أفضل بودكاسات Vicki Tidwell Palmer LCSW (2024)

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#144 - Meet the Boundaries Queen 2:34

7M ago2:34

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Hello, Beyond Bitchy listeners! It’s been a long time, and I’m thrilled to have something new to share with you. When I recorded the previous episode of Beyond Bitchy in 2021, I knew two things: it was time to wrap up the show, and there’s always more to say about boundaries. Then, in 2023, I received an unsolicited offer I couldn’t refuse. Now, th…

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#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II) 33:43

3+ y ago33:43

33:43

Last week, I talked about the first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound familiar, I recommend going back to listen to Episode 142.) This week, I’ll cover the third and fourth essentials: “Live and Let Live,” and “Change (So That I Can Feel Better).” But before we…

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#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I) 39:50

3+ y ago39:50

39:50

I’m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I’m back, I’m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challenges I see across all sorts of boundary questions in various situations. I’ll cover the first two challeng…

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#141 - Are Boundaries a Sign of Disapproval? 18:11

3+ y ago18:11

18:11

People have a lot of misconceptions about boundaries. You may hear people say that boundaries are harsh, rigid, a punishment, or even selfish. Some people even believe that sharing boundaries is a way to control others or tell them what to do. Recently, I’ve heard another misconception: setting a boundary with someone is a sign that you disapprove …

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#140 - ENCORE - Rest, Don't Quit 31:10

3+ y ago31:10

31:10

Lately, have you noticed a sense of collective exhaustion, sadness, and impatience? Right now, it may feel like there’s not a lot to celebrate. This is especially true with the holidays coming up, since they're going to look much different than usual this year. With everything going on, you might feel like you want to quit, because what’s the point…

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#139 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries 33:17

3+ y ago33:17

33:17

At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Ep…

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#138 - ENCORE - Rest, Rejuvenation, & Boundaries 22:39

3+ y ago22:39

22:39

Today’s episode is all about rest, rejuvenation, and boundaries, which absolutely relate to one another! I’ll explain why rest is so important and why it’s so difficult to unplug in our uber-connected, device saturated world. I’ll also give you some tips on how to truly rest and enter into states of being rather than doing, and why rest is crucial …

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#137 - Trade Your Triangles for Straight Lines 23:55

3+ y ago23:55

23:55

Are you ready to trade your triangles for straight lines? Don’t worry, you’re not back in geometry class; this is actually related to the talking boundary. Triangulation is something that we do all the time, but we should all work toward straightening out those lines and practicing direct communication whenever possible. (There are a few notable ex…

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#136 - When Someone You Love Is in Danger 26:22

3+ y ago26:22

26:22

People in your life may be facing a variety of dangers, from mental health issues or suicidal urges to addiction or unsafe behavior. But today, I’ll focus on a specific type of danger: physically or sexually abusive relationships. It’s painful to know (or suspect) that a loved one is in a relationship like this, but it’s also tough to know what to …

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#135 - When Your Ex Doesn't Behave 37:11

3+ y ago37:11

37:11

Before we start, I’d like to offer you a quick apology! You may not have been able to find the earliest episodes of the show because of a mistake in the podcast settings on the back end. That’s fixed now, and you should be able to access all of the episodes again. And now, onto today’s subject! If you have an ex, especially if you’re co-parenting w…

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#134 - Using the Talking Format (Part 3 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary) 32:00

3+ y ago32:00

32:00

Are you ready for the third part of my series on the talking boundary? This one is all about a specific process from the work of Pia Mellody: the Talking Format. This strategy is a roadmap around how to share information with another person, and is ideal for challenging conversations. If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with how to express you…

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#133 - Speaking to Be Heard (Part 2 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary) 36:43

3+ y ago36:43

36:43

If you haven’t heard last week’s episode yet, I recommend listening to that one too if you’re interested in this exploration of the talking boundary. In that episode, I covered what the talking boundary is, and what talking boundary violations look like. This time, I’ll move into what it looks like when you have a healthy, effective talking boundar…

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#132 - She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary 36:37

3+ y ago36:37

36:37

By special request, I’m doing a deeper dive into the talking boundary. I’ve mentioned this boundary in 25 episodes, but I’ve never gone into the level of depth that it deserves. When your talking boundary is functioning well, you express yourself in a healthy, relational way while sharing your authentic reality. You may be surprised by some example…

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#131 - ENCORE - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd) 42:14

3+ y ago42:14

42:14

Right now, in the United States, trauma is speaking. Prejudice and racism wounds, and are potentially traumatizing to anyone who experiences them. But listening to another person’s trauma is a challenging thing to do, especially if we perceive that we may have played a part in their experience — even when remaining silent or looking away. Let’s tal…

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#130 - What to Do When You Regret Saying Yes to a Request 27:13

3+ y ago27:13

27:13

We’ve all been there: you say “yes” to a request or accept an invitation, then realize that it just doesn’t work for you. But are you allowed to change your mind even if you’ve already said yes? As counterintuitive as it might feel, the short answer is that you always have the right to change your mind. And if you think your situation is an excepti…

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#129 - What is "Leaky Sexual Energy"? 19:29

3+ y ago19:29

19:29

If you’ve ever encountered someone whose sexual energy seems like it’s just spilling out all around them, you already have an idea of what “leaky sexual energy” is. While it can be hard to pinpoint or define (and isn’t based simply on what clothes someone is wearing), you’ll generally be able to sense it when someone has leaky sexual energy. Tune i…

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#128 - Bodies & Boundaries 20:18

3+ y ago20:18

20:18

Did you know that tuning into your body is a brilliant source of information about you and your emotions? It can even help you learn about the boundaries you may want to set. The first step is to notice when you feel emotions in your body, and then start identifying which physical sensations track to which emotions for you. Biggest Takeaways From E…

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#127 - ENCORE - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited 36:04

3+ y ago36:04

36:04

From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11 ways to avoid biting it. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #9…

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#126 - Are Your Consequences Punishment or Self-Care? 20:31

3+ y ago20:31

20:31

The next monthly boundaries clarifier workshop is coming up next Tuesday, March 23, 2021! Bring an issue or boundary, and we’ll all work on it together by using the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. But let’s get onto today’s topic: your responses to boundary issues and why self-care can be a far better choice than consequences. In fact, whenever…

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#125 - You Have the Power: Revisiting Step 3 of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Process 50:38

3+ y ago50:38

50:38

In case you haven’t already heard, I’m holding monthly boundaries clarifier workshops. At these events, we walk through the first four steps of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. Today’s episode was inspired by something that came up in the very first of these workshops: Step 3 (Identifying Your Power Center) is challenging for a lot of people…

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#124 - Repeat After Me: I Am Not Responsible For Other People's Feelings! 30:43

3+ y ago30:43

30:43

You are not responsible for other people’s feelings. This may feel hard to believe if you tend to immediately feel responsible and guilty when someone is upset with you (as many of us do!). Tune in to learn how to navigate situations where someone else is blaming you for their reaction or feelings, and why it’s so dangerous to believe that we are r…

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#123 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries 34:36

3+ y ago34:36

34:36

At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is the kind of self-care I’ve been practicing for the last several weeks, and why there was a gap between Ep…

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#122 - What Other People Do is 100% About Them 18:34

3+ y ago18:34

18:34

Lately, I’ve been focusing on the theme of “return to you.” And getting caught up in the belief that what other people do is about you can get in the way of returning to, or knowing, yourself. So I’d like to dedicate this episode to exploring the fact that what other people do is in fact about them, not you. If that idea sounds counterintuitive or …

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#121 - Quick Tips #16: When Grandma Pushes Your Limits 21:41

4y ago21:41

21:41

Sooner or later, every single one of us will feel manipulated by someone. That’s why this episode is for you, even if you don’t specifically have a grandmother who’s pushing your limits. Today I’ll cover some strategies to help you find solutions in these situations. One point that I can’t emphasize enough is how important it is to focus on what yo…

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#120 - The Man Cave, Take 2 39:55

4y ago39:55

39:55

In case you missed it last time, I have an exciting announcement! Next month (February 2021), I’ll be starting a brand new event: a monthly live, interactive boundary clarifier workshop. Sign up here to be the first to get updates! If someone is doing something that you don’t like in any of your relationships, this episode is for you. You may remem…

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Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries

Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW

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#144 - Meet the Boundaries Queen 2:34

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#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II) 33:43

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#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I) 39:50

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#141 - Are Boundaries a Sign of Disapproval? 18:11

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#140 - ENCORE - Rest, Don't Quit 31:10

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#139 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries 33:17

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#138 - ENCORE - Rest, Rejuvenation, & Boundaries 22:39

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#137 - Trade Your Triangles for Straight Lines 23:55

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#136 - When Someone You Love Is in Danger 26:22

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#135 - When Your Ex Doesn't Behave 37:11

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#134 - Using the Talking Format (Part 3 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary) 32:00

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#133 - Speaking to Be Heard (Part 2 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary) 36:43

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#132 - She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary 36:37

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#131 - ENCORE - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd) 42:14

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#130 - What to Do When You Regret Saying Yes to a Request 27:13

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#129 - What is "Leaky Sexual Energy"? 19:29

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#128 - Bodies & Boundaries 20:18

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#127 - ENCORE - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited 36:04

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#126 - Are Your Consequences Punishment or Self-Care? 20:31

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#125 - You Have the Power: Revisiting Step 3 of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Process 50:38

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#124 - Repeat After Me: I Am Not Responsible For Other People's Feelings! 30:43

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#123 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries 34:36

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#122 - What Other People Do is 100% About Them 18:34

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#121 - Quick Tips #16: When Grandma Pushes Your Limits 21:41

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#120 - The Man Cave, Take 2 39:55

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