Mistaking A Painful Narrative for True Connection As An Alienated Parent

Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

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منذ 9 أيام33:58

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Do you feel chained to the painful memories of your custody situation? Like youre obligated to tell and re-tell the same old stories about the same old incidents in order to make sense of WHY this has all happened?

Even if you made a deciosjojn to drop it and move on, do you find yourself feeling blocked or stuck as a result of the power your ex holds over your life?

I did. I was TERRIFIED of becoming a “has-been” parent. So, I held on to the torturous narrative in effort to excuse myself from being alienated, and oddly, because I felt that without the story, I wouldn’t have a purpose… that I would be letting go of the last hint of connection I had with my daughter. Somehow I thought the pain would keep her memory close… But I would ALWAYS end up feeling MORE alienated as a result.

It became an automatic response. I would cry or get angry on cue (I wasn’t doing it intentionally… consciously… it just became my norm…)

In this episode:

Why we hold onto the pain
Pain causing thoughts
Connection causing thoughts
What makes an active parent?
Does the pain of alienation rob you of the ability to love?
How to change the narrative

Register for the April 27th Event! https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/NeutralizeMyPain

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Mistaking A Painful Narrative for True Connection As An Alienated Parent

Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

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published منذ عام واحد

MP3•منزل الحلقة

Even if you made a deciosjojn to drop it and move on, do you find yourself feeling blocked or stuck as a result of the power your ex holds over your life?

It became an automatic response. I would cry or get angry on cue (I wasn’t doing it intentionally… consciously… it just became my norm…)

In this episode:

Why we hold onto the pain
Pain causing thoughts
Connection causing thoughts
What makes an active parent?
Does the pain of alienation rob you of the ability to love?
How to change the narrative

Register for the April 27th Event! https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/NeutralizeMyPain

130 حلقات

#Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Shelby Milford

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In episode 105 of the 'Beyond the High Road' podcast, Shelby Milford shares a deeply personal story about her pattern of losing sentimental items and grappling with self-judgment. She explores the theme of how clinging to the past and its narratives can hinder personal growth and future potential. Shelby offers insights into overcoming negative beliefs and perceptions, especially for alienated parents, and emphasizes the importance of defining oneself and one's future independent of past experiences. The episode also includes announcements about her upcoming live sessions and the opening of the AP survival course. LIVE SCHEDULE THIS WEEK! - 10/03/24: 8 pm EDT Live TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/live/event/7421273599425642542?enter_from=share_link&share_from_user_id=6817526390825550853 - 10/04/24 noon EDT Facebook Private Group - 10/05/24 4pm Facebook Private Group - 10/06/24 4pm YouTube Live 00:00 Introduction to Beyond the High Road Podcast 00:28 Upcoming Live Sessions and Announcements 02:00 The Power of Practical Application 02:35 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs 04:19 Personal Story of Loss & Identity 10:43 The Illusion of Control 18:11 Embracing Change and Moving Forward 29:48 The Role of Perception in Shaping Reality 34:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts…

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Surprising Benefits to Feeling Unsupported & How To Move Through it for Alienated Parents 37:37

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Navigating Hardships: Transforming Struggles into Growth In episode 104 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford discusses practical strategies for managing overwhelm as a result of the challenges we experience as parents who've been alienated from our children. At the core, the episode provides parents with practical & actionable steps to manage feeling like the 'world is against you'. She shares her approach to obstacles, emphasizes the significance of showing up, and offers her thoughts on how setbacks can serve as opportunities for growth. The episode concludes with a reminder to register for a free worry workshop and ongoing group coaching sessions. 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 00:56 Course Details and Group Coaching Benefits 02:49 Upcoming Events and Workshops 03:57 Feeling Overwhelmed: Understanding and Managing 05:25 Practical Steps to Overcome Challenges 07:47 Mindset Shifts for Alienated Parents 11:40 Embracing Growth and Change 22:07 The Importance of Showing Up 36:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 😬Register for the Worry Workshop This Sat Sept 28, 1p EDT 🎈Sign Up for the AP Survival Course! ⏰ Follow Me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondthehighroadcoach…

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Why 'Becoming the Opposite' Is a Bad Idea 38:58

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In this episode, Shelby introduces the concept of 'rulesets' and ‘manuals' that we unconsciously create for ourselves and the people in our lives. She dissects the polarizing advice often given to alienated parents, urging them to 'become the opposite of whatever the alienating parent is accusing you of,' and argues for a more mindful, balanced approach. She stresses the importance of recognizing both good and bad qualities in ourselves and others for personal growth and emotional peace. Shelby also discusses her upcoming course module called 'Roots,' aimed at helping people understand their self-perception and inherent biases. The episode encourages listeners to redefine their perspectives, embrace their unique traits, and find a balanced outlook on life's challenges. Get 25% off the AP Survival Course! https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/alienatedparentsurvival Follow Me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beyondthehighroadcoach Worry Workshop is Sept 28th @1p EDT! Register here: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/WorryWorkshop Article: There Is Nothing Either Good Or Bad But Thinking Makes It So 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 00:58 Course Details and Benefits 03:30 Default Negative Thinking 04:08 Workshop on Worrying 05:30 Rule Sets, Tone & Personal Narratives 08:10 Challenging Black / White Thinking 09:26 "Become The Opposite of Their Accusations" 11:00 Embracing Your Good, Bad, & 'Ugly' 14:25 Haters 15:40 50/50 Concept Introduction 18:50 Finding Peace Through Understanding 30:57 Daily Perceptions and Their Impact 32:53 Conclusion and Course Sign-Up…

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How To Thrive Through the Tidal Waves of Grief 48:10

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Navigating the Waves of Grief In this heartfelt episode of the Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford reflects on the journey of navigating grief, particularly after significant milestones and personal losses. Shelby opens up about her recent struggles with grief waves during the back to school season. She shares insights into the complexities of grief, drawing from her own experiences as well as a touching piece from Reddit that illustrates the unpredictable nature of emotional waves. Shelby emphasizes the importance of holding space for oneself, avoiding the temptation to label or resist emotions, and finding strength through acceptance and processing of grief. This episode serves as a compassionate and encouraging reminder to alienated parents and all listeners that experiencing deep emotions is a part of humanizing and healing, and it's possible to thrive even amidst the sorrow. SPECIAL EARLY BIRD PRICE ON THE ALIENATED PARENT'S SURVIAL COURSE!! ** Coupon Codes " EARLYBIRD " & " EARLYBIRD2 " https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/alienatedparentsurvival…

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Vol. 2 :A Heartfelt & Powerful Tribute to Honor Alienated Parents (Eps 50-99) 1:32:08

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Reclaiming Life: Empowerment and Healing for Alienated Parents In episode 101 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the struggles faced by alienated parents, using her personal experience to offer practical advice for coping with separation and fostering inner peace. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and confronting personal narratives, Shelby provides actionable steps for personal growth, self-acceptance, and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors. She highlights the power of compassion, connection, and perseverance, using the metaphor of a caterpillar's metamorphosis to illustrate personal transformation. Practical tips include reframing negative thoughts, engaging in constructive conversations, and neutralizing life’s events to reduce unnecessary suffering. Listeners are encouraged to persist in their journey towards healing and reclaiming their lives. 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:45 Reflecting on Personal Struggles 05:17 Understanding Alienation and Self-Esteem 08:28 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Challenges 11:24 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 22:31 Functional Freeze and Overcoming Obstacles 44:22 Changing the Narrative and Moving Forward 47:26 The Power of Self-Talk 48:04 Letting Go of Others' Opinions 48:58 Breaking Free from Confusion 50:05 Dealing with Anger and Resentment 51:03 The Pain of Alienation 53:29 Embracing All Emotions 54:20 The Importance of Self-Worth 55:41 Taking Action and Making Decisions 58:55 The Role of Responsibility 01:02:47 Transforming Through Adversity 01:26:56 Neutralizing Life's Events 01:29:25 Final Thoughts and Encouragement…

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Episode 100! A Heartfelt & Powerful Tribute to Honor Alienated Parents 1:07:31

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Healing and Empowerment: Overcoming the Challenges of Parental Alienation In the milestone 100th episode of Beyond the High Road, host Shelby Milford reflects on her journey and the growth of the podcast. Expressing heartfelt gratitude to her loyal listeners, Shelby revisits the difficult experiences of her life, especially parental alienation. She discusses the intense emotions and challenges of alienation, the importance of self-healing, and ways to find empowerment through adversity. Shelby emphasizes the power of personal responsibility in healing, the impact of positive thinking, and the necessity of self-love and resilience. She shares personal anecdotes and offers practical advice to those grappling with similar issues, encouraging listeners to reclaim their happiness and thrive despite their hardships. I want to hear from you ! Vote for the new course format : ⁠https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/Courseformat⁠ 00:00 Introduction and Milestone Celebration 00:49 Listener Appreciation and Personal Reflections 01:57 Challenges and Overcoming Adversity 04:00 Course Announcement and Poll Participation 05:02 Dealing with Alienation and Emotional Struggles 07:44 Finding Inner Strength and Resilience 09:04 Understanding and Managing Anxiety 23:01 The Power of Self-Responsibility 33:43 A Heartfelt Reunion 35:06 The Power of Acceptance 36:36 Overcoming Shame and Resistance 37:45 Embracing New Perspectives 41:57 Taking Risks for Growth 42:46 Daily Habits for a Better Life 44:29 Facing Fears and Taking Responsibility 53:45 Understanding Grief and Coping Mechanisms 58:31 The Importance of Healing 01:02:45 Empowerment and Moving Forward…

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"My Kid Hates Me": The Impact of Cognitive Distortions on Alienated Parents 30:27

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In Episode 99 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby delivers significant insights on how cognitive distortions magnify the fears surrounding parental alienation. Shelby provides an update on her upcoming course aimed for early October, inviting listeners to contribute their preferences for either self-study or group coaching. She emphasizes the life-changing effects of her methods and encourages parents to utilize available resources for healing. The episode explores key fears parents have—such as their child being unequipped to handle situations, believing alienation-triggered narratives, and their child possibly becoming the alienator. Shelby discusses the importance of maintaining a healthy mindset to avoid unknowingly pushing children away and strategically navigating feelings of rejection. She concludes with a preview of the 100th episode, featuring the best moments from previous podcasts. I want to hear from you ! Vote for the new course format : https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/Courseformat 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 00:29 Course Details and Benefits 01:42 One-on-One Coaching Offer 04:36 Free Facebook Group 05:50 Understanding Cognitive Distortions 06:14 Main Fears of Alienated Parents 09:25 Fear of Rejection by Children 16:15 Dealing with Social Anxiety and Rejection 29:55 Conclusion and Upcoming Episode…

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6 Unseen Ways You Might Push Your Kids Away As An Alienated Parent 56:57

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In episode 98 of Beyond the High Road with Shelby Milford, Shelby explores the cognitive distortions that can unwittingly drive a wedge between parents and their children. She discusses key distortions such as excessive positivity, emotional reasoning, and micromanaging, and their impact on alienated parents. Shelby also shares strategies for overcoming these mental habits to foster a healthier relationship with children. The episode concludes with an exciting announcement about a new course designed to support alienated parents, available in both group coaching and self-study formats. Vote for Course Format @ https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/Courseformat 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 01:54 Unintentionally Pushing Your Kids Away 04:14 The Pressure of Positivity 13:58 Emotional Reasoning and Cognitive Distortions 15:47 The Trap of Should Statements 21:43 Micromanaging and Labeling 30:17 Challenging Assumptions in Parenting 30:35 The Dangers of Catastrophizing 31:32 Real-Life Client Stories 39:33 Mind Reading and Fortune Telling 42:36 Overcoming Fear and Rejection 49:48 Course Announcement and Poll…

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