Tao Te Ching Verse 66: Leading from Behind

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Tao Te Ching Verse 66

translated by Dwight Goddard
The reason rivers and seas are called the kings of the valley is because they keep below them.

Therefore the wise ones desiring to be above their people must in their demeanors keep below them; wishing to benefit their people, they must ever keep themselves out of sight.

The wise dwell above, yet the people do not feel the burden; they are the leaders and the people suffer no harm. Therefore the world rejoices to exalt them and never wearies of them.

Because they will not quarrel with anyone, no one can quarrel with them.
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In meditation, I have tried to force myself to be present. This works poorly for me, especially when I’m agitated. Sometimes, I’m all focus focus focus, and I end up trying too hard and then I’m focusing on focusing, and then a thought creeps in, and then I’m all noooo that’s not how you do it, then I try to focus harder. At the end of the session, I just give up and tell myself I’ll try again.

Sometimes, I’ll tell myself that no, I’m not going to eat this. Or entertain thoughts of grandiosity. Or argue with others. I say no Dan, we’re better than that. Stop it. And while I may be able to control my physical behavior, I end up agitating myself and holding things in because even though I haven’t done the thing I didn’t want to do, I’m still wanting to do it.

Probably more so, since I told myself no. So what’s the deal here? I thought that following Tao I would be able to control this stuff.

At this point, I can ask myself - which ruler am I being right now? Am I the despot, the dictator who is ruling with fear and punishment? Or am I being the Sage that leads from behind? Well, let’s have a look: I tell myself no, and I mean it, we’re not going to do this, think this, feel this. And then I say for good measure, if we do, think, or feel this, you won’t be worthy, you’ll be weak and a failure. And then if I avoid doing it, I feel all proud, like yeah, I made that happen. Or if I don’t avoid doing it, I punish me with the same feelings with which I threatened myself. Does this sound familiar? I think this is a natural thing for us to go through...until we can become aware of and begin practicing the way of the Sage.

As the Sage, I am the gentle, weak force of gravity that gives myself a choice - and I side-step that exhausting battle completely. I lead from behind, gently guiding me, giving me the choice. Most of the time, I end up not doing the thing, being ok with the feelings, or suffering no consequence of idle thoughts I’ve given no power. When I’m aware, of course.

There are also times when I just can’t be willing. But if it’s really really important for me to not do stuff, I have yet another tool I can use! Yes, I can ask the Tao to help me be willing. It’s OK to be vulnerable, remember? It’s ok to ask the universe for help. Actually, I’ve found this to be a great thing to practice. If I’m open and patient, I gradually do become willing. All I need is a little trust, a little patience, and then a little gratitude. And of course compassion with me in case I don’t get it right the first, second, or 50th time. The Tao provides. Like every time. All I need to do is to keep walking on the Path.

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Tao Te Ching Verse 66

translated by Dwight Goddard
The reason rivers and seas are called the kings of the valley is because they keep below them.

Therefore the wise ones desiring to be above their people must in their demeanors keep below them; wishing to benefit their people, they must ever keep themselves out of sight.

The wise dwell above, yet the people do not feel the burden; they are the leaders and the people suffer no harm. Therefore the world rejoices to exalt them and never wearies of them.

Because they will not quarrel with anyone, no one can quarrel with them.
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Serving and Leading Ourselves

Probably more so, since I told myself no. So what’s the deal here? I thought that following Tao I would be able to control this stuff.

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Tao Te Ching Verse 74: Disqualifying Ourselves from Managing 27:56

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 74 translated by Frederic Henry Balfour If people do not fear death why attempt to frighten them by capital punishment? Supposing the people are made constantly afraid of death, so that when they commit unlawful acts I arrest them and have them killed, who will dare [afterwards to misbehave]? For then there will always be yiu-sze, or civil magistrates, to execute them. Now the execution of men on behalf of the inflictor of the death-punishment [by those not legally qualified to do so] may be compared to hewing on behalf of a master carpenter; and people who [attempt to] hew instead of a master carpenter mostly cut their hands. Photo by Wonderlane on Unsplash The Master Carpenter’s Hatchet Did you ever try to unload your worry onto someone, calling it venting? But deep down, you just needed someone else to worry about it other than you because you were tired of it? Uncomfortable though it is to admit, I catch myself doing this once in a while with my spouse. Or sometimes when I feel insecure about something, I need to see that others feel the same way so I don’t feel as bad? I mean, one part of that is me looking for solidarity, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. But the other, sneakier, darker part of me is wanting someone else to shoulder the responsibility of being concerned about something that’s bothering me. For me, there is such a fine line there that is so easily blurred. How do I know when I’m crossing it? Two ways: I either realize what I’m doing when I see the other person start to own my feelings for me - or the whole thing just doesn’t stick. You know, when you sit down with that person, have a heart to heart, and tell them they need to worry about so and so or such and such. And they shrug and say, ‘not my problem.’ And idk about you, when this happens, I feel like I’ve slammed into a crick wall, nose first. I really hate the way that feels. For a long time, I allowed that to create resentment between me and others. How dare they, I would say. I’m just trying to show you something that will make things better for you. I’m just trying to get you to see things so you don’t have to learn them the hard way. But aren’t I really just being lazy by trying to escape vulnerability? If I am successful in projecting my insecurity on to someone, I feel somehow like I’ve dealt with it. Only I haven’t - I’ve just given it to someone else to deal with. And you know what’s even more heinous? That person may deal with it in a healthy manner - perhaps - but perhaps that person won’t, and perhaps they’ll try to give it back. Like in a lot of different ways - as humans, we are cunning creatures that have this ability to use language, circumstances, and imagination to convince ourselves and others that reality looks a certain way. So even if the other person tries to give it back directly and I reject that attempt, it will come out in other ways, ways of which I’m not even aware.…

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 73 translated by Isabella Mears A person with courage and daring is slain, A person with courage and self-restraint lives. Of these two, the one has benefit, the other has injury. Who can tell why one of them should incur Heaven's Wrath? Because of this the self-controlled person has doubt and difficulty. Heavenly Tao strives not, but conquers by love; It speaks not, but responds in Love; It calls not to people, but of themselves they come; It slowly is made manifest, yet its plans are laid in Love. The net of Heaven is widely meshed; the meshes are far apart, yet nothing escapes from it. Photo by Erol Ahmed on Unsplash Maybe Yes, Maybe No Wait, what? You mean that sometimes I can’t help but act selfishly and sometimes that’s OK? Not only that, but I thought that acting non-selfishly was the way to place myself into Harmony with the Tao. Interesting indeed. I’d like to tell a short story - maybe you’ve heard it before. It’s the story of the Chinese Farmer, as told by Alan Watts: Once upon a time there was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.” The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.” The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.” Commenting on this story, Alan Watts says, ‘The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity, and it’s really impossible to tell whether anything that happens in it is good or bad — because you never know what will be the consequence of the misfortune; or, you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.’ I’ve heard this story used to illustrate the benefits of non-judgment before, but it hadn’t occurred to me that it can also serve to show us how the Tao moves, dare I say, in mysterious ways. Honestly, the whole paradigm is too complicated for me to analyze, personally. Like when should I do this or be that, or how do I know when to teach, when to learn, all that. I mean, maybe a quantum ai algorithm can figure it out at some point, but for now, it’s simply too much for my mind to bear. Perhaps that’s why just trying to stick to one thing and being ok with making mistakes is the best thing for me to do, according to Lao Tzu. Kind of like a, ‘I’ll do my part, the Tao does its part’ thing. I’m OK with that for now.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 72: Reflecting 29:06

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 72 translated by Charles Johnston When the people fear not what should be feared, then what is most to be feared descends upon them. Beware of thinking your dwelling too narrow; beware of resentment over your lot. I resent not my lot, therefore I find no cause for resentment in it. Hence the Saint knows herself and does not make herself conspicuous; she exercises restraint and does not glorify herself. This is why she shuns the one and follows the other. Photo by Alex Iby on Unsplash Being Happy with What We've Got Advancement, physical, emotional, or spiritual, does come from a desire to want to be better. But the desire must be short lived - for me, it’s the act of thinking hmm, maybe I’ll grow a plant so I can have tomatoes. I must then stop wanting to plant it and actually take the necessary actions to grow it. So I think being happy with what I’ve got means that it’s OK to push forward and grow - that just seems to be loving myself as Lao Tzu puts it; but the moment I resent where I’m at by feeling envy over others’ stuff - well, that’s where I’m exalting myself, which is what he warns against. I think I can apply this to my own spiritual growth. Sometimes I’m all, man, it would be so cool if I could use the force. I wouldn’t have to get up off the couch - I could levitate the cup, get the water, and have it float on over. Or in other matters, I sometimes think, ‘bro I want to be so enlightened bro, like I could trip out anytime I wanted, I could like float around and not have to worry about normal stuff, you know?’ When I say I want to sit there for hours without thinking about anything, or be able to create situations just by thinking about them, or any other number of neat-o byproducts of spiritual growth which in some circles are call achievements, I am actually blocking my own progress. And how? I take my mind off of chopping wood and carrying water and think about how warm that fire’s going to be and how awesome that tea will taste. When I start thinking about these things, I slow in my chopping and carrying; I distract myself from the task at hand and diminish my productivity, so that I might not have enough wood to make that sick fire that gets hot enough to make that tasty tea. Metaphors aside, when I start concentrating on so-called spiritual accomplishments, I stop doing the things that will get me there in the first place - practicing desireless concentration on dissolving the bondage of self. At least that’s my take on it, for now. But I think the main point is this: keeping in mind that what I think, say, and do reflects right back at me, whether it’s ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ I would do well to practice contentment with my life, life situation, and goals. I can certainly have goals, yes - but I must be careful to still enjoy and be grateful for what I do have. Otherwise, that magical universal mirror will prevent me from getting what I want in the first place. I can always be open, willing, and available to receive things that will allow me to grow economically, socially, and spiritually. I can also always be appreciative of what’s right in front of me right now.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 71: Working Toward Conscious Awareness 25:22

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 71 translated by Hua-Ching Ni One who regards one’s intellectual knowledge as ignorance has deep insight. One who overrates one’s intellectual achievement as definite truth is deeply sick. Only when one is sick of this sickness can one cease to be sick. One who returns one’s mind to the simplicity of the subtle truth is not sick. One knows to break through conceptual knowledge in order to directly reach the subtle truth of the universe. This is the foundation of one’s health! Photo by Harry Cunningham on Unsplash Break On Through to the Other Side Jim Morrison’s song lyrics aren’t all that far off from this second part of the verse. He starts out talking about the day destroying the night and night dividing the day. Hmm, sounds kind of Yin and Yang to me. Then there are the last couple verses in the song that talk about there being a side of life that is there and different from our immediate perceptions. In this Tao Te Ching Verse, Lao Tzu says that because we recognize that our minds can’t think us into blissful enlightenment, just that recognition alone is what allows us to look in a different direction that unlocks the door to connection with the Tao. To me, this is clear only after I have taken some time to reflect how the Tao isn’t a concept; rather, it’s a thing we call that universal truth that we are always experiencing. Some folks call it God, some call it the universe, some call it Allah, some call it the Buddha, nirvana, Shiva, Kali - while there are subtle differences in each of those personifications, the list of ways we refer to that universal truth are pretty much the same. It is the spiritual energy that moves around and through us, of which we very much are a part. You can’t start a gasoline-engine car by getting in and willing it to turn on. We can’t access the Tao just by enhancing our knowledge of it. The car needs a key, a human to turn the key, and a bunch of other parts to work together. We must open ourselves to the Tao, be willing to be vulnerable with it, allow it to show us things and do things for us. We must feel the Tao to access it. So not gonna lie, this seemed impossible for me in the beginning. Mostly because I had no idea what I was supposed to do. But, with a little patience and by practicing some of the other verses in this book, I was able to catch a clue, and as long as I continue to practice, I find that truth after truth is revealed as I progress.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 70: Paying Attention 31:12

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 70 translated by Bruce R. Linnell My words are very easy to understand, Very easy to practice. But there is no one in the world who can understand them, There is no one who can practice them. My words possess a lineage, My duties possess a ruler. Now : only because I am without-knowledge, Thus I am not understood. Those who understand me are rare, Consequently I am one who is valued! Thus the sage wears coarse cloth, but carries jade in her Heart. Photo by 五玄土 ORIENTO on Unsplash The Return to Harmony How would you describe the color red to a person who might be born without sight? Here you are, around colors your whole life, watching them mix to create new colors, playing around with them, and you are trying to describe what sensation you get when you see the color red to someone who simply doesn’t know. Lao Tzu says that his teachings are easy to understand and easy to practice - like our ability to experience things. In Harmony with the Tao, Lao Tzu practices the Way - which when you’re in it, in flow, you get it. Maybe like a dream? When you're in the dream, things just seem to make sense, whether they’re logical or not. That male person who is embodying my mother and who is popping wheelies in a car over there? That all makes sense - at the time. But then I open my eyes and try to make sense of it, or even more challenging, try to explain it to someone else, and well, yeah. Not happening. So yes, easy to understand and easy to practice - if you get it. Which is why I feel he says that even though they’re easy, no one can understand and no one can practice. The Tao is something that you just have to ‘get,’ isn’t it? Well that’s not fair, I might say. How is it that the Tao is available to everyone and yet I can’t get it if I don’t get it? Well. on the surface, it would appear that all doors are locked, wouldn’t it? Like if I’m not plugged into the Tao, I’m basically talking about something that might as well be a dream, or an imperceptible color. I guess it’s a good thing that the Tao is always giving. All I need to experience just a tiny bit is a little bit of the opposite of what I’ve got between my two ears in the beginning. For me, and most of the time, I had habits of shutting out the Tao - they just developed as my sense of self did. You know, fear, anger, embarrassment, guilt, shame. Those things. But when I started looking in the opposite direction of those things, the Tao suddenly unlocked its doors and I was able to enter. Actually, I think it was me who unlocked those doors from the inside - the Tao did nothing except remain available. By practicing compassion, contentment, and humility - the three treasures - I am able to access the Tao. What seemed inaccessible before now becomes something I’ve always been able to get. Like Dorothy’s red slippers, I have with me the ability to travel home any time I want by concentrating on practicing the three treasures. So, easy to practice and easy to understand? You bet! When I am of the world and concentrating on my worldly stuff and giving attention to all the ego-feeding desires I have? It’s pretty much impossible for me to access the Tao when I am 100% invested in that stuff. Thankfully, I’ve got tools like natural compassion, contentment and humility that I can tap into at any time to offset those things and return to Harmony.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 69: Practicing Humility Humbly 30:19

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 69 translated by Bram den Hond Those who use weapons have a saying which goes: "I do not presume to act like the host but instead play the part of the guest; I do not advance an inch but would rather retreat a foot". This is called moving forward without appearing to move - Rolling up one's sleeves without showing one's arms - Grasping firmly, without holding a weapon - And enticing to fight when there is no opponent. Of disasters, there is no greater catastrophe Than thinking you have no rival. To think you have no rival, Is to come close to losing my treasures. Therefore when weapons are raised, and opponents are fairly well matched, Then is the one who feels grief that will win. Photo by KT on Unsplash Practicing For me, I have found humility to be an ongoing practice, one that requires constant attention and balance. I have experienced two sides of humility: The first is when I feel I am superior to others or have superior morals or have said superior things or have acted in superior ways. I sometimes allow these feelings of superiority into my mind as a shortcut to connecting with the Tao. I say, look, there is evidence that we are OK and we are worthy of Harmony. I feel like this is a shortcut because it still takes an effort from me to move into Harmony - I must get still, become aware, and focus. Having not done this for much of my life, it is difficult for now. I suspect in a few years it will get easier. To practice humility in this case, I must remember that I am always OK and there is no need to feel superior to anyone or anything. The other side of humility is when I feel unworthy. During life, there are things that occur or things that I interpret that I allow to make me feel insecure. Emotionally, financially, intimately, or socially insecure. Those are the main categories for me. This feeling of insecurity - it’s this feeling of ‘ick’ that makes me wonder if I’m even allowed to be there in life. Like there are others that are way more worthy than I am. These insecurities are also shortcuts. They are the result of me looking at what I think is evidence and being OK with the outcome - that I don’t deserve my own love because I am defective, somehow. I say this is a shortcut because it takes work and introspection to remember that despite what I may experience through my corporeal senses, I am still a perfect expression of the Tao. In the moment, it’s easier to give in and move on. And again, it is difficult for now to stop, dig through that programming, and reassess any false beliefs I have around my insecurities. When, in the midst of a busy life, I find that once in awhile, I can feel like I‘m directly in the middle of infinity because I have practiced humility, I know that all is right with the world. I wish this and more for you. And that will wrap it up. Thank you for considering the principle of Practicing Humility humbly with me today.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 68: Practicing Non-Contention 26:41

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 68 translated by Lin Yutang The brave soldier is not violent; The good fighter does not lose his temper; The great conqueror does not fight (on small issues); The good users of people place themselves below others. - This is the virtue of not-contending, Is called the capacity to use people, Is reaching to the height of being Mated to Heaven, to what was of old. Photo by Mario Klassen on Unsplash Practicing Non-Contention What do I secretly wish was better about life? In my worldly life, I secretly wish I had an awesome car. Next, just sitting with this, I can ask, what does this have anything to do with my social status? Do I think that if this thing was better, it would mean that I would be satisfied? And now the next question: why? This one is where I need to be super honest with me and consider how much of this thing I wish was better has to do with my social status or who I think I’ll be as an individual. If I had a dope ride, for example, I could roll around looking awesome and I’d have this feeling of ‘got my stuff together’ ness. Sure, a nice machine is a nice machine, and great speakers, that awesome new car smell, the sleekness with which I slide in and out of the cockpit - those are all things that are pleasurable and are a joy to experience. Apart from that, though - are they the things that are worth the money or effort that I would spend getting that experience? Or is there more to it than that? With that money, don’t I also get bragging rights, a quiet sense of satisfaction that I can afford such a cool thing? So the next question I can ask is, if I had this thing that I secretly wished was better, how would I use it to compete with others for emotional security or social status? If I had a great car, I could allow myself to feel a little superior to the other cars on the road. If I had a spouse that listened every time I said something, I would have important things to say. If I had a boss that told everyone how much she depends on me, I would be the best worker. If I was the cool kid in my group of friends, I could walk around and be myself without having to doubt. And if I was spiritually achieved, I could just plug into the Tao at will and make cool stuff happen. I guess the good news is that there isn’t a shortage of ways we can practice non-contention. For me, I can start with the big things and ask why I secretly wish something was different. I can identify what I’m trying to get out of that secret wish, and I usually find that it’s because I want to feel more secure about - anything - in relation to other people. There must be people there to acknowledge I have a sick ride. There must be people there to listen to me. There must be people there to say I’m the best worker or the coolest friend. And there must be an unrealistic standard against which I am measuring myself in spiritual matters or personal achievements. When I identify this aspect of competition within myself, I can consider how allowing the Tao to control that aspect would look. If I took my competitive attitude and set it aside for a moment, I can observe how according to Tao it could be irrelevant or how I could focus on another, more positive aspect. I could practice non-contention, and see how, when choosing this way forward, things turn out better than I could have imagined or planned.…

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Tao Te Ching Verse 67: The Three Treasures 27:18

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Send us a text Tao Te Ching Verse 67 translated by Ellen Marie Chen All under heaven say that my Tao is great, That it seems useless (pu hsiao). Because it is great, Therefore it seems useless. If it were useful,It would have long been small. I have three treasures (pao), To hold and to keep: The first is motherly love (tz'u), The second is frugality (chien), The third is daring not to be at the world's front. With motherly love one can be courageous, With frugality one can be wide reaching, Daring not be at the world's front, One can grow to a full vessel (ch'i). Now to discard motherly love, yet to be courageous, To discard frugality, yet to be wide reaching, To discard staying behind, yet to be at the front, One dies! One with motherly love is victorious in battle, Invulnerable in defense. When Heaven wills to save a people, It guards them with motherly love. Photo by N. on Unsplash The Cycle Not gonna lie, I’ve done this whole verse backwards for most of my life. Which I guess is OK, given that the nature of the Universe is cyclical! Here’s what I mean: Lao Tzu says that there is a divine order to things. It starts with compassion, then leads to contentment, then continues with humility. If one lives life in placing these virtues second, one courts disaster. When things are confusing, he says, remember to just start with compassion. Right now, in where I’m at, If I were to sum up the Tao Te Ching, I’d use this verse as the cover page. Of course, I love how it is ensconced about 80% of the way through, mostly because of the reason Lao Tzu cites in the very first part - that it’s great and all but doesn't seem to have anything to do with real life. So in my pain, I became receptive to the first 80% of this teaching and practiced it as best I could along the way. This has made me even more receptive to what is for me in this moment the crux of the Tao Te Ching. I mean we’ve talked about the different ways and aspects of compassion. We’ve talked about not judging, we’ve talked about fighting and then mourning the fight, we’ve talked a bout that do-nothing thing. We’ve talked about contentment. Becoming aware of desires and abandoning them, attending to no-affairs, and non-competition. We’ve talked about humility, too. Abandoning identity, service others and giving, and being vulnerable. I feel like Lao Tzu sums up all these things for us in this verse. And not only does he say that these are the main things we’ve been discussing, he also presents the cycle, so if people like me have done it backwards, I can use the light to guide me back home. It starts with compassion, he says. Practicing that will lead me to contentment and practicing contentment will lead me to humility. When I am close and connected with these three things, I then discover that life seems to be worth living. I find limitless opportunities to take advantage of being in human form. Once I am connected - and I can reconnect any time by practicing - I move back into Harmony and can really begin consciously participating in the Divine Infinite.…

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