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Phil Wang Pitches Psychological Thriller Starring WHO?! 24:35

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It’s the very first episode of The Big Pitch with Jimmy Carr and our first guest is Phil Wang! And Phil’s subgenre is…This Place is Evil. We’re talking psychological torture, we’re talking gory death scenes, we’re talking Lorraine Kelly?! The Big Pitch with Jimmy Carr is a brand new comedy podcast where each week a different celebrity guest pitches an idea for a film based on one of the SUPER niche sub-genres on Netflix. From ‘Steamy Crime Movies from the 1970s’ to ‘Australian Dysfunctional Family Comedies Starring A Strong Female Lead’, our celebrity guests will pitch their wacky plot, their dream cast, the marketing stunts, and everything in between. By the end of every episode, Jimmy Carr, Comedian by night / “Netflix Executive” by day, will decide whether the pitch is greenlit or condemned to development hell! Listen on all podcast platforms and watch on the Netflix Is A Joke YouTube Channel . The Big Pitch is a co-production by Netflix and BBC Studios Audio. Jimmy Carr is an award-winning stand-up comedian and writer, touring his brand-new show JIMMY CARR: LAUGHS FUNNY throughout the USA from May to November this year, as well as across the UK and Europe, before hitting Australia and New Zealand in early 2026. All info and tickets for the tour are available at JIMMYCARR.COM Production Coordinator: Becky Carewe-Jeffries Production Manager: Mabel Finnegan-Wright Editor: Stuart Reid Producer: Pete Strauss Executive Producer: Richard Morris Executive Producers for Netflix: Kathryn Huyghue, Erica Brady, and David Markowitz Set Design: Helen Coyston Studios: Tower Bridge Studios Make Up: Samantha Coughlan Cameras: Daniel Spencer Sound: Charlie Emery Branding: Tim Lane Photography: James Hole…

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Welcome to I Can’t Fux With You: Confessions of an Uppity Black Woman where I, Osato, walk you through all the things I no longer fux with once I have fully accepted my role as an Uppity Black Woman living in America. And what is an Uppity Black Woman you may ask? An Uppity Black Woman is a Woman who has invested in herself, yet the world tells her she is nothing. The world wants her to behave as if she has not invested in herself and she says: “Guess, what I.CAN’T.FUX.WITH.YOU.NO.MORE!” If you are an Uppity Black Woman or if you are curious as to what Uppity Black Women think about, this show is for you. So sit back and enjoy the ride!

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I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Episode 78: Who The Fux Asked You? 38:04

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Oh, when a Mucinex Booger provides you with a commentary to a question that was never asked, it can only mean one thing, misogynoir is at work. This week's offender is Mr. Aries Spears - who recently found himself in the crosshairs of #ubw's minding their own businessessssss on the innanets. The walking bruise informed us that it was not in our interests to wear what he calls "pterodactyl wings" on our faces. These dinosaur references are in response to the false eyelashes that many women wear. Although seemingly innocuous, Mr. Spears felt it necessary to single out the Sistahs in his unsolicited commentary. When examined deeper, it is another example of the "right" many feel they have to comment on the Black Woman's Body and her choices, from eyelashes, to hair, to weight. When these comments are couched in humor, the misogynoir of it, often slides right past us. But I see you, Aries, Chris, Kevin, and Dave. And I say, (and I know my fellow #ubw will join me), I.Don't.Give.A.Fux.What.You.Say.Bout.Me." Now, someone go grab my pterodactyl wings, I got a plane to catch to Miami. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE: Aunt Nancy: Shadow of Betrayal YAMILY HABIB | JULY 8, 2024, How Being Silently Pissed-Off is Fueling Autoimmune Disorders in Women of Color Tariro Mzezewa A Jab at Fake Eyelashes Derailed a Congressional Meeting Kevin E G Perry , Diddy sparks outrage from Cassie’s lawyer as he goes whitewater rafting amid investigation: ‘It’s a bad look DIDDY MOM HOSPITALIZED Suffering Chest Pains Aries Spears Criticizes Black Women Who Wear Eyelashes In Shameless Plug for New Podcast Mucinex Booger Man LYNN ELBER, Pinkett Smith talks hair-loss ‘shame,’ outcome of Oscar slap If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 77: R-E-S-P-E-C-K 43:09

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We not fuxing with dis-respeck this week or anymore my fellow #ubw. It's a word that remains front and center when there is a discussion regarding the relationships between Black Women and Black Men - often when there is a rebuke of the toleration of disrespect, mistreatment, or abuse, be it of the seemingly innocuous kind ("I don't date Black Women") to the incredibly violent kind (of the Diddy variety). Thus, I found it most fascinating that when researching articles regarding the tensions surrounding "respect" when it comes to Black peoples, the quote that continued to be referenced by many, was one attributed to Malcolm X, where he says: "The most disrespected person in America, is the black woman. The most un-protected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America, is the black woman." Hence it is unsurprising that when the Black Woman says, no longer will she be dis-respected, it comes as a shock to those so use to disrespecting her. It is actually quite wild. So wild, that ninjas demand respeck even in toothless and homeless forms! Well, if that is the case, you can catch this #ubw doing push-ups on the pole and sending those pics on a family group chat. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Ala - Grief Harlem Pride Luvvie Ajayi Jones Interview with Fawn Weaver Pole Party at Purple Kisses Pole Fitness Everything Diddy Has Left or Been Dropped From So Far Malcolm X: 'The most disrespected person in America, is the black woman', Speech to women - 1964 WARTIME Issue No. 4 : Money, Power, Respect Respect and Black Men, By Jamilah Lemieux, March 2, 2023 Kevin Samuels, a Polarizing YouTube Personality, Dies at 57 If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 76: On The Replay 47:49

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We are revisiting an earlier episode, and it is apropos. The dusty a** sons are partcluarly mite covered these days. From the ninja whom I deny knowing to America's "leaders" (I see you Byron Donalds) - the paupers in too large King's clothing continue to beat their chests while leaving a trail of unacknowledged disaster in the background. Mamas I come back to you, please, for the love of all things holy, Get.Your.Dusty.Ass.Sons! ******************************************************************************************* The sh*t we not fuxing with today is dusty a** sons! Mothers, please retrieve them, so they are not sent out into the world to terrorize Uppity Black Women. Today we examine a recent viral internet story that would be a full on comedic special if it was not colored with a possibly premeditated burglary, gaslighting, misogynoir, and a dusty a** son. Today we go deep into the story of fellow Uppity Black Woman, Ms. Alexis Douge, of "tabi swiper" fame. Ms. Douge was unfortunately victim to a theft of incredibly expensive shoes. The theft was perpetrated by a dusty a** son she met on Tinder. After engaging in a consensual sexual relationship with this dusty a** son, the dusty a** son proceeded to steal Ms. Douge's very expensive shoes. When questioned about the theft, the dusty a** son then proceeded to gaslight Ms. Douge, stating that he did not steal the shoes, and only admitted to the theft after Ms. Douge put out an APB on the internets and was able to secure a photo of the dusty a** son's girlfriend wearing the stolen footwear. Nonsense all around. While on the surface this whole scenario is tinged with humor, the underlying issues presented here are quite disturbing, and frankly, we should all be frightened. Today we will discuss the vitriol directed towards Ms. Douge, although she was the one violated. This vitriol is based in themes of misogynoir as Ms. Douge's choice to have casual sex, as an Uppity Black Woman, flies in the face of the required policing of the Black Woman's body and sexuality, thus any harm that befell Ms. Douge post this sexual encounter was indeed "deserved" by her. Additionally, we examine the delivery of the shoes to the girlfriend of the dusty a** son. While none of us are privy to the conversation regarding the delivery of the used shoes, what does it say about our acceptance of the minimum in relationship. Are we b*tches that are good with used shoes from our partners? If we accept used shoes, why the fux would anyone get us new ones?! Most importantly we discuss how do dusty a** sons become dusty a** sons! Mothers, you know your son is dusty around 10 years old. As parents, we are responsible for ensuring that we provide our children with the tools they need to be functional members of society. If your kid is dusty, do get them the help they need so they do not end up terrorizing society in general and my daughter specifically. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE You can enter Ms. Alexis Douge of "tabi swiper" fame into the google machine. Essence provides a great overview and additional links to her viral video with images of the dusty a** son. Trey Anthony, If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 75: Play Stupid Games Win Stupid Prizes 47:09

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I'll tell you what we we are not fuxing with, and that is Juneteenth or Father's Day. For the record, the people asked to not be executed at random, and they were provided with a day off from work. Any holiday in which a local school district can switch to a more "convenient" day is not a real holiday. Yes, I said it. We not fuxing with Father's Day either in this 2024. Mine is on punishment, and the ninja whom I deny ever knowing, uses the moniker "king." Le sigh. While clearly this is not the real world, this should not cause anyone's liberation journey to cease. I've been off collecting new items for my table, always pleasantly surprised at my finds which make for the most delicious of feasts. Cole Arthur Riley's liturgies always catch me in a way that take me deep inside. These days I'm unsure if it's the therapy, the medicine, or the pole. Whatever it is, I welcome it. But before we get all emo, another nonsense return of valuables by Mr. Sean Combs aka Puff Daddy aka Puff aka Diddy aka Love (eye roll). Mayor Eric Adams, I'm looking right at you. I mean, is a key to the city actually useful? Oh Negro please. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Marie Laveau - Good Juju Juneteenth and the Pain of Performative Activism Sean Combs Returns ‘Key to the City of New York’ After Mayor Rescinds Honor Cole Arthur Riley, This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us Wawa Unfoldment, Michael B. Beckwith If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 74: Let Me Show You How To Luv Me 1:02:11

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We have a whole lot to catch up on, so we fuxing with a great deal today. We are close to the halfway mark for the year. What dedicated routines have you committed to in order to get some of the promises you made to YOU happen? What do you do when you fall off your routine (there should be a resounding - "get yo' ass back up" from the audience)? We also catching up on that Ninja and the nonsense that we co-sign on. Namely, the necessity of requiring a video before a decision is made to disassociate and return $$$. The people need to see #ubw dehumanized on the camera before they deem it worth it to denounce the devil. Howard University, I see you. But the meat of today's discussion is on tenderness and the mamas. Mine is still on punishment, but I've given her clear direction on how to get out of the time out corner. This is new for me, truth telling about what I need to feel loved from my mama. Who knew it would make the people so uncomfortable. But before we get all up in our feelings, even pulling out the DIC-TION-ARY to define tenderness, it's Pride Month ya'll, and Ms. PepperMint said: Put a Dollar in My Tit**e, Put a Dollar in My Tit**e!! REFERENCES IN TODAY'S EPISODE Eric Thomas, Success Is In Your Routine Howard University Revokes Sean "Diddy" Combs' Honorary Degree After Video Of Assault On Cassie Surfaces Provincetown, MA Montclair Pride 2024 Miss PepperMint IG: @peppermint247 Marilyn Mosby Home Detention To Start Next Week Trey Anthony, Black Girl In Love With Herself , Chapter 1, Dear Mama If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 73: Routine Love Is Not an Extraordinary Ask 42:59

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We fuxing with Black Mothers and Black Daughters today (or maybe not). The fractures between them are conversation topics covered in the annals of sociology, psychology, the chucch, and our homes. It is complex. The relationship with mine has been brought into full relief as I assess its shaky foundation. Mired by the cultural mores that say to have a vagina makes one less than - whose fault is it when the women are complicit in their own demise. This question keeps coming up as I consider why I get more upset with the mothers than I do with the fathers. I know now why - it is because I look to the mothers for protection, yet I feel that it is the mothers who throw us to the wolves. It is counter to the story that is told of the innate "love" that a mother bestows upon her children. My experience has not been one of love, but rather one of care (and great care indeed) and feeding. Care is a foundational element for love, but it is not love. And because we have made the words care and love mean the same, the clash of the Black Mother and Black Daughter is unsurprising - our languages are different. I ask for a love that is routine, a love that sees me, acknowledges and protects. Routine love is not an extraordinary ask. But before we go there, we will celebrate the #ubt (Uppity Black Teens) in my life. Showing them routine love in myriad ways - including ensuring that their legs do not get itchier than they already are. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Tanit - Goddess of Pleasure Globe Amaranth Tea The Wight Foundation Psychotherapist CE Anderson Gives Breakdown on the Emotional and Mental Trauma of Black Mother Daughter Relationships, Black Enterprise Magazine, May 6, 2022 bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions, Chapter Two, Justice: Childhood Love Lessons If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 72: Give Us Free 43:37

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We not fuxing with Diddy. Just no, we will not make it about him. But rather, what is it that the #ubw needs to sever the ties in these abusive relationships? When I consider the through line of when it is that people are more open to having conversations related to domestic violence against women, specifically Black Women, it is when the victim of the abuse, be it physical, emotional, verbal, or financial, speaks truth about it. Consider the abuse experienced by Rihanna (Chris Brown), Meghan Thee Stallion (Torey Lanez), Reesa Teesa (Legion), Cassie (that ninja 1), myself (that ninja 2), the ties that bind sever when the truth is told about it. But what happens after Sis speaks truth? Who has opened up their hands and their hearts to support Sis in feeling whole again. Before we jump there today, happy to share some exciting collaborations coming this Hot Girl Summa indeed - some of which include requiring me to make the following PSA: Don't nobody want your dusty as* son (or shirt) . National Domestic Violence Hotline - Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service Hours: 24/7 - 800.799.SAFE (7233) TEXT START 88788 REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Erzulie Dantor - Energy Chords Larry Jay Gives Worn Clothes A Second Life Larry Jay Ghana What really happens to Unwanted Clothes? The Shade Room: Bishop T.D. Jakes Takes Time During Recent Sermon To Speak On Domestic Violence (WATCH) People Magazine, A Complete History of Chris Brown's Legal Troubles Megan Thee Stallion Reflects on Tory Lanez Shooting: “People Didn’t Treat Me Like I Was Human” Sherri Gordon, Unique Issues Facing Black Women Dealing With Abuse If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 71: Robberies and Abominations 42:23

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I guess we were not fuxing with Mother's Day this year? With a recognition that this holiday can be painful for many, this particular Mother's Day was a reflective one for me. In this season in which I challenge all the things in which I have been trained to believe, the issue that continues to rear its head is the value (or lack thereof) that is placed on my motherhood based on my attachment to a man. Meaning, while I consider myself an amazing mother - I mean, the Uppity Black Girl in my training program (#ubg), is beyond reproach. Yet, in this moment, those closest to me are unable to acknowledge my excellence in single mother parenting because culture will not allow it. Culture has so trained them to think that single mothering is an abomination - putting it on the level of incest and mass murder. So what is a #ubw to do. Nothing. This is a matter that is easily solved. It is unnecessary to look outward to know what my value is. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Mame Coumba Bang - Speak Up @marriageteachablemoments Help A Sister Out // Mother's Day at Change Church // Dr. Dharius Daniels 5 Things All Women Can Learn from Abigail in the Bible Why are African women more at risk of violence? Nigeria tells a patriarchal tale , Sede Alonge If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 70: The Rest Is Sacred 37:54

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We fuxing with rest, in all its forms, because #ubw is exhausted. We are literally waiting to exhale. And if you are a #ubw of a certain age, you are most likely living the movie: Waiting to Exhale . The deep breaths continue. When we do back to back episodes related to the mistreatment, the humbling, the disdain, the disrespect, the persecution - the list continues (MISOGYNOIR).... we get tired. So today we focus on the things that rejuvenate us, and we fuxung with the seven forms of rest - and all of them are critical to our well being. Leave it to a #ubw to have written THE book on sacred rest. Let me correct that, and put some respek on a Sisters name. It was DR. Saundra Dalton-Smith's book, Sacred Rest Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity that outlined these forms. For the uninitiated like myself, the Seven Forms of Rest are: Mental Creative Social Spiritual Physical (Active & Passive) Sensory Emotional Certainly the Sistas coming to Dr. Dalton's office, displayed every type of "#ubw is tired and stressed" illness. I am certain the common refrain Dr. Dalton heard was: Dr. Dalton, I'm exhausted . I feel like that is the catch phrase I hear from my homegirls, on repeat. It is also something that I am saying to them, on repeat (a b'tch is so fuxing tired, she goes to bed at the hair salon). It's not the tired associated with running marathons, but it is the tiredness associated with the external assaults, the draining requirements, the constant battles to be ourselves. All a #ubw wants to do is watch Amanda Seales' guide to fux-boys, chill with my homegirls, and curse a n*gga out from time-to-time (cursing n*ggas out from time to time IS a form of emotional rest - who knew!) REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Atete - Worthiness Waiting to Exhale (on Prime) Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, Sacred Rest Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity Alisha Acquaye, Why Is Exhaustion So Normalized for Black Women? Amanda Seales' Guide to Fux Boys If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 69: What Do We Have to Do to Get the Red One Too? 38:46

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My therapist tells me that I take a great deal of deep breaths during our sessions. I know why - its exhausting navigating the world as a card carrying member of the #ubw club. The people are out in full force, letting us know that misogynoir is here to stay, so my Sisters, be ready. From Amanda Seales, to whom so much disdain is pointed, to Marilyn Mosby, looking at potentially 40 years for some BullSh*t, to Angel Reese wearing rags in an empty room when introduced to the world as a member of the WNBA, to me, whose cultural mores still aim to hem me up, even when I no longer wear the title of "child" or the "exalted" wife. To say a b*tch is ti-red, does not capture it accurately. The through line of all of these is a Black Woman who lives in truth. Amanda says the things that Black folks playing "palatable" are not going to like - including the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, colorism, and fux-boys. Marilyn Mosby had the audacity to move forward with prosecuting the six police officers who killed Freddie Grey in 2015. The audacity of this #ubw to seek justice for a Black Man during the time period when it was free reign to kill us (we had a respite back in 2020/2021 - its back to free reign for anyone confused about our current time period). Angel Reese, dared claim she was a beast on the basketball court (she is), and when her team did not take the top spot and she felt that sting emotionally, she was punished, because of course, #ubw cannot display a range of feelings - ya'll not ready for it. Well, what is a #ubw to do - keep fuxing talking truth - despite the punishment. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE RH Guesthouse Jumbie - Shadow of Masks Y'all Salty When Amanda Seales Tells The Truth, But Never Mad at Katt Williams ... Hmmm Timeline: What We Know About The Freddie Gray Arrest Federal Jury Convicts Former Baltimore City State’s Attorney Marilyn Mosby Katt Williams Scorches the Earth and Every Comedian on It Fans Furious with treatment of Angel Reese during her introductory press conference Gucci Mane - TAKEDAT (NO DIDDY) (Lyrics) If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 68: An Inordinate Amount? 42:21

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We fuxing with lust today, well tangentially fuxing with lust. What we really fuxing with is #ubw liberation and empowerment, and actually saying fux that definition of lust as "disordered." In my God girl and Goddess girl ways, I often find myself in conflict with some tenets of the Catholic Church. A recent homily that focused on the "Seven Deadly Sins," spent an inordinate amount of time highlighting the "deadly" sin of lust as the most damaging to humanity. The dictionary definition of lust is: enjoyment of an inordinate amount of sexual pleasure . Hmmm? What is an inordinate amount? Without that definition, anything pleasurable, whether obtained through sexual activity or otherwise, becomes taboo, suppressed, and denied. When I examine this suppression pre pole journey (every #ubw needs a spin around the pole) and now, it is not coincidental that the pleasure found in sensual body movement and watching the sensual body movement of other women, has integrated itself with other aspects of my life - and the people feel it. Thus, I am able to see with clarity it is the accentuation of my femininity and sexuality that draws the people in. So, if what we have been doing from the beginning - minimizing the pleasurable things - do you know what are the "pleasurable" things that can take you to that next level up? Is it that slim gold bracelet on your delicate ankle on a hot summer day while you wear your strappy sandals? The flutter you feel when you slightly cross those ankles, and see that bracelet. That feeling that is evoked, and you just know - can't nobody fux with you. Imagine for 40+ years you have denied yourself this joy all because this expression is tied to premarital sexual pleasure. I know...the connection is simply bizarre. But that is what the Chuuch said: Ankle bracelet = Whore. Sis, ain't it wild you could have been a bad b'tch this whole time? REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Queen Yaa Asantewa - Goddess of Leveling Up Encyclopedia Britannica, Seven Deadly Sins, Last Accessed April 25, 2024 Monique Moultrie, Passionate and Pious, Religious Media and Black Women’s Sexuality Blackfeminisms.com, On The Church and Black Women Sexuality Chidinma Chisom Unigwe, Anklets Are To Women What Sex Is To Prostitutes… But Who Made The Rule? If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 67: So Fuxing Dangerous 53:22

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We fuxing with rage and pleasure today. This rage card keeps showing up and this rage indeed is warranted. The way the world comes at the #ubw, it is a wonder we have not all ended up in the clink. Instead we have trained ourselves to suppress these feelings and move forward with plastic smiles. We need no physician to tell us that suppression of feeling will not end well. The reinforcement of the suppression of true feeling bleeds into all aspects of our lives. Thus the version the world receives of us is one that is a lie, one that is not trustworthy, and the only #ubw I want in my life - are ones that I can trust. So how can we feel our feelings, and let rage work for us? This is found through engagement in activity that is pleasurable (which is separate and distinct from sexual). We deny ourselves pleasure, and in that denial our lives are not ones based in truth -thus easier to manipulate. Ruha Benjamins recent speech at Spelman College, makes this clear. Audre Lorde in her essay, Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power , makes this clear. Chic-Fil-A, Trump, the Sistas, and Atlanta make this clear. Diamond and Silk of Trump fame, make this crystal clear! How does one reject the status quo, the expectation of the denial of pleasure? Why does the world require #ubw deny herself pleasure? It is because, a #ubw empowered from her seat of power, which is one that moves to the rhythm of what feels good, is so.fuxing.dangerous. REFERENCES IN TODAY'S EPISODE Marie Laveau - Goddess of Good Juju Medusa - Shadow of Rage Inside Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's Unlikely Rise, Time Magazine , March 21, 2019 Osayomore Joseph - When There Is Life There is Hope (1985) Ruha Benjamin - Spelman Convocation 2024 Poor Things (2023) BLACK WOMAN’S SUPPORT FOR TRUMP LEAVES PEOPLE STUMPED: What is really going on here? Cause of death revealed for Diamond of the pro-Trump sister duo Diamond and Silk, LA Times , January 24, 2023 If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 66: Out of Rose? 58:15

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Me and the legions of #ubw who have been silent for so long, most definitely are not fuxing with misogynoir. At least we must be intentional in our attempts to not be complicit actors. It would be unfair to jump to Diddy and the minefield of misogyny that is hip-hop, without examining my own participation given my love of hip-hop - the more vulgur, misogynostic, the better! I know - it is contradictory. However, if I say I am living a life of alignment, that everything that I say and do are a match, then having on repeat a Ricky Rozay song that includes a line that in effect is equivalent to: "Drop that p***y b***h" is in direct juxtaposition to whatever I said before, thereby rendering my words....BS! Imma ease into that elimination of Ricki and the rest from my hip-hop lexicon. But before we get there, life stays filled with joyful disasters. Settling into that as the feeling is incredibly uncomfortable. I can experience the joyful highs of watching my daughter flourish and blossom into this amazing #ubw in training. I watch her at the same time I have to process the disastrous nature of how my ex-husband continues to poke the delicate protective membrane my daughter and I have wrapped around ourselves. For some, the disastrous times appear to overshadow the joyful ones, and its enough to cause one to be broken. I am beyond grateful for the legion of #ubw that allow me to unburden during those times. Sis, my prayer for you is that you have that same legion. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Shadow of Masks - Jumbie Sade - King Of Sorrow - Official - 2001 Vanessa Quilanten, I'm a Feminist who Loves Hip-Hop. Rick Ross and Other Misogynists Can't Change That . Dallas Observer, April 5, 2013 Amy DuBois Barnett, Commentary: For Black Women, the world of hip-hop has always been a minefield of misogyny , April 10, 2024 If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 65: Confused But Not Surprised 41:57

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We outside. We outside. We on Spring Break ya'll, but this #ubw still has something to say. Confusion is one of the things that I don't like to fux with. I enjoy clarity about what is happening around me, so that I can properly assess situations. Unfortunately, the luxury of clarity regarding understanding - why is it, that when we think about Black Women - the emotional and physical harm that befalls us- we accept that that mistreatment is just par for the course? It's confusing (but not surprising) that it feels as if the only people who want us alive is us. President John "Basic" Mosely has been reinstated as the head of Lincoln University, after an independent investigation concluded that there was no wrongdoing linking him to the unfortunate death by suicide of Dr. Candia-Bailey. Basic Mosely put back as head of a whole HBCU traslates to: #ubw: We.Don't.Give.A.Fux.Bout.'cha ! Le Sigh. Confused, but not surprised. The confusion but lack of surprise is why we see a ninja like Diddy still outside. How the dude still on the instagrams when women (and men) have been beaten, raped, sex trafficed, maimed, blown up! When we let monsters roam free, we too become a little bit of a monster, cause we let them go free. Karma will continue to be a bitch to Diddy - and unfortunately this is bitch that he won't be able to fux. But before we get there - we revisit a delightful Friday night in which my Sisters and I, my fellow #ubw, were fed good food. This is food that you cannot buy in a store, but the food, the nourishment, that is based in the loving kindness of other Black Women - the only ones who care enough that we are alive. So be spontaneous, what are you waiting for? What you and your homegirl doing tonight? REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Ayizan - Miracles Goddess Sitira - Brazen Lincoln Alumni Outraged by Reinstatement of President Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs’ L.A., Miami homes raided in sex-trafficking inquiry, sources say Dreams Sapphire Resort and Spa If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 64: But I Already Got The Check 39:36

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We fuxing with Karma, Kevin, and the Krown (KKK - just let me have this one, please and thank you). We continue the karma conversation today as we consider the incredibly draining force of applying energy to those who have done us harm. God/Source/Universe takes care of all - the debt is owed and it will be paid. Kevin and his bank account are literally and figuratively repaying those debts. What pre-tell does the K(C)rown have to to do with Karma and Kevin and #ubw? Well, similarly, the Krown has laid its flag in places throughout the world using brute force and psychological warfare. The significant series of misfortunes including sex scandals, deaths, cancers....the debts will be paid. In today's episode we examine the connections between life as a Queen in a gilded cage (although I am assured it is indeed a beautiful, luxurious prison) and that of a #ubw. But before all of that, sending love to the Uppity Black Women from the inaugural Melanin Meditates: Meditation, Tea, and Intention for Black Women. Thank you for reaffirming the need to always show love to our Sisters, particularly the ones whom we do not know. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE - Mami Wata - Goddess of Emotional Nakedness - Melanin Meditates: Meditation, Tea, and Intention for Black Women - IDEUS 68 oz Stainless Steel Thermal Coffee Carafe - Wendy Williams’ Ex-husband Kevin Hunter Now Demanding Alimony Back Pay, Says His Lifestyle Has Been Affected - Legacy of Violence: A History of the British Empire by Caroline Elkins review – the brutal truth about Britain’s past - Kate Middleton gave us her health news. Are we happy now? If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 63: Let Karma Be a Bitch 47:29

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We are fuxing with joy again today, as Ms. ReesaTeesa and Ms. Wendy Williams back to back have the minds of #ubw reminded of how fragile the mental state and environment of many of us are. Many Uppity Black Women find themselves in similar situations, in part due to the actions of a n*gga. Because really, anyone of us can be making 50 part series or starring in documentaries showcasing the state of affairs in our very messy lives. Often in these dark spaces, there is a great deal of energy spent on picturing the downfall of those who have harmed us. This is a misdirected use of our energy given that the Universe does not allow any debts to go unpaid. Thus those individuals will be taken care of. Mr. Kevin Hunter, aka Mr. Wendy Williams, can attest to that (that n*gga broke!). So if we trust that God/Source/Universe will handle it, what can we do with that energy that we now have available - apply it to joy of course. Yes, Sis, we must be intentional about joy always, even when life is lifing - especially when life is lifing. An easy way to incoprorate joy is to do everyday things in out of the box ways. This can open the door to beautiful spontaneous things - the things that have the capacity to save our lives. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Woman Runs Over Cheating Husband and Mistress in Just Released CCTV Video Sawtche - Goddess of Grounding Khoekhoen/South Africa How to Pole - 5 Steps to Chopper Brooklyn Bridge Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Chapter 3, The Law of Karma or Cause and Effect Kevin Hunter Breaks Down as Wendy Williams Confirms He Is Broke and Homeless If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 62: Who Will Gather You? 43:02

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We are definitely not fuxing with the state of affairs of what is THE Wendy Williams. Having recently viewed the Lifetime documentary "Where is Wendy Williams" (using "documentary" loosely, given the definition of the word documentary is film regarding an event or a person, based on facts - there were a great deal of facts missing from this ) It was incredibly unsettling to see this #ubw in this physical and emotional distress, especially given how the public is familiar with this Uppity Black Woman, hair did, clothes fit, and jewels shining. The current environment of Ms. Williams, one filled with subtractors (individuals who take as opposed to add) and loneliness, expedites her mental and physical decline. Without immediate intervention, soon there will be nothing left to take. If Wendy's story does not heighten the necessity of assessing your circle, like yesterday, when shall you - your life depends on it. Before we get to Ms. Wendy, its Pisces season, and your girl is hitting level 43. Level 43 is wild indeed. In these 43 years, much has been done, now consider that my presence in this form could be for another 43 more - what can I do with that Sis? Sis, what would YOU do with another 43? Change your mind, change your life! REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Mbuya Nehanda Goddess of Radical Rebirth Shona/Zimbabwe Urban Air Adventure Park Where is Wendy Williams? Wendy Williams, The Wendy Williams Experience What is Lent's Meaning and Purpose? If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 61: ReesaTeesa2 - Is it the Chuuch or the The Men? 43:58

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We stay with the story of ReesaTeesa this week, simply because there are many #ubw who are in a ReesaTessa tale right now, however, their stories are not magnified on the interwebs for all the world to provide commentary. ReesaTeesa is a #ubw avatar for how we are trained (or rather not trained) to relationship with men. Our training (or lack thereof) rests on concepts of being a virtuous, pure, Christian Woman who pleases God by living her life in a manner that would be pleasing to her HUSBAND. Thus, if the pinnacle of the good, Christian Black Woman is one that lives for her HUSBAND, living with men who are not HUSBANDS, or having children with men who are not HUSBANDS, is judged, hence, what is a #ubw to do? Marry a crazy n*gga, to avoid judgement and condemnation from the CHUUCH, and have the world captivated by a story that is more common than we will allow ourselves to admit. The s*it I went through (and I am still going through) with my ex-husband, could fill a whole book, movie, and television series. Sis, have you asked yourself, is it possible that we will soon get to watch your story? REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Queen Mother Nanny - Goddess of Liberation Leave the World Behind Reesa Teesa on Instagram Reesa Teesa and the The Theology of Partnership @thekristianasmith Livingstone College Diary of a Black Church Girl: Toxic Purity Culture, by Crystal Payne If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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What's Your Sign/See the Signs 45:43

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As Black Futures Month 2024 comes to a close, we congratulate this year's winner of Corporate Fux ups structurally impacting all of our lives - and that is, this here America. The reason this podcast exists is because of this year's winner! Congratulations to all of our 2024 contestants, including Sally's Beauty Supply , Target Stores , and Lincoln University . After our awards ceremony, we'll jump into the drama that is Ms. ReesaTeesa, owner of the 50+ part, 500+ minutes "series" on TikTok. Like sis created a whole binge watchable universe based in her relationship with a dude she is calling "Legion." One of the dictionary definitions of "legion" is a horde of 3000-6000 men. In the case of Ms ReesaTeesa, we can replace "men" with "lies." What has got the world binge watching the retelling of Ms. Reesa Teesa's saga is the unfathomable circumstances she found herself in, once wrapped in the narcissistic and pathologically lying web of Mr. Legion. ReesaTeesa granted Legion a level of access to her, without doing an excavation/investigation of him. I posit that this is based in the indoctrination we receive as Women (white women, I'm including ya'll) to not question what men say or do. Thus, our training leaves us questioning our intuition and ignoring all the big, red, blaring SIGNS that are all around us. However, ignoring the signs in relationship can be devastating spiritually and physically, as intimately experienced by ReesaTeesa and myself. So what can we do differently to ensure that we take heed when we are presented with SIGNS. Well, first sis, you actually have to see and acknowledge the sign, and in order to do that, my love, you MUST.BE.STILL. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Queen Mother Nanny - Goddess of Liberation Kelli Carter Jackson, The Story of Violence in America The SOMNIUM Series III Party at INTER The Hietori Method Neutral_Lab and Designer TOMOE Jewell House Reesa Teesa on Instagram If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 59: But Are You Flourishing? 44:56

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Sticking with this concept of luxury, we are fuxing with the people who help us flourish. These are people selected with intention. Let's refresh our collective memories regarding the dictionary definition of luxury - inessential but conducive to comfort and pleasure; sumptuous living and surroundings . I consider relationships to fall into this category. They are technically not essential. I guess we can survive without them, although it would be a sad and dry existence. The type of relationships that we have are a matter of life and death - this is not an exaggeration. Our relationships no longer require assurances that the animal will be caught and slaughtered, and the children will be fed. Relationships for the Uppity Black Woman are necessary for self-actualization and flourishing, effectively, we should only be participating in relationships that assist us in manifesting the highest vision of ourselves. Those type of relationships exist when both parties possess the characteristics of psychological well-being. Hence why it's not only the lawyer/bus-driver that is a mismatch but so too is the lawyer/lawyer, when one of our legal eagles does not possess the capacity to assist the other with flourishing, because the n**ga is not flourishing themselves. So what is a #ubw to do. First step - stop believing the lies the people have shared that there are no "good" Black Men, that they are scarce. They are there and available. #UBW must position herself to assess whether SHE is in a space in which she is encircled by those who too are on the journey of self-actualization and growth. It always comes back to YOU booboo. References in Today's Episode Shadow of Scarcity - Socouyant Lincoln University students continue protests on Founder's Day The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett - Paul Brunson: 'The 70/30 Body Shape Is Scientifically The Most Sexy (Podcast) In Search Of Black-On-Black Love Pew Research Center - Interracial marriage: Who is ‘marrying out’? The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel Details about Joan Rivers’ death emerge as lawsuit is filed If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 58: Inessential but Conducive to Comfort 43:43

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There is always time to fux with luxury. It is a privilege to be in sumptuous surroundings. I had a recent experience of being enveloped in sumptuous delights, surrounded by things inessential but conducive to incredible comfort and pleasure. Sumptuous surroundings, the concept of luxury, that to me is the distinction of why I use the term Black Futures Month instead of Black History Month. Black History wants us to emphasize a time where Black People were limited in their ability to openly engage in activity that was inessential but conducive to pleasure. Toiling in the fields is the image that is seared into our brains. Black Futures evokes a time period where the basis of how we live is conducive to comfort and pleasure. In those Black Futures, we are going to look good too! In this episode, we'll also spotlight four Luxury Designer Labels founded by (Uppity) Black Women that you can buy instead of Gucci: House of Takura, Andrea Iyamah, Hanifa, and Frances Grey. REFERENCES IN TODAYS'S EPISODE Oya - Goddess of Storms Target Pulls Magnet Kit That Misidentified Three Black Leaders Baccarat Crystal - Guide to France's Luxury Glassmaker Grand Salon - Baccarat Hotel Helen Annette Njau - House of Takura Anifa Mvuemba - Hanifa Andrea Iyamah - ANDREA IYAMAH Debbie Lorenzo - Frances Grey If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 57: Fux Your Feelings??!! 44:24

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We fuxing with feelings today and how they can direct us to where we want to go. You know I always have stories that prepare me for this podcast, and this concept of feeling all the feels were front and center recently. I am certain that I have had these feelings in the past, it is only now that I have noticed them, like really noticed them and taken stock of what they mean. Take note UBW's the feelings never.ever.lie. The problem is that many of us are not in positions to feel our feelings. We are people of science, and quite frankly, we operate in world in which we often say "Fux your feelings!" I know I did. The feelings though tell you where to go, as well as whose "web" you must shift out of in order to align with the highest vision of yourself. Before we get into feelings though, it is Black Futures Month ya'll, and you know we have to discuss the nonsensical things corporate America has done to kick off this season, which is often fraught with misplaced kente cloth and continued reminders of dog bites, water hoses, and slavery. We know our history is much more expansive than that period of time, even though they aim to make us forget. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Yemaya - Awakening What Is Black Futures Month? Whew! Sally Beauty Catches Backlash Due To Now-Deleted TikTok (Video) Jill Wintersteen - Spirit Daughter What is Wellbutrin? If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 56: 4 Out of 6 40:54

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We are still (and should always be) fuxing with JOY this week (JOY!) and continuing the countdown of 12 ways the Uppity Black Woman #ubw can incorporate JOY in her life in 2024. Last week we went through numbers 1-6, of which included, have more sex (parenthesis: with yourself) which ranked at number 2 (wtf). I can say in the affirmative that over the course of the week, I've incorporated four out of those six joyful ways into my life . How many did you do? Today we go through the next 6 which include: Say No More To Enforce Stronger Boundaries (No is a complete sentence) Make a Better Effort to Hang Out With Your Girls (It truly is the women who will save us) Self-Prioritize Over Self-Care - (Self-Care is not a Saturday thing, it's an everyday thing) Treat Yourself Often (Yes, wear that underwear you've been saving for that random a** n***a) Pick Up An Interesting Hobby (The more useless the hobby the better!) Take Your PTO (Even if you’re not traveling anywhere) (You can stay home (and have sex with yourself)) We'll also walk through the power of manifestation. A recent experience highlighted the importance of continuing with the action needed to align with your highest visions, even when presented with frustrations and roadblocks. The Universe has certainly risen to support me and it was done with such ease and grace. Allow (emphasis on allow) it to do the same for you. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Yasigi - Live Out Loud Parlor Social Club It’s Time For Joy In 2024: Here Are 12 Fun New Year's Resolutions For Every Black Woman Oludara Adeeyo, LCSW, Founder & Therapist, Dark Berry Wellness Trey Anthony, Black Girl In Love With Herself If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 55: Bring Ya' Friends 42:05

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We ARE fuxing with Joy today ya'll. Whew! Dr. Claudine Gay's resignation and Dr. Candia-Bailey's death by suicide had us dark. It was a 1-2 gut punch at the start of 2024. And sometimes I feel that that is where the world wants the Black Woman to stay - to forget that there is unlimited joy that is accessible to us. So that is what we doing today! At the start of the year, Essence wrote an article entitled: It’s Time For Joy In 2024: Here Are 12 Fun New Year's Resolutions For Every Black Woman and I must say I agree with every last one! Maybe not 100% with the order of 1-12, but they are all actual factual, and every #ubw along with her homegirls needs to be incorporating them in her life, Right.The.Fux.Now! Today we discuss numbers 1-6, which include: 1. Try Something Outside the Box (Yes - ice fishing in Quebec sounds like an excellent idea) 2. Have More Sex! (This really should be #1 and should indeed specify having sex with yourself - ahem!) 3. Date Outside Of Your Type (Why helloo there Mr. Chen) 4. See Some World! (You got the cash, I know you do. Besides, Mr. Chen is not local) 5. Journal Consistently (Do that data dump routinely, let it out!) 6. Hot Girl Trots (Go outside. Move that a**) Before we get into doing our joyful moments as it pertains to this particular list, we will discuss some of my own joys which include New Friend-ing and Black People-ing. Sis, I know at times it feels as if there is a concerted effort to destroy the Black Woman and forever steal her joy, but it is available to you - and you do deserve to have it. If no one has told you today - I love you! REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Mame Coumba Bang - Speak Up La Grande Boucherie I Don't Do Clubs - Must Love Beards Purple Kisses Pole Fitness One Line A Day: A Five-Year Memory Book If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 54: Sweet Communion Will Save Us 40:35

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We are fuxing with community today, as this is what I know will save us - it has to save us. It is so early in the year and we are at a crossroads. The alarm bells ring but I feel as if it is a dull noise in the background for those who don't wear the Uppity Black Woman label. In quick succession after Dr. Claudine Gay's dizzying constructive discharge from Harvard, we received the tragic news of another Black Woman in Higher Education. Dr. Antoinette Candia-Bailey, VP of Student Affairs at Lincoln University recently died by suicide. Emails written before her death illustrate that this Black Woman was subjected to sustained harassment and mental anguish from the (white man) President of the University, after disclosing her health issues which included anxiety and depression. Dr. Candia-Bailey did not receive support from the Administration, - including the Board, after relaying the maltreatment that she experienced. She was left to stand alone and bear the trauma OF a hostile workplace IN a hostile workplace. Dr. Candia-Bailey's out was to no longer be here with us. We, the Uppity Black Women, are dying by suicide at alarming rates, and I am frightened - scared for US. It is in these times it is so critical to assess our personal positioning in the framework of community. Firstly, can you commune (commune can be with one person, as far as I am concerned, the two of ya'll are now a collective). Second, are you one that other Black Women can look to as life, meaning do you have the ability to offer community. It truly is the Community, the other Black Women who will save US. My prayer for US is that we all experience the life giving nature of sweet communion. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline - The 988 Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Mbuya Nehanda - Goddess of Radical Rebirth 8 Reasons Why Poor Things Is A Feminist Masterpiece Suicide Rates Among Black Women and Girls Has Climbed for Two Decades OPINION: Dr. Antoinette Candia-Bailey's Tragic End Reminds Me How Much Empathetic Leadership Can Literally Be A Matter of Life or Death for Black Women bell hooks, Sisters of the Yam: Black Women and Self-Recovery, Chapter 10 : Sweet Communion If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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Episode 53: Excellent-ing Ourselves to Death 40:33

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Another day, another attempt to humble an Uppity Black Woman. Before we assess the constructive discharge of Dr. Claudine Gay (and yes, Sis was constructively discharged, even though she resigned from her role as President of Harvard), join me in celebrating the 1 year anniversary of "I Can't Fux With You - Confessions of an Uppity Black Woman." How quickly the days fly by! Thank you to my listeners, my diehards, my supporters. I look forward to continued growth, learning, and spreading the word of all the sh*t this #ubw ain't fuxing wit no mo'! Now, to what I can only describe as the default response whenever a Black Woman is seated in a position of power in this here America, (you could be the night manager at McDonalds, if you are a Sister, there will be problems). Dr. Claudine Gay's resignation, was a re-education for many. I say re-education because on as a conscious level, we know that our accoutrements do not protect us from the insidious racism that permeates the cells of this "great" land. The accoutrements are no match for the seething hatred that is exposed when a Black Woman has the audacity (the audacity!) to be Black, be a Woman, and lead. Dr. Gay's departure was the end result of a targeted attack to knock an Uppity Black Woman off a perch. Dr. Gay's particulars are in a word "Excellent." She is the avatar for Black Excellence and the futile effort that "Excellent" Blacks put in to get to the top, only to be knocked down because they are Black. When the people continue to play in our faces (and play in our faces, with straight faces) what responsibility do Excellent Black Women have to rally the troops and say, enough - we will no longer "excellent" ourselves to our detriment, we will no longer "excellent" ourselves to the grave. The question we all have to sit with is, if we are no longer "excellent-ing" what the fux is it that we are doing? REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE - Goddess Oshun - Goddess of Fearless Love - Harvard names Claudine Gay 30th president - Education Dept. Opens Civil Rights Inquiry Into Harvard’s Legacy Admissions - We Sat Down With the Conservative Mastermind Behind Claudine Gay’s Ouster: Christopher Rufo explains the motivations behind his latest crusade to topple the Harvard president . - Why Some Academics Are Reluctant to Call Claudine Gay a Plagiarist - Claudine Gay Resigns From Harvard: Why Black Excellence Is Never Enough If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Episode 52: 2024 The Year of the King? 42:48

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The sh*t we not fuxing with today is the word "king," and to be clear, we not fuxing with the traditional use of the word "king" as it relates to how Uppity Black Women and Black Men relationship. We have not talked about the celebrities in a bit, but this conversation was spurred by a recent Instagram commentary on Stedman Graham of THE Oprah and Stedman pairing. The words applied to describe Mr. Graham are "confident masculinity." Specifically, a Black Man who does not cower at the bright light of Oprah. He is so settled in his masculinity that Oprah's bigness does not threaten him (nor should it, his lane is not her lane and vice versa). Now, let's compare that to recent viral fodder involving Simon Biles' husband (and that's all he gets in this summary, Simone Biles' husband because I never can remember that n*ggas name, Owens something??). When asked recently about how they met, Simon Biles' husband claim to not know who Simon Biles was. Like, he tried to get us to believe he.did.not.know.who.the.G.O.A.T.was. Oh n*gga please, n*gga please. This to me was a good example of a dude who thinks he is a king (and demands to be treated as such) and displays his "king" nature by displaying cowardly masculinity, a masculinty that dismisses this phenomenal Black Woman (like wasn't Sis on a box of Wheaties??). As Black people we have been complicit in the use of the word king as expressed by Simon Biles' husband. Thus the word often grates me when I hear Black Men want to be referred to as such, when they do not display King behavior, Stedman behavior. Our dedication to the Simon Biles' husband way, one rooted in the imperialism of patriarchy (that one is from the Queen), and not loving kindness and respect, unfortunately has permeated the Black Collective causing true damage to how Black Men and Black Women relationship. True Kings do exist, and Uppity Black Women, we should all honestly assess whether we are complicit in assisting in disseminating (and being complacent with) the sexist model of the "king" in our day-to-day operations. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Goddess Qetesh - Goddess of Sacred Lust Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham's Complete Relationship Timeline Olympic gold medalist Simone Biles' husband Jonathan Owens says he's 'the catch' in their relationship. Her fans disagree. Wheaties Century Collection Gold Box #3: Simone Biles bell hooks, Ain't I A Woman: black women and feminism: The Imperialism of Patriarchy Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Episode 51: Cultivating Compassion is a Work 38:30

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We are actually fuxing with compassion today. How do we make space for compassion when we think we already are compassionate? In this season, I am reminded of the necessity for forgiveness, compassion, and reconciliation, mostly for the people who don't think they deserve it from me. This is certainly a new concept I've never considered - the self-punishment that others may inflict upon themselves, when they know they have wounded us or caused us injury. The Queen lays out this framework in Chapter 12 of Sisters of the Yam, The Joy of Reconciliation. Reconciliation, a beautiful word from the Catholic Sacrament where we confess our sins, and reconcile with the Church since you caused it injury due to your sin. What do you do when confession of sins and reconciliation may not be forthcoming. This is how I feel these days as I assess my relationship with my ex-husband. I am confident that on a cellular level he knows he has wronged me grievously, however, I don't anticipate any confession nor reconciliation. So what is an Uppity Black Woman to do, as my inability to fully forgive him for his acts, colors how I engage with others. Thus I contemplate how I can demonstrate my forgiveness, both inside and out. I can start by committing to no longer referring to him as "mu***f***a" or "that ni**a". I feel that those are easy ones to commit to, or perhaps not, as those two words roll off my tongue just as easy as the words and, but, or or. Cultivating compassion, like love, is an act akin to work. And that work at the moment is hard and laborious, but the more I do it, the easier it becomes. So in this season of hope, joy, peace, renewal, and fresh starts, I am open to creating space in my heart and am willing to be one-directional with my compassion. REFERENCES IN TODAYS EPISODE Queen Nandi - Goddess of Intuition Sagittarius New Moon December 12, 2023 Set It Off Dead Presidents Sacrament of Reconciliation Bell Hooks, Sister of the Yam, Chapter 12, The Joy of Reconciliation If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Episode 50: The Rest Is A Ministry 38:28

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The sh*t we not fuxing with today is exhaustion, You don't need to fall out to know that rest is needed. The end of the year brings non-stop activity, a swirl of to-dos, in addition to all of the other must do's of which include just living life. The word that has been coming to me lately is exhaustion. No, I'm not training for a marathon, but I did not account for the energy that it takes to life, actively change neuropathways, and get mentally cracked open while processing emotional wounds never prior considered. That sh*t is exhausting - who knew? I never prepared for the tiredness that the pathway to healing entails. I am ti-red. I've said it aloud to myself by myself. Almost as a reminder to me that I actually was, less I forget and do nothing about it. But as always the messages that I need to hear are always timely delivered, even at a burlesque striptease magic show (the Universe is creative with her message delivery). It was at this magic show that it was again reiterated that deep rest is required for the healing in which I need and I seek. Rest however eludes many, especially when pushed up against the framework of hardwork to the point of exhaustion - a white supremacist framework meant to make Black people more "palatable." It is in the rest that we are free and have the capacity to dream. Rest is what God offers when He calls the weary to Him. It is the rest that is the restoration. Thus it is of no surprise that integrating the ministry of rest into our lives can be interpreted as revolutionary - the power that rest offers is enough to change our cells in the present. REFERENCES IN TODAY'S EPISODE Goddess Long Bubby Suzi - Shadow of Shame The Gathering Spot Parlor Social Club Cocktail Magique The Nap Ministry Cole Arthur Riley, This Here Flesh, Chapter Twelve: Rest If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman

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Episode 49: Preparing the Ground for Consciousness 42:26

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The sh*t we not fuxing with today is being asleep with the planning for our lives. It's the time of year when we revert to our usual patterns and say, "1/1, it will all be different." But if you've learned nothing at all from me over the course of this year, it's high time Uppity Black Women start to do sh*t differently. So we are throwing away New Year Resolutions, and instead are preparing the ground for consciousness. Like, Sis, is your ass being deliberate in your actions when you plan for your harvest? In this episode, we utilize the farmer's framework in preparation for our harvest season. You have these lofty dreams and goals, but do you have all the supplies you need for prepping the fields, planting crops, and taking care of them until they are ready for harvest? We will review key elements for success that cannot be overlooked if you desire for your dreams to come to fruition. These include: (1) Preparing the soil - Are you a b*tch that needs to remove all the plants from the prior harvest because its trash, or can we simply till the soil, because what you produced this year was beneficial. (2) Planning Upcoming Crops - What is it that you are are trying to accomplish, and what do you need to get there. (3) Consider Past Problems - If you find yourself in the same predicament year after year - it's because you keep skipping this critical step. (4) Get Your Equipment Ready - Do you know what you need to get the job done? Stop playing in your own face everyday, be ready! (5) Check Your Silos and Storage Bins - Okay, so you did it, you achieved the goal, now are you just going to kick back? Is the foundation sturdy? Can you improve? Does it need reinforcement since other circumstances have changed? Do not be complacent. Sis, I want you to be successful, and want all your desires to become reality. For this to occur, we must foster the preparation process. Your abundance awaits! REFERENCES IN TODAY'S EPISODE Goddess Mami Wata - Goddess of Emotional Nakedness Eric Thomas, The Bigger the Dream, The Harder the Grind Trey Anthony, Black Girl In Love With Herself: A Guide to Self-Love, Healing, and Creating the Life You Truly Deserve, Chapter 10: Mindset, Manifestation, and Vision, Getting Rid of Clutter to Find Out What's Important If you are an Uppity Black Woman, ready to say: I.Can't.Fux.With.You! Visit us at omuwaluxe.com to learn more about The Black Woman Liberation Formula. Sis, it is time to unpretzel and get yourself liberated. Want to hear more: Subscribe to The Redefining Series, where we examine certain words, and reinterpret them for the Black Woman specifically. The new definitions encourage the Black Woman to think critically about her current state and the application of the newly defined word to her everyday life. https://www.youtube.com/@omuwaluxe-theredefiningser8183 Sharing is caring. Like and follow us on Instagram @omuwaluxe…

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