Transcending the Self

Paradoxically Speaking

This conversation explores the themes of transcending the self and the importance of compassion and concern for others. It delves into the influence of beliefs and perspectives on connectedness and the challenges of balancing self-care and selflessness. The case studies of Mike Tyson and Arnold Schwarzenegger highlight the transformative power of vulnerability and the journey toward selflessness.

The conversation emphasizes the need for clarity, acceptance, and honesty to navigate the complexities of selfishness and selflessness. The conversation explores the concepts of being useful and virtuous, and how they relate to personal growth and development. It emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and honest assessment of one's actions and virtues. The discussion also highlights that developing oneself and acquiring capabilities is essential for being useful to others in the future.

What is Paradoxically Speaking?

Paradoxes exist nearly everywhere — even in the area of self-improvement. In the classic On Becoming a Person, psychologist Carl Rogers wrote, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” When you encounter a paradox — there is potential and opportunity within the tension.

Our conversations typically explore principles and practices from many sides (which we understand may not be for everyone). For example, we are interested in human goodness (virtue) and our capacity for evil (vice). The wisdom of connection and the power of solitude. The importance of structure and the need for flexibility. Although we intentionally explore the complexities of living well — we strive to keep things practical.