers and the longer explorations with fascinating guests.…
Why are you allowing self-doubt to squash your non-fiction book idea? Why do women in particular have deep fears about being judged negatively if they publish a non-fiction book about the thing they have tons of experience in - that will help others? What are the procrastination demons and what do you do to get unstuck and belief in your right to write that book! My guest is Helen Pollock - founder of 'Her Next Chapter' - with a rich background in PR, Ghostwriting and content coaching. She is on a mission to help women entrepreneurs create more impact, inspire others and build a legacy no-one can take away from them, by writing a business book to be proud of. Quote: (Helen frequently hears this from her clients) "Am I being arrogant? Am I showing off? Will people judge me for doing this - for writing this - for little old me writing a book." More details on the resource Helen is offering can be found here. Full episode transcript on podcast page here. YouTube video version here.…
This is about identity labels and growth mindset versus fixed mindset. What lies behind phrases such as 'not my thing' or 'never been like that'? Time for an audit on how much 'should' your are doing - because you have got stuck in a stale and potentially squashed identity. You will hear a short but very real example of the way we get stuck and the way we can unstick and embrace new phases of identity evolution! A short unsquasher episode. Transcript at trishalewis.com - pod/blog page. Video version on my YouTube Channel.…
You have heard about narcissists - but how do you know if one is in your life? How do you know that your deflating, inhibiting lack of self-belief is due to ongoing or past narcissistic abuse? My guest Amanda Craven is a clinical hypnotherapist who helps people recover from emotional trauma. She shares her personal story - as does your host! Insights and practical steps as always. For episode transcript - head to www.trishalewis.com pod/blog section. You can view this episode on my YouTube channel…
What lies behind your fear of being boring in conversations? Is this fear of other people thinking you are boring - holding you back and sucking the joy from social or work based conversations? Welcome to another short unsquasher. In this episode we unpack what you might mean by 'boring' and how to do the forensics with some simple steps that will give you a reframe and a refresh. If you really are boring (and remember it is your inner fear at play) - there is hope! For more on 'unsquashing' check out resources at www.trishalewis.com and my YouTube channel - Self Belief Unsquashed.…
How do you rebuild confidence and stop your self-belief being squashed when an unexpected health scare changes your world? My guest is 'Heart Healthy Living Coach - Crescentia Cook. She specialises in supporting those with Atrial Fibrillation. Her personal experience, knowledge and coaching expertise means this episode will be hugely valuable to you if you are dealing with anxiety that is 'shrinking your world' and messing with your confidence. Plenty of practical tips and resources for you to explore. **** Links to resources mentioned: Books and events - Dr David Hamilton. https://drdavidhamilton.com/ More about the science and research into EFT https://eftinternational.org/discover-eft-tapping/eft-science-research/ Havening https://www.havening.org/ Crescentia Cook's website: www.hearthealthylivingcoach.co.uk How Emotions Are Made - Dr Lisa Feldman Barrett Rough TRANSCRIPT - and more on 'Unsquashing' - head over to my website here. https://trishalewis.com…
Self belief includes working on your sense of agency - taking back your power. You have more power to create change in yourself and in the world than you realise. My guest Gerri McHugh is the founder of Global Health Film - her life and work challenges have meant nurturing her own self belief and that of her film makers too! But how exactly...? PDF Transcript here Gerri McHugh on LinkedIn Global Health Film Website Referenced in this episode: Quotes: J M Storm - Find on Instagram or his poetry book on Amazon Valentina White's chapter in: 'Creating Success: Entrepreneurs & Changemakers Share Wisdom on Achieving Success on Your Own Terms' - Amazon TV series - My Mum Your Dad with Davina McCall - ITVx Want to know more about 'unsquashing' self belief? Visit my website.…
What does Self Belief feel like? Tricky to answer isn't it? In this episode I use the '5 Whys' questioning technique to dig a little deeper on that 'self belief feeling' thing. This questioning leads to another 2-word phrase - 'self squashing'. What is that? Well listen to this short unsquasher episode to find out. Talking of 'self' - self awarness is an essential ingredient in finding and nurturing your unsquashed self - and that means doing forensics on the FIBs that hold you back - that stands for something - listen and discover. As always - the insights and the tips are for all us humans trying to live with joy, impact and growth in a fascinatingly complex world. Want to explore 'Unsquashing' more? My book: The Mystery of the Squashed Self TEDx Talk: Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy And sign up for my (non salesy) Unsquashed email.…
Self doubt - if you are human you will know that feeling. But what about when it pops up seemingly randomly? What triggers that uncomfortable feeling of uselessness that can have you falling down the self-doubt spiral! This short episdoe explores squashing environmental triggers. I share great quotes from Ethan Cross, author of 'Chatter' and Dr. Tim O'Brien, author of "'Inner Story' and a tiny bit of basic psychology! Remind yourself of the significance of self-awareness in identifying and addressing triggers that send you whizzing down the self-doubt spiral. I share a personal experience and provides tips on activating a detective mindset to prevent falling into these spirals. Understanding the impact of environmental factors such as music, views, and workspace on our mood and self-confidence. This short episode packs a punch - encouraging listeners to regain control over their thoughts and emotions through self-awareness and curiosity Self-doubt spirals and environmental triggers Importance of self-awareness in identifying and addressing triggers Activating a detective mindset to prevent self-doubt spirals Environmental triggers affecting mood and self-confidence Taking control of our environment to prevent self-doubt spirals Examples of environmental triggers (music, views, workspace) Personal experience of overcoming self-doubt triggered by depressing music Regaining confidence and joy by changing the environment Importance of regaining control over thoughts and emotions Power of self-awareness in preventing self-doubt spirals ROUGH TRANSCRIPT OF EPISODE For more on 'staying unsquashed' - head to my website and follow me on LinkedIn. For video of this episode PLUS more self-belief and confident communicator tips - head to my YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/TrishaLewisTalks…
Business mentor Beverley Poole gets real about the power of asking for help and we explore the challenge of asking for help. Beverley starts by sharing her unsquashing journey - she shares her experiences of working in a male-dominated environment and dealing with a difficult marriage and being a single parent. We talk about the importance of resilience, reflection, and gratitude in overcoming these challenges. Beverley emphasizes the need for a trusted support system and the value of living by one's own values. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the importance of communication, authenticity, and seeking support for personal and professional growth. Beverley shares her insights such as: The Stop Start Continue method The 'who' and the 'woo-woo' people in your tribe! Scaffolding (theory of psychology) The stages of child development - and the challenges of lockdown. She refers to my TEDx Talk - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy - and a poem - A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime. - this is that poem: People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. ~ Author Unknown Articles and links to videos on the topic of 'Unsquashing' - communication, confidence, self belief - PLUS a full transcript of this episode are available at trishalewis.com/podcast…
Trisha Lewis, the host of the podcast "Unsquashed," provides tips on overcoming the fear of making mistakes or 'not knowing something' in a podcast guesting, meeting or panel setting. She emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection and not striving for perfection. Trisha discusses the negative consequences of constantly striving for perfection and suggests taking a rational approach to the fear response. She encourages listeners to recognize their value as contributors and to view mistakes as learning opportunities. Trisha reassures listeners that making mistakes in these situations, usually only results in feeling 'a bit awkward' and urges them to step out of their comfort zones. This episode explores: Overcoming the fear of making mistakes Embracing imperfection and not striving for perfection The negative effects of constantly striving for perfection Recognizing that it's impossible to know everything Making mistakes as a valuable learning experience Reflecting on the reasons why you were asked to be on a panel or podcast Emphasizing the value of experiences, wisdom, questions, curiosity, and insights Not knowing everything leading to thought-provoking discussions and debates The worst-case scenario of making a mistake Using mistakes as an opportunity for growth and further exploration Complete transcript and more Unsquashing resources at www.trishalewis.com…
Career Coach Fay Wallis is frequently faced with clients who say 'I just want to be more confident'. Confidence dips are human. But what is confidence? How do we work on growing our self-confidence and feeling more confident in our thoughts, actions and feelings? This episode unpacks all of this and more. We explore: The Self-depricating habit The myth of - everyone has it together The power of 'yet' Growth and fixed mindset Triggers of confidence dips The brain-body effect The power of small steps Connect with Fay Wallis - LinkedIn, Website. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Imposter Syndrome - Research conducted by Clance and Imes in the 1970s. Book: Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck Book: "How Emotions Are Made" by Dr. Lisa Feldman Podcast Episode: "How to be More Assertive" - Episode 91 of the HR Coffee Time podcast Timestamp: 00:12:37 Five Whys - Link to the technique TOPIC TIMESTAMPS - The self-deprecating trap [00:04:48] Faye shares a personal story about how she used to make self-deprecating jokes and how her boss called her out on it. Confidence as a common struggle [00:08:05] Faye discusses how confidence is a recurring issue for about 98% of her clients, including those in senior roles. Addressing specific confidence issues [00:10:41] Faye shares advice she received about tackling confidence issues by identifying the specific areas where individuals lack confidence. The importance of narrowing down specific issues [00:11:42] Discussion on how to identify and address specific areas of lacking confidence. The impact of negative self-judgment on confidence [00:13:44] Exploration of how self-criticism and negative self-judgment can affect confidence levels. The power of a growth mindset [00:16:03] Explanation of the concept of a growth mindset and its positive impact on confidence and personal development. The blips of self-doubt during transitions [00:25:36] Discussion on how transitions, such as stepping into a new role or returning to work after a break, can trigger moments of self-doubt and fear of the unknown. Understanding the physical reactions of fear and excitement [00:28:09] Explanation of how the body's fight or flight response can cause physical symptoms like shaking, clammy hands, and a creaky voice, and how reframing these reactions as signs of excitement can help boost confidence. Practical tip: Recognizing the brain's role in emotions [00:30:09] Recommendation of the book "How Emotions Are Made" by Dr. Lisa Feldman as a resource for understanding how the brain processes emotions, helping to debunk the myth that there is something inherently wrong with oneself. The power of small steps [00:33:26] Taking small steps towards building confidence, such as adjusting body language, can have a significant impact. Building confidence through tiny steps [00:35:42] Progressing gradually and consistently with small steps can lead to increased confidence in any area. Confidence comes through action [00:37:47] Confidence is not something you are born with, but rather something that is developed through taking action and trying. **** Unsquashing insights and small step actions to explore - just listening to this conversation will have you feeling more motivated - which is all part of confidence! Also available at www.trishalewis.com Follow me for more unsquashing tips - including links to - THE unsquashing book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self and my TEDx talk - Beware the self squashing prophecy.…
When self-doubt spirals hold you back - it's time to harness your curiosity to crush the imposter syndrome and frustration demons. I call this using your 'detective mindset' and this short episode shows you how to use this tool in a very practical way. This is one of the short summer unsquasher episodes - let me know how you find this format! ***** For a video version of this episode head to my YouTube channel (subscribe while you are there!) For regular reframes to keep you fresh - subscribe to my 'Unsquashed ' fortinightly non-salesy email! Learn more about staying 'unsquashed' over at trishalewis.com. Check out my TEDx - Beware the Self Squashing Prophecy And a valuable resource (with a unique twist) - my book - The Mystery of the Squashed Self.…
In this eye-opening episode, we're talking all about creativity and how to truly embrace it, featuring the inspiring story of Bee Higgins – creative copywriter, messaging mentor, and Crohn's disease warrior. Bee's journey to creative success started with a pause in her studies, a pinch of stubbornness, and a whole lot of individualism that led her to turn her unique abilities into a thriving business. But, guess what - I also share my own story of feeling "self-squashed" and relate to Bee's rebellious nature. Together, we remind you that creativity is innate in all of us and doesn't always have to result in a masterpiece. Break free from those fears and societal pressures, and revel in the small creative acts of everyday life. This engaging conversation also addresses the importance of authenticity in content creation, and how the one-size-fits-all approach is simply NOT the way to go. Find what works for YOU and create that perfect space for exploration, experimentation, and play. Remember, it’s all about embracing your authentic self and expressing your creativity in the way that feels right for you. Now it's time to give yourself some grace, spark that creativity, and listen to this game-changing episode. Discover the power of authenticity and learn how little acts of creativity can make a big impact. Join Bee and me and the countless other individuals who refuse to conform to limitations and expectations – tune in now and let this podcast help unsquash and unleash your calm, or maybe crazy, creativity!…
If your marketing makes you yawn or yell - this is for you. My guest Kate Chidzik has over 20 years as a marketeer as well as a lifetime of being a human! She shares her unsquashing journey and some powerfully simple reframes around your approach to marketing - being visible. Connect you with your audience. Connect your strengths with your approach. Connect with supportive people. Connect your dots. Connect with Kate - LinkedIn ***** Connect with me - Trisha Lewis LinkedIn Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
Is having a portfolio career less impressive than putting all your eggs in one basket work-wise? If you are doing more than one freelance job or part-time job - are you just 'messing around' rather than being a serious and valuable business ower or employee? If you are fighting to pigeon hole 'what you do' - listen to this! I offer a fresh perspective on the 'eggs in many baskets' route - and a way of making sure you are not just being squashed by the 'should trap' of 'this is the only way to do it'! With the encroaching Tsunami of AI - this might be exactly the right time to be diversifying - and I offer a perpective that will have you doing this proudly. *** Connect with me - Trisha Lewis LinkedIn Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
If your relationship with social media feels draining listen to this episode! For those who need to be visible on social media for business but you don't feel in control - a must listen! My guest Sam Flynn will guide you calmly through this condundrum. She is a Digital Wellbeing coach and social media trainer and understands this tension between healthy curiosity and visibility and time-sucking digital burn out. In this episode we bust some myths and gain calm perspective. AND you will get practical tips on: Social media time management Digital Detox - the non- dramatic way Smart phone v Desktop options Encouraging a more positive 'feed' Avoiding what Sam calls 'Doom Following'. Connect with Sam Flynn on LinkedIn - and connect with me there too! Trisha Lewis LinkedIn *** Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
In this solo short episode I share a simple self-affirmation tactic to use when you are beating yourself up over 'failure'. The thing that didn't go well might be trivial but you are flooded with an illogical sense of being utterly useless. It could be a technical glitch on a LinkedIn Live or you might have stumbled over some words in a presentation. It could be sports related - as in my story that you will hear. The thing is - I found a way of stopping the mind body fight flight flooding - and in this episode I share this very simple tactic.…
Do you flinch at the very word - marketing? As a solopreneur do you find it an utter bore to market your business? Does it all feel a bit icky? My guest Lenka Koppova has a way to flip your marketing hate into marketing joy! Lenka calls herself - the marketing therapist! She brings a very human touch to marketing - based on tons of expertise and experience and knowledge of the way our brains work! In the episode we talk about - Fear of failure Listening to eperts more than our gut! Using our authentic self to connect with our potential clients. Doing it your way! Connecting on LinkedIn. Being creative about your approach to social media - your way! Lenka gives some very practical tips and busts a marketing myth of two. Love her expression - 'Stop shoulding all over yourself'! Connect with Lenka on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lenkakoppova/ or her website: https://lenkakoppova.com/ Enjoy the episode and subscribe. Please take time to leave a review on your favourite platform to help spread the word if you find this podcast informative, motivating, enjoyable or simply 'calming'! Find out more about my communication and confidence coaching services as well as my unsquashing mission (the book, the TEDx) at trishalewis.com.…
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