EP 46 | Bob Beare | "Trauma? I Don't Have Trauma!"

Don't Think. Breathe.

Bob Beare is the host of the Deep Waters Recovery Program which is a retreat I've been frequently attending this year. If it sounds interesting, click the link, reach out to me and consider registering. He is also the author of The Creative Fire & Stop Doing Sh*t You Don't Want To Do: A Straightforward Guide to Letting Go of Unresolved Trauma and has been a practicing psychotherapist for the past 25 years.
I met Bob attending the retreats and the weekly men's group he leads and have found him to be a wealth of knowledge. We begin the conversation by discussing the different kinds of trauma (The Trauma Tree: 5 Roots of Trauma) and how they are currently manifesting in people's lives as coping mechanisms. Many of these mechanisms being unconscious which is why I wanted to discuss this. We then discuss the importance of healing this trauma and what that process looks like. We discuss 12 step recovery and different support groups such as ACA and experiential retreats such as Deep Waters. Bob then explains how a proper relationship should form when searching for partnership and intimacy and some common misconceptions about dating and finding love.
Want to learn more about Bob? Check out his website here. drbobbeare.com
Thank you for taking the time to listen! Feel free to reach out to me if you'd like to collaborate in any way. Also, always open to feedback on how to improve the podcast.
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1. Introduction (00:00:00)

2. How Bob's Journey Began (00:05:36)

3. What is trauma? (The Trauma Tree) (00:09:53)

4. The 5 Roots of Trauma: "Abuse" (00:12:46)

5. The 5 Roots of Trauma: "Shocking Incidents" (00:15:03)

6. The 5 Roots of Trauma: "Abandonment" (00:16:48)

7. The 5 Roots of Trauma: "Neglect" (00:17:25)

8. The 5 Roots of Trauma: "Enmeshment" (00:18:10)

9. The Enneagram Test (00:20:09)

10. Coping Mechanisms (00:23:47)

11. Why must we heal ourselves? (00:25:49)

12. 12 Step Recovery (00:27:06)

13. How do we do the work? (00:30:30)

14. The Deep Waters Program (00:39:09)

15. Relationship Advice (00:47:24)

16. The Solution (00:54:04)

17. Where to find Bob (00:59:27)