Reimagining the Meaning of Safety: A Law Enforcement Officer's Journey - with Kyle | Ep. 86

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Kyle’s career in law enforcement defined him as a safe person, dedicating his life to keeping his community and those who live in it safe from harm. Imagine his surprise when he learned the root cause behind his dwindling sex life was because his wife felt unsafe around him. It took him several weeks of coaching with Janna to really understand the meaning of the word unsafe in the context of Wanting It More - his wife felt unsafe to share her true feelings without negative consequences like guilt, shame, or blame. It wasn’t about her physical safety that was causing her low sexual desire; it was the lack of emotional safety.

Through guidance from Janna and reflection on his upbringing, Kyle recognized the impact of societal norms on his behavior. Embracing accountability and growth through the Wanting It More program, Kyle transformed his approach, prioritizing emotional connection and mutual respect. His commitment revitalized their communication and reignited passion, underscoring the transformative power of fostering emotional safety within relationships and highlighting that change, rooted in empathy and dedication, can lead to profound intimacy and fulfillment in marriage.

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