013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage
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Are you prioritizing comfort over connection in your marriage? Many men fall into the trap of avoiding conflict to keep the peace, but this avoidance creates distance and erodes intimacy. In today’s episode, I share why choosing comfort over connection is sabotaging your marriage and how to break free from the comfort trap to build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates disconnection.
- The role of discomfort in fostering intimacy and connection.
- How modern marriages demand new relational skills for lasting intimacy.
Key Takeaways:
- Intimacy thrives when we embrace vulnerability and navigate discomfort together.
- Relationships naturally go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Success depends on how you handle the repair process.
- Avoiding conflict (the comfort trap) keeps you stuck and prevents deeper connection.
Practical Action Steps:
- Daily Check-Ins: Spend 5 minutes each day asking your wife, “How are you feeling? What do you need?” Practice active listening.
- Repair Rituals: After disagreements, reflect on your part and take accountability. Use phrases like, “I see how I hurt you. How can I make it right?”
- Cherishing Challenge: Commit to three small gestures of love each week, like writing a note or planning a surprise.
Reflection Questions:
- When was the last time you avoided conflict for the sake of comfort?
- How can you lean into discomfort this week to foster connection in your marriage?
Connect with Angelo:
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Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com
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Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com
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