Ep. 181: He's Still Doing What He's Always Done — So Why Does It Feel So Wrong Now?

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Let's talk about the thing that's making you feel crazy.

He's not doing nothing.

He's mowing the lawn. Picking up dinner. Handling his side of things.

He's doing what he's always done.

But now? It doesn't feel like enough—because it isn't.

The load changed. You changed. The needs changed.

And the marriage? It didn't evolve.

So you're standing there thinking:

"Why does everything feel so off—even though nothing has technically changed?"

And the answer is this:

It's not wrong. It's just outdated.

What used to feel like partnership now feels like a checklist.

What used to feel like love now feels like going through the motions.

And you're not being ungrateful or impossible to please.

You're just done pretending that lawn care equals emotional support.

This is Episode 2 of the series:
"Marriage Conversations Midlife Besties Are Having (But Afraid to Say Out Loud)."

Let's dive in.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free guide: He Doesn't Get It (Yet): How to Help Him See What You're Carrying—Without Starting Another Fight - GET IT HERE
• Check out all the marriage resources at: https://www.jenniferroskamp.com/midlife-marriages-maps

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1. Understanding the Shift in Marriage Dynamics (00:00:00)

2. Recognizing Outdated Relationship Patterns (00:01:59)

3. Introduction to Midlife Conversations (00:03:10)

4. Understanding the Invisible Load (00:04:10)

5. The Shift in Emotional Needs (00:07:05)

6. The Weight of Emotional Labor (00:13:56)

7. Evolving Partnership Dynamics (00:19:09)

8. Finding Common Ground and Solutions (00:22:07)