41 | Becoming Cliterate: Redefining Sexual Satisfaction in Midlife with Dr Laurie Mintz

Pleasure In The Pause

Be honest, are you faking it in the bedroom? If you are, you are not alone. Studies show that up to 70% of women have faked an orgasm at least once. But here's the real question: why do we fake it, and at what cost? From the societal pressures to perform to the orgasm gap to myths about what sex should look like, the reasons are complex, and in midlife, as our bodies' hormones and desires change, it can feel even more challenging to prioritize our pleasure. This week, episode 41 of Pleasure in the Pause is about reclaiming your sexual pleasure!

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Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, speaker and emeritus professor whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives. She is the author of two popular press books—both written to empower women sexually and both with published studies demonstrating that readers enhance their sexual functioning: Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Understanding the biological, psychological and social factors impacting midlife sexuality
• Learning how to cultivate self-love and overcome negative body image to feel sexually empowered
• Exploring techniques for enhancing clitoral stimulation and achieving more satisfying orgasms
• Communicating your needs to your partner and negotiate new scripts for mutually pleasurable sex
• Incorporating mindfulness and self-pleasure practices to prioritize your own desire and satisfaction

Your sexual pleasure is your birthright, not a luxury.Start small, be patient and kind with yourself, and remember - you deserve to experience magnificent sex at every age. Your pleasure matters.

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Becoming Cliterate (Amazon)

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LINKS MENTIONED:

Ep 21 | Redefining Sexual Medicine and Education for Midlife Women with Dr. Rachel Rubin

Ep 15 | Nurturing Your Vulva Garden: A Path to Renewed Pleasure in Midlife with Dr. Maria Uloko

Ep 6 | Bridging the Bedroom Gap with Dr Maria Sophocles

North American Menopause Society (NAMS)

International Society of the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH)

She Comes First by Ian Kerner (Amazon)

Ep 9 | Better Sex through Mindfulness with Dr Lori Brotto

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1. Introduction and Welcome (00:00:00)

2. The Myth of Midlife Sexual Decline (00:04:58)

3. External Stimulation and the Myth of Penetration-Focused Sex (00:11:32)

4. Shifting Perspective and Incorporating Clitoral Stimulation (00:16:46)

5. Clitoral Tumescence and the Time it Takes (00:21:55)

6. Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire (00:31:35)

7. Communication and Breaking Out of Routine (00:35:26)

8. Final Thoughts on Pleasure (00:42:55)