35. Reframing Regret: How this Difficult Emotion Can Help You Grow

Honest Women

It’s impossible to count the times that we’ve been told to live life with no regrets… but is that a realistic, or even worthy goal? Today we have an honest conversation about the rather taboo topic of regret: what it is, what to do if you feel it, and even wonder if it is possible that this rather uncomfortable experience can be beneficial.

Listen to learn more about:

• The difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction
• Why ruminating on regrets of action - like moral failings - is not serving you
• The three regrets of inaction - boldness, foundation, and connection regrets
• How regret can lead us to our values and help us to shape our life going forward
• The false promise of "if only" regret thinking (hint: your life would not be perfect and painless right now "if only" you had done X instead of Y)
• What to do RIGHT NOW if you are feeling regret

Plus, Andrea works through a really raw friendship regret; Jessica explores a time she regretted in her relationship with Andrea; and Jessica almost spits out her coffee when Andrea shares her not-so-evolved reaction to a relationship that ended poorly. NO REGRETS, right?

Like this episode? Check out these:

• So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - cause you NEED to know the difference between guilt and shame if you're thinking through regret!
• NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - just in case you're regretting saying yes to so many things this season.

Want to do a deeper dive into regret? Read Dan Pink's thought-provoking book The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward

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Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.

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