World of Bullies #1: Navigating the New World of Adult Bullying

It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

World of Bullies: Bill Eddy's Groundbreaking New Book

In this first episode of our new "World of Bullies" series, based on Bill Eddy's new book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, How to Stop Them, Bill and Megan dive into the timely topic of adult bullying. As co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, they provide invaluable insights for listeners.

Bill shares that his inspiration for the book came during the COVID-19 pandemic when he noticed an increase in bullying behavior across society. He emphasizes the importance of understanding bullies and the need for structure, limits, and consequences to curb their destructive behavior.

Megan highlights that while society has generally evolved to be more cooperative, high emotion media has influenced people's thinking and behavior, leading to a concerning shift in culture.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What inspired this "World of Bullies" series and Bill's book?
• How have the COVID-19 pandemic, the media, online culture, and more influenced bullying behavior?
• How can we effectively deal with bullies in our lives?

Key Takeaways:

• Bullies require structure, limits, and consequences.
• High emotion media has contributed to a shift toward more bullying.
• Bill’s new SLIC method (setting limits and imposing consequences) is effective for dealing with bullies.

This episode sets the stage for the "World of Bullies" series, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of adult bullying and equipping them with practical tools to navigate challenging situations. Bill and Megan's expertise makes this a must-listen for anyone seeking to create a more harmonious environment in their lives.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Our New World of Adult Bullies—How to Spot Them/How to Stop Them (June 2024) By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
• BULLY DYNAMICS WEBINARS
  • Bully Dynamics in Families (September - 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
  • Bully Dynamics at Work (October - 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
  • Bully Dynamics in Communities (November - 4 sessions over 4 weeks)
• ARTICLES
  • Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 1/2 Steps
  • How to Set Limits on Bullying in Congress—and Anywhere Else
  • MTG, Jasmine Crockett and AOC Altercation
  • Billionaire’s wife stinks of entitlement as messages show her trying to bully woman with same last name for Instagram handle
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:35) - New Series: World of Bullies
• (01:58) - The Reasons to Write It
• (05:55) - Why Are We Devolving?
• (08:41) - Mirroring
• (11:02) - Finding Balance
• (13:38) - Increase in Anxiety
• (14:35) - Reacting Faster
• (17:31) - Becoming Isolated
• (18:08) - Unrestrained Personalities
• (20:49) - SLIC Solutions
• (25:11) - Prison and Weinstein Examples
• (28:53) - Congress Example
• (36:14) - Social Media Examples
• (41:37) - Coaching to Not Bully
• (43:18) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Bullys at Work and in Mediation