69. Planks, Specks, and Real Change: What Jesus Really Meant About Judgment and Healing

What if the person you’re blaming in your life right now is actually the mirror God is using to heal you?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into Jesus’ words in Matthew 7:1–5—about planks, specks, and the kind of heart work that leads to real change. I share part of my personal story, including how I spent years blaming others for how I felt, how I didn’t know Jesus during most of my first marriage, and how I eventually came to understand that healing begins with me. Through the lens of The Peacemaker by Ken Sande, the Unhappy Kid Triangle, and the power of biblical counseling, we explore how judgment, blame, and control keep us stuck—and how Jesus sets us free.

You’ll learn how to:

Recognize your default role in conflict (Blaming Bully, Bossy Helper, or Helpless Baby)
Own your part in emotional and relational breakdowns
Take the plank out of your own eye first (and what that really means)
Heal core beliefs and lies that keep you trapped in cycles of pain
Use confession, humility, and gospel-centered wisdom to restore peace

This episode is for anyone navigating conflict in marriage, parenting, friendships, or church life—and ready to grow in emotional and spiritual maturity.

📘 Mentioned in this episode:
The Peacemaker by Ken Sande + Relational Wisdom 360 (RW360.org)
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