Episode 24: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How Attachment Styles Impact Your Arguments

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QUALIFIED: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work with Shari Dunn | 284 33:58

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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One partner has an anxious attachment style and gets triggered by her partner needing a time out during an argument, or threatening to leave. The other partner has an avoidant attachment style and gets emotionally flooded during disagreements. During these challenging moments, the anxious partner seeks to turn towards their partner, needing to reconnect in order to calm their physiology. The avoidant person turns away from the relationship, seeking time and space to calm themselves. The anxious partner pursues the avoidant partner verbally and physically, resulting in neither person getting their needs met. This is one of the most common relational dynamics we have seen in our private practice assisting couples to rekindle their passion and connection. Even Joree and John struggled with it! Listen in as they explain what this dynamic is and, more importantly, how to break out of it for a happier and more connected relationship. Here’s a hint: It takes a combination of individual work and relational work to evolve beyond it!

To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.

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The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

Episode 24: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: How Attachment Styles Impact Your Arguments

The Evolved Caveman w/ Dr. John Schinnerer

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To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.

To find out more about our Fulfilling Relationships Retreat in Costa Rica September 28 – October 5, 2024 at Pura Vida Resort, please visit https://loveisntenough.net/costa-rica/

For information on our Ultimate Relationship Coaching Package, visit https://loveisntenough.net/the-ultimate-relationship-coaching-package/

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Episode 8: Behind Closed Doors: Shana James on Trust, Vulnerability, and Your Love Life 55:24

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In this episode of the Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough podcasts, Dr. John and Joree interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds. The conversation also dives into how to build intimacy, the impact of social conditioning, the challenges of modern relationships, and practical tips for improving connection and trust within partnerships. Timestamps: 03:22 Playing and Experimenting in Relationships 05:06 Honest Conversations and Deep Connection 08:23 Navigating Disappointment and Building Trust 09:33 Understanding and Healing Attachment Wounds 16:07 Practicing Vulnerability and Self-Awareness 24:55 Exploring Honest Sex 25:45 The Importance of Vulnerability in Sexual Relationships 26:46 Being Present During Intimacy 28:25 Communicating Desires and Needs 29:33 Mindfulness and Sexual Arousal 33:09 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Physical Acts 38:12 Building Trust and Security in Relationships 39:00 Practical Tips for Enhancing Intimacy Our Guest, Shana James: As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She has specialized in supporting men who are frustrated with their love and sex lives, both in dating and long term relationships. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, with 300 episodes. She has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.' Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. Shana has a Master’s in psychology. She has facilitated decades of workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality.…

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Episode 7: Warrior Compassion: Healing Men and Mending Society 55:39

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Warrior Compassion: Healing Men and Mending Society In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Beck hosts Sean Harvey, CEO of Warrior Compassion Institute and author of 'Warrior Compassion.' They discuss Sean's extensive work in men's healing and leadership within hypermasculine, paramilitary organizations. The conversation delves into topics like inner work, personal transformation, shame, the impact of attachment styles, and the dynamics of hatred and extremism. Sean shares his approach to engaging men in healing through adventure, play, and safe spaces. He also discusses the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies and the challenges of addressing issues like white supremacy and radicalization. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:12 Sean Harvey's Work in Paramilitary Organizations 02:50 Men's Healing and Personal Transformation 03:44 Addressing Shame and Attachment in Men 06:52 Engaging Men in Personal Growth 11:24 Vulnerability and Authentic Connection 20:27 Dismantling White Supremacy 30:25 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies 35:42 Building Self-Worth and Compassion 41:08 Conclusion and Final About Dr. John’s Guest: Sean Harvey is CEO and Senior Strategic Advisor of Warrior Compassion Institute, author of Warrior Compassion: Unleashing the Healing Power of Men , and a TEDx speaker ( Compassion Makes the Warrior ). He co-founded Project Compassion, a national initiative to deepen compassion in police departments, federal law enforcement, and the military, which now extends to firefighters, paramedics, veterans, and sectors such as defense and energy. Sean’s work addresses hate, polarization, and extremism through innovative leadership and engagement strategies. With over 25 years of Leadership and Organization Development experience, Sean has also served on the faculties of Cornell, NYU, and Baruch College CUNY.…

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Episode 6: From Self-Doubt to Fearlessness: Strategies for Success 58:32

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In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John welcomes leadership and empowerment coach Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself Consulting. They discuss Ben's journey from an overworked healthcare executive to a passionate guide for others seeking greater meaning in work and life. Ben shares insights from his new book, Becoming Fearless, and highlights strategies for overcoming self-doubt. Dr. John recounts a challenging vacation that tested his resilience and mindfulness. The conversation covers the importance of self-leadership, crafting meaningful work, and addressing fears in pursuit of personal and professional growth. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Benjamin Ritter 01:28 A Challenging Vacation Story 04:39 Dealing with Adversity and Mindfulness 08:37 The Importance of Asking for Help 17:57 Ben's New Book and Personal Updates 20:04 Facing and Overcoming Fears 24:06 Building Tools for Growth and Accountability 24:23 The Power of a Growth Mindset 24:53 Overcoming Excuses and Embracing Responsibility 25:37 Learning and Practicing Leadership Skills 26:25 Understanding Different Levels of Learning 28:21 Building Confidence and Self-Worth 30:32 The Role of Self-Belief in Personal Growth 33:17 Managing Inner Critic and Voices in Your Head 40:10 Finding Meaning and Satisfaction in Work 41:45 Promoting Self-Leadership in the Workplace 42:29 Exploring Job Crafting for Fulfillment 44:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts About Our Esteemed Guest: Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself (LFY) Consulting, is a Chicago based leadership and empowerment coach, national speaker, consultant, mentor, teacher, and passionate about guiding others in finding, creating, and sustaining greater meaning at work and in life. During his time as a healthcare executive and side hustling entrepreneur he was over worked and under-utilized, and despite his professional success didn’t feel successful. After much introspection he pivoted professionally and started crafting a more effective, efficient, and aligned life. As he was creating this new life he realized that his process was a process, and that he could coach others how to do the same for themselves. Ben is the author of the book, Becoming Fearless: 65 Strategies To Journey From Self-Doubt To Self-Mastery. Links: benjamin-ritter.com Linkedin.com/in/ritterbenj Youtube.com/c/benjaminritter…

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Episode 5: Navigating Emotions: The Art of Non-Judgmental Awareness 44:08

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How to take a look at your emotions without labeling them as right or wrong while also reflecting on personal experiences. Dr. John discusses this approach with respect to a frightening recent incident where he lost sight in his left eye while in Portugal (then got e.coli two days later and had to be taken off the plane by ambulance!). The key to being resilient and bouncing with life’s challenges hinges on one’s ability on one’s ability to look at their emotions without judgment. The Buddhist notion of two darts applies well here. Life is guaranteed to cause pain at times. Pain is the first dart. It is inevitable. The second dart is suffering. And we have the ability to minimize the suffering that we experience as a result of our pain.This episode shares a personal experience involving eye issues, expressing feelings of fear, anger, sadness, and fatigue due to repeated medical treatments. Happiness is about relationships and connections. It is also about the ability to manage our emotions well. Join in the conversation with Mark Ellenshon, an acclaimed filmmaker who worked on classics such as Terminator. Mark is seeking to support men over 50 to age gracefully. Sign up NOW for his free web summit, I Got You Man, and sign up at I Got You Man . Dr. John Schinnerer has a great interview with him that you won’t want to miss! Guest Bio: Mark Ellenshon is a seasoned filmmaker with an early start at 17, starting by himself and climbing his way to films, such as The Terminator “Department Head” (1984) at 24 and Back to the Future 2 and 3 at 29. Moving on to his goal as a professional Director/Cameraman. Now, with over 35 years of experience in the industry. He is known for awards globally, including Cannes, Europe, and Nationally. As the founder of Marrick Production Services in 1984. Cinevision Camera Company Inc.1995. His expertise spanned cutting-edge film boundaries and what’s possible in filmmaking, shooting out of jets, helicopters, race cars, underwater, and extreme working conditions to create the latest production value.Mark’s work has taken him to over 36 countries and 6 continents. His deep knowledge of both the creative and technical sides of filmmaking made him a sought-after Director/Cameraman and leader in the industry, known for his ability to inspire and guide teams to deliver exceptional results.Now, as a speaker for the Live Your Best Life After 50 Summit , Mark is eager to share his journey of adapting, evolving, and finding purpose beyond the career he spent decades building. As someone who has navigated the challenges of aging while staying active in a fast-paced industry, Mark offers a unique perspective on living fully, staying mentally and physically engaged, and embracing new opportunities in the later stages of life.His own experiences have taught him the importance of maintaining a sense of adventure and creativity, even as life changes. Mark’s story is one of resilience, innovation, and a relentless pursuit of excellence—qualities that continue to drive him forward, both professionally and personally. At the summit, he aims to inspire other men over 50 to explore new passions, stay curious, and keep pushing boundaries, no matter their age.In addition to his extensive film and life experience, Mark is a firm believer in personal learning and growth, making him the perfect fit for this summit dedicated to empowering men to live their best lives after 50.…

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Episode 4: How to Build a Happier Relationship w/ Dr. John & Joree 51:12

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Welcome to The Evolved Caveman Podcast. In this episode we tackle what it truly takes to build and maintain a happy, thriving relationship. Whether you’re in the honeymoon phase or navigating the ups and downs of long-term commitment, this show is for anyone looking to deepen their connection with their partner and cultivate lasting joy. We often hear that love is a feeling, but a great relationship goes beyond emotions—it’s built on trust, communication, respect, and a willingness to grow together. In this podcast, we’ll dive into the real-life strategies, habits, and mindsets that couples use to keep their relationships strong. From overcoming conflict to nurturing intimacy and balancing personal growth with partnership, we’ll uncover the keys to sustaining love over the long haul. So, whether you’re tuning in with your partner or on your own, join Joree Rose, LMFT, & Dr. John Schinnerer as they explore what it really takes to not just survive—but thrive—together. And tune in for the premiere episode of our new podcast, Love Isn’t Enough which drops tomorrow on all major podcasting platforms. It’s all you need to know to create the happy, thriving relationship you so richly deserve!…

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Episode 3: Stop Anger In Your Relationship In Minutes 42:48

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Why is anger so rampant? What if you could stop anger in your relationships? What would that be worth to you? Think of the possibilities. Greater happiness. Less divorce. Fewer kids growing up in single family homes. More functional adults. Greater productivity. What if we could stop anger in its tracks? Join Dr. John in this eye-opening talk with Rod Jeter, the creator of WBAngry and find out! About Dr. John’s Guest: Rod Jeter is a navy veteran and married father of 5 adult children. His career spans from real estate broker to entrepreneur, and he has a master’s degree in software engineering. Married for 12 years, Rod and his wife were kicked out of marriage counseling on the fifth of what was supposed to be twelve sessions. It was according to Rod, his doing, nevertheless, he was moved to find a way to help couples see results faster than traditional counseling. Rod created a game to help couples resolve their disagreements in just minutes. Rod’s goal is to create happier homes and help as many couples as possible solve conflicts and disagreements with less drama and more fun through the YBAngry relationship tool. https://ybangry.com.…

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Episode 2: Bouncing Back From Divorce With Vitality & Purpose 56:05

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When I went through divorce after a 16 year marriage, I was devastated, depressed and angry. My ex-wife (unnecessarily) initiated litigation that lasted 3.5 years and cost hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees. It took me months, if not years, to fully recover, both emotionally and financially. So how can we do divorce better? How do we recover more quickly? How do we bounce forward with greater energy and purpose? How do we begin to trust the other sex after an ex has treated us poorly (in a variety of ways) for years? Tune in to find out. About Dr. John’s Guest, Nigel Smart: Nigel is a serial entrepreneur that has spent a large part of his career building high performance systems in both operating and consulting companies. He holds multiple degrees including his Ph.D. in biochemical sciences from Manchester University. He has established several companies including his current venture which assists industry in establishing systems and leadership for high performance results. His goal is to find elegant solutions that define a different path. As an International speaker he uses stories around his personal and professional experiences to drive new approaches and strategies to develop new levels of success. As a second career he has written a best selling book entitled Bouncing Back From Divorce With Vitality & Purpose; A Strategy for Dads , and coaches fathers emerging from divorce to regain their self respect and rebuild their lives to once more be productive members of society and their families.…

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Episode 1: Why Masculinity Is Now A Central Theme In Politics 1:01:44

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Millions of men are tired of the way in which MAGA Republicans have defined masculinity in the traditional, restrictive fashion - emphasizing the “hard” side of men and shaming the “soft” side. This includes prioritizing independence over interdependence, thinking over feeling, autonomy over connection, and emotional suppression over vulnerability. The old view is “power over” others rather than “power with”. The old view is to exert control over women which is demonstrated by MAGA’s views on abortion and birth control. The solution is not to prioritize the hard side of masculinity over the soft side. Nor is it to prioritize the soft side over the hard side. The solution is to create a climate which values all sides of masculinity (or even better, humanity!), so that we may bring the best aspects of ourselves to any situation as needed. The solution is to stop shaming men when they feel natural, healthy human emotions (think of how Gus Walz was treated when he displayed love, connection and pride over his father at the DNC). What is the Man Box? It’s the rules you absorbed as a boy about what it means to be a “real man”; rules that have made you emotionally constipated, caused conflict in your romantic relationship, encouraged you to chase material things, and caught up in a hyper-competitive rat race. The rules include such classics as be tough, hide your feelings, dominate women, be self-reliant, don’t be feminine, and don’t be homosexual. Research shows that this restrictive, tired view of masculinity has negative effects on us. The more we subscribe to traditional Man Box beliefs, the lower our self-esteem (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995), the more difficulties we have in romantic relationships and friendships (Fischer & Good, 1997; Sharpe & Heppner, 1991), the more we act in violence (Franchina, Eisler, & Moore, 2001), and the more depressed and anxious we feel (Cournoyer & Mahalik, 1995; Hayes & Mahalik, 2000). Join Dr. John Schinnerer and Mark Greene in a fascinating conversation about the Man Box culture, and how it’s playing out in politics right now. The solution is not to flip the script so that we overvalue the soft aspects of men over the harder aspects. The goal is to honor both the hard and the soft sides of our humanity equally. It’s giving men permission to tap into all aspects of their humanity so that they are comfortable bringing the best parts of themselves to a particular situation. This is not a problem at an individual level. It is a cultural issue, a culture in which the full spectrum of our humanity has yet to be valued fully. The thing I love about the Man Box idea is that none of this is your fault . You didn’t ask to be socialized like this. You had no control over it. It just happens. So keep in mind that while this is not your fault, it is your responsibility to evolve beyond the Man Box. And that’s what we are seeking to do in this election, discover more ways to evolve our masculinity. About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest, Mark Greene: Mark Greene works to engage men in creating diverse, equitable, and inclusive workplace cultures. Co-Author with Dr. Saliha Bava of The Relational Workplace. Mark works with organizations and individuals to overcome the challenges created by retrogressive workplace cultures through his Man Box Choice Point trainings. Mark is the author of The Little #MeToo Book for Men, Remaking Manhood, and co-author, along with Dr. Saliha Bava, of the Relational Book for Parenting. Mark's newest book, co-authored with Dr. Bava, is The Relational Workplace. Available now: https://a.co/d/1PcuEsn Mark is co-host of Remaking Manhood, the Healthy Masculinity Podcast. All of Remaking Manhood’s healthy masculinity resources are here: https://linktr.ee/RemakingManhood…

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Episode 33: How We Evolve As Men 1:04:20

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It’s time to check back in with one of my favorite guys doing men’s work - Alex Terranova. Alex just published a book of the top 100 things he’s learned in doing over 500 podcasts and was kind enough to include me in it! But the book barely gets a mention as there are so may other things to discuss. How does a “recovering asshole” come to be a reputed men’s coach and Coach of the Year? How do we evolve as men? What are Alex’s men’s retreats like? Is there one best version of masculinity towards which we are all striving? About My Esteemed Guest and Good Friend: Alex Terranova is an Executive and Leadership Coach, Performance and Success Alchemist, and Sacred Guide for men. Alex's training and essence are steeped in ontological principles, which focus on the nature of being and reality, ancient rituals that promote personal growth and transformation, integrity that underpins all his actions, and somatic practices that involve the integration of mind and body for holistic healing and expansion. With a commitment to love and support and a willingness to tell the hard truth, Alex Terranova fearlessly guides individuals and organizations to transcend mental barriers and unlock their boundless potential. His transformative coaching has led to tangible results, such as businesses growing from 6 to 7 figures, healed relationships, improved parenting, reduced employee turnover, and enhanced happiness, peace, job satisfaction, relationships, and overall life fulfillment. Alex's coaching is a unique blend of integrity, boldness, trust, and love. His expertise spans a wide spectrum, from Business Coaching for owners and leaders striving to grow sales and scale their companies to Mindset and Performance Coaching for athletes seeking high level results to Leadership Coaching for those aiming to elevate every aspect of their lives. His clients share a common desire to grow, improve, succeed, and deepen their relationships. Alex's unique approach, grounded in integrity, boldness, trust, and love, empowers his clients to thrive in all aspects of their lives. Alex's journey towards mastery began in 2015 when he was certified by the esteemed Accomplishment Coaching. His relentless pursuit of excellence led him to earn his PCC, Professional Certified Coach Certification from the International Coach Federation, and his MPM, Mental Performance Mastery Certification from Top Mental & Peak Performance Coach Brian Cain. He has trained and worked with Shamans, Indigenous Leaders, and Psychological and Spiritual Leaders from Eastern and Western Traditions. Recognized by Yahoo Finance as 'The Anti-Excuses Coach,' and MSN, who called the Alchemy of Men Retreat "Best Retreats for Men 2024," Alex Terranova is a trusted authority in his field. Through one-on-one and Corporate Coaching, as well as leading Retreats, he has transformed the lives of hundreds of people. He has also trained over 100 other coaches, led men's groups, hosted a top 2% podcast, authored best-selling books, and spoken internationally. Where to reach Alex Terranova: AlexTerranovaCoaching.com For more on Alex’s upcoming Men’s Retreats: AlchemyOfMenRetreat.com…

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Episode 32: The Top Tools For A Loving, Thriving Relationship Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT 40:18

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Love isn’t enough for a thriving relationship. That’s merely the starting point. What do you do when life gets in the way? When things get stressful? How do you keep your relationship positive when you are pushed and pulled on all sides? Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we discuss the best tools we know of to maintain that positive, supportive, loving feeling in your relationship. These most powerful tools are backed by science and include: The softened start up Validating your partner’s feelings Listen, fix, hug? Invitation, request, demand framework of communication Curiosity and compassion Non-violent communication Nonjudgmental listening And more! By the end of this podcast, you'll have a more thorough understanding of 8 new tools which you can begin to practice today to improve the emotional connection of your romantic relationship. These proven tools are invaluable. After all, you’re only as happy as you are in your relationship! Join us as we guide you up the path to a healthier, happier partnership. Find out more about our monthly Master Class on Relationships and about our couples coaching packages at LoveIsntEnough.net.…

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Episode 31: Being Afraid To Ask For What You Need - Our Biggest Barrier To Success 56:26

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"The biggest barrier to success is not that others are unwilling to give but that we are afraid to ask.” - Adam Grant, NY Times bestselling author I love it when, the most powerful ideas are the simplest. Find out how you can begin to master the one tool that stands between you and your success: the ability to ask for what you need to succeed and be happy. The Man Box culture teaches the value of self-reliance. 85% of Americans agree that “I would rather depend on myself than others.” But, as always, you can take things too far. If you don’t ask for advice, you may miss out on valuable opportunities. Failure to seek early treatment for depression and/or anxiety prolongs the length of the issue. And trying to do it all can lead to stress and burnout. Discover what keeps you from asking for what you need and how to get better at this invaluable skill. Dr. Wayne E. Baker Wayne Baker is the author of the book All You Have To Do Is Ask , and the Robert P. Thome (“Toe-May”) Professor of Business Administration and Professor of Management & Organizations at the University of Michigan Ross School of Business . He currently serves as Faculty Director of the Center for Positive Organizations . His teaching and research focus on social capital, social networks, generosity, positive organizational scholarship, and values. His management and leadership articles appear in venues such as Harvard Business Review, Chief Executive Magazine, and Sloan Management Review. He puts his knowledge into practice as a frequent guest speaker, management consultant, and as an advisor and board member of Give and Take Inc. , developers of the Givitas collaborative technology platform. He has won various awards, including the Senior Faculty Research Award from the Ross School of Business and the Best Article Published in 2014 – 2016 from the American Sociological Association Section on Altruism, Morality, and Social Solidarity.…

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Episode 30: Want More Happiness? Find Your The Meaning w/ Dr. Michael Steger 54:56

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One of the biggest factors in a happy, thriving life is meaning. Knowing your ‘why’, you can get through any ‘how.’ This show was previously aired in 2022, however it’s one of my all-time favorite episodes as the content is simple, actionable & significant. Topics covered… Why is meaning so important for us? How do you discover your meaning in life? Are there individual differences in terms of how much we need meaning? Why is it important to be aware of your core beliefs or ‘givens'? What are the 3 levels of core beliefs? How do you identify your core beliefs? Which core beliefs serve us best for success? For happiness? Bio: Dr. Michael F. Steger is Professor of Psychology and the Director for the Center for Meaning and Purpose at Colorado State University. He is an internationally recognized authority on the benefits of finding meaning in one’s life and in one’s work. Dr. Steger is a sought after speaker and enjoys providing keynotes, workshops, and retreats around the world on topics ranging from meaning and purpose, flourishing at work, positive education, effective leadership, expanding clinical practice by incorporating meaning and purpose assessment and interventions. He is the developer of the most widely-used measures of meaning and purpose in the world, including the Meaning in Life Questionnaire and the Work and Meaning Inventory. He has written three books, including Designing Positive Psychology, Purpose and Meaning in the Workplace, and the Handbook of Positivity and Strengths-Based Approaches at Work. Dr. Steger offers a number of online courses on elevating success in work and life, including his newest course, Meaning in the Moment , taught through the Wholebeing Institute. Here is the course description of Meaning in the Moment … Crafting a meaningful life doesn’t have to be a philosophical chore, it can be lived one vivid and enjoyable moment at a time. This on-demand online course is focused on practical exercises that help people use the power of now to create lives rich in meaning. Each session offers two or more exercises that you can learn to use one at a time, in an array of combinations, and even all together in a coherent program on meaning in the moment. Mike shows how people can get unstuck and move forward with a lighter heart toward greater meaning and purpose. https://wholebeinginstitute.com/meaning-in-the-moment/…

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Episode 29: Navigating Your Core Wounds In Relationship Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT 40:21

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What's the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds? Join me, Dr. John, and my partner Joree Rose as we dive into the essential understanding of core wounds in relationships, shedding light on how these deep-seated emotional injuries can impact our interactions and connections with our partners. One of Joree’s favorite questions in couples therapy is “ What is your partner’s deepest core wound?” More than half of people don’t even know their own core wound. But how can we expect to master the complexities of romance if we aren’t the expert on ourself and our partner? We explore the significance of self-awareness, the power of navigating triggers with compassion. We provide a beginning list of some of the deepest wounds we’ve seen in both the anxious and the avoidant attachment styles. We discuss the role of curiosity and compassion as fundamental tools for healing and understanding. We offer insights into effective communication and the importance of honoring each other's triggers to foster a nurturing, supportive bond. By the end of this podcast, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, what your core wounds are, how to work with them gently, thus empowering both of you to create a more resilient and loving connection. Whether you're looking to heal old wounds or build a stronger foundation in your current relationship, these insights are invaluable. Join us as we explore the path to a healthier, happier partnership. If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues. Follow Dr. John Schinnerer on | Instagram | Instagram.com/ @TheEvolvedCaveman | Facebook | Facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert | Twitter | Twitter.com/ @JohnSchin | LinkedIn | Linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnerer Or join the email list by visiting: GuideToSelf.com Please visit our YouTube channel and remember to Like & Subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/user/jschinnerer…

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Episode 28: Love Isn’t Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You? Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT 52:11

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Love Isn’t Enough: Is Intensive Couples Therapy Right For You? Dr. John Schinnerer & Joree Rose, LMFT Join Joree and I in an in-depth conversation about our experience in intensive couples therapy (i.e., 2 six-hour days of therapy with Charlie & Linda Bloom!). We also go into our belief that intensives are a much more effective means to create positive, lasting change than the traditional 1 hour, once-a-week sessions. If you are someone that: recognizes the distressing accumulation of hurts, annoyances & frustrations in your relationship, has found traditional couples therapy to be less than effective, or has never even considered couples therapy but desire a loving, supportive, thriving relationship,…then this episode is for you. Questions addressed in this one: After significant relationship issues arise, how long do people typically wait before trying couples counseling? What are some of the differences between traditional one-hour-a-week couples therapy vs. intensive couples therapy? How to be clear on what is your individual work and what is your relational work? How do we get men more comfortable with entering into couples counseling? How can we make therapy more effective for men? What is the role of curiosity and nonjudgmentalness in effective arguing? How can effective couples therapy lead to the secure attachment you’ve always wanted? All this and more, in this episode of The Evolved Caveman podcast! Please like, rate, review and share if you find this show meaningful to you! I’m trying to counterbalance a couple of bad reviews by my ex-wife!…

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Episode 27: Stop Striving for Happiness (And How To Accept ALL Your Emotions) 58:38

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One of the biggest sources of human suffering comes from our tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, somewhat frequent experiences. Our first (and sometimes only) strategy is to suppress them, ignore them, or become overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions with curiosity has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions. In doing so, we reinforce messages of “not good enough” or “I’m not supposed to feel this way.” In this poignant & actionable conversation with Dr. Beth Kurland, the author of You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything , we learn that, instead of forcing ourselves to feel “happy” and burying what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, we can change our perspective. Dr. Beth offers six vantage points to shift to when difficult emotions arise. They include: · The Anchor View: Finding Stable Ground · The Child View: Curiosity Is Your Superpower · The Audience View: Learn to Zoom Out · The Compassionate Parent View: How to Become Your Own Ally · The Mirror View: Your Strengths and Imperfections Are Welcome Here · The Ocean View: We’re All in This Together Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows us to cultivate inner stability, greater awareness of our internal strengths and inner resources, interconnection with the world around us and, perhaps most importantly, self-compassion. In this way, Dr. Beth provides a uniquely doable approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspective instead of changing ourselves. About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest: Beth Kurland, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience. She is also a TEDx and public speaker, a mind-body coach, and an author of three award-winning books: Dancing on The Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life; The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well-Being . Beth blogs for Psychology Today and is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. She lives in the Boston area. For more, visit BethKurland.com . If you like what you've heard at The Evolved Caveman podcast, support us by subscribing, leaving reviews on Apple podcasts. Every review helps to get the message out! Please share the podcast with friends and colleagues. Editing/Mixing/Mastering by: Brian Donat of B/Line Studios www.BLineStudios.com Tune in to find out more in this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast with Dr. John Schinnerer. Please be sure to like, rate, review and share! Thank you in advance for helping to spread the word!…

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