#322 High Scores, Low Opinions: Does 'Body Count' Really Matter?

The Niall Boylan Podcast (They Told Me To Shut Up)

In this episode, Niall tackles a divisive topic: Does the number of past sexual partners—often called “body count”—really matter when it comes to choosing a long-term partner? The conversation stems from a listener’s email detailing tension with his girlfriend after learning about her sexual history. He admits feeling shocked and “appalled,” and wonders if he’s too old-fashioned or justified in his reaction.

Some callers argue that a high body count signals potential issues with commitment or stability, suggesting that everyone has the right to set their own standards in a relationship. For them, knowing a partner’s sexual past is relevant to their comfort and sense of security going forward.

Others reject the idea that body count should matter at all, insisting that past experiences shouldn’t define a person’s worth. They emphasize that what matters most is honesty, respect, and who a person is today, not how many partners they had in the past. Judging someone based solely on their sexual history, they say, is outdated and unfair.

Niall concludes by examining the complexity of personal preference, societal expectations, and the double standards that often influence how we judge others’ pasts.