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Moving from the Paralyzed Process to the Parallel Process with Krissy Pozatek
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المحتوى المقدم من Douglas Bodin. يتم تحميل جميع محتويات البودكاست بما في ذلك الحلقات والرسومات وأوصاف البودكاست وتقديمها مباشرة بواسطة Douglas Bodin أو شريك منصة البودكاست الخاص بهم. إذا كنت تعتقد أن شخصًا ما يستخدم عملك المحمي بحقوق الطبع والنشر دون إذنك، فيمكنك اتباع العملية الموضحة هنا https://ar.player.fm/legal.
When parents become afraid of their children’s emotions, authority collapses, and kids feel less safe, not more. In this episode of The Reframe, therapeutic consultant Douglas Bodin speaks with Krissy Pozatek, parent coach and author of The Parallel Process, about how today’s overly permissive parenting has created what she calls the “paralyzed process.” Drawing from her work with families and teens in treatment, Krissy explores how fear, enmeshment, and a lack of clear boundaries are fueling emotional shutdown, avoidance, and stagnation in kids. She offers a path forward through what she calls the parallel process, where parents reclaim calm authority, implement phase-based structure at home, and create the emotional containment kids need to thrive. Whether you're a parent or clinician, this episode offers practical tools and mindset shifts to foster resilience and restore balance in the family dynamic. Tune in to find out how you can move from fear-based parenting to a more empowered, parallel process!
Key Points From This Episode:
- Insight into the “paralyzed process” of parenting.
- Ways that permissiveness erodes safety and stability for teens.
- Reasons that parents need to reclaim kind, firm, calm authority.
- What can happen when diagnoses become a child’s identity.
- The rise of enmeshment and learned helplessness.
- Why your child isn’t responsible for your feelings.
- Bringing the best of wilderness and experiential therapy into real-world routines.
- Using structure and phase-based contracts to re-establish authority.
- Shifting from horizontal parenting to clear guardianship.
- Distinguishing when behavior is “just a phase” and when intervention is needed.
- Stepping off eggshells by recognizing when fear gives your child too much control.
- Balancing connection and boundaries: centering the relationship without losing structure.
- Applying these approaches to neurodivergent kids, managing the impact of gaming and social media, and encouraging resilience through discomfort.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Parallel Process Intensive Program
90-Day Parallel Process Transitions/Reset Program
The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult Child in Treatment
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