14 Beyond Good Intentions: How White Men Can Support Black Men

The American Masculinity Podcast

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Tim sits down with Martin Henson—activist and founder of BMen Foundation—for an honest conversation about moving from good intentions to genuine support.
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Book List: https://bookshop.org/lists/amp-14-book-list

How to Walk Into Spaces that Don't Belong to You Without Shutting Down or Taking Over: https://americanmasculinity.gumroad.com/l/xvcnj
More of Martin's work: https://linktr.ee/martinhspeaks

What you’ll learn in this episode:
Chapters:
00:00 The Allyship Conversation That Makes White Men Uncomfortable
05:10 When Fear, Guilt, and Ego Get in the Way
13:05 Performative Allyship vs Real Connection
21:45 Stop Trying to Fix Black Men, Start Actually Listening
31:20 The Cost of Infantilizing Black Men
41:00 How to Be a Better Neighbor Without Centering Yourself
51:30 You’re Gonna Screw Up — Here’s How to Repair
57:00 Closing Reflections: Showing Up, Not Perfection
If you’re a man who wants to show up authentically for your community, this conversation will give you the tools to move from bystander to genuine ally.
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1. The Allyship Conversation That Makes White Men Uncomfortable (00:00:00)

2. When Fear, Guilt, and Ego Get in the Way (00:05:10)

3. Performative Allyship vs Real Connection (00:13:05)

4. Stop Trying to Fix Black Men, Start Actually Listening (00:21:45)

5. The Cost of Infantilizing Black Men (00:31:20)

6. How to Be a Better Neighbor Without Centering Yourself (00:41:00)

7. You’re Gonna Screw Up — Here’s How to Repair (00:51:30)

8. Closing Reflections: Showing Up, Not Perfection (00:57:00)