Growing Up Queer, Building Safe Spaces & Decentering Penetration (ft. Dee Whitnell)

In Bed With Alexa

In this episode, Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with award-winning sex educator, trans activist, and author Dee Whitnell to discuss their unique journey through gender identity, activism, and self-discovery. Dee shares their experience growing up queer, their initial hesitation around exploring relationships with vulva-owners, and how they met their partner, a trans man, who helps them navigate safe spaces and supports them on tough body-image days.

We discuss Dee’s views on handling hurtful misgendering and how they’ve reached a place where it no longer impacts them as much. Dee also opens up about their advocacy work and the movement “Trans Kids Deserve to Grow Up,” inspired by the alarming rate of trans youth who struggle with societal acceptance.

Join us as we explore Dee’s thoughts on separating art from its creator, such as the Harry Potter series, given the transphobic views of J.K. Rowling. Dee also sheds light on the limited rights for non-binary people in the UK and how parents can support children in coming out. Finally, we dive into de-centering penetration in sexual intimacy and why Dee is experiencing some of the best sex of their life.

Whether you're interested in allyship, queer terminology, or redefining sexuality, this episode brings a fresh perspective on identity, activism, and love.