#309 From Heartbreak to Heartthrob How Soon Is Too Soon?

The Niall Boylan Podcast (They Told Me To Shut Up)

In this episode, Niall explores a sensitive question: When is the right time to start a new relationship after the death of a partner? A listener reached out, sharing that she’s fallen in love with a friend of her late husband only three months after his passing. Fearing judgment, she’s hesitant to tell anyone about her new relationship and wonders if it’s too soon to move on.

Some callers feel that three months is indeed too soon, suggesting that grief can cloud judgment, especially in forming new romantic connections. They believe that the woman might be drawn to someone close to her late husband as a source of comfort, rather than true love. For them, waiting longer could allow her to process her grief fully before entering a new relationship, especially with someone so close to her past.

Other callers argue that there’s no fixed timeline for grief or love. If she’s found someone who brings her happiness and understands her pain, then she should follow her heart without worrying about outside opinions. For them, moving forward with her life is a personal choice, and if she’s ready for a new relationship, that decision deserves respect.

Niall wraps up by reflecting on the deeply personal nature of grief, acknowledging that moving forward after loss is different for everyone and that only she can determine what feels right.