What Unconscious Things Are Affecting Your Relationship?

The Steph & Craig Show

What happens when your definition of love is codependency?

On today’s episode, Steph & Craig discuss what came up for them after episode 18 with trauma expert Tim Fletcher.

If you haven’t yet, be sure to go back and listen to the last episode, The Connection Between Complex Trauma, Codependency, & Narcissism with Tim Fletcher.

Steph & Craig share their big takeaways from the episode and what they’ve been processing since.

They also open up and share personal stories about their relationship and what it was like trying to navigate some of the most difficult and toxic times.

If you’re struggling with codependency or trying to figure out how to make it still work after surviving really difficult things in your relationship, you’re going to want to listen.

It’s a raw and vulnerable episode discussing shame, narcissism, complex trauma, codependency, infidelity, childhood abuse, addiction, and so much more.

Join Steph & Craig as they share the reality of what it’s really been like navigating these hard issues and what ended up helping them stay together in the end.

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Disclaimer:

We’re just sharing our journey with you. We’re not licensed therapists, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Cool? Good deal. We’ll see you soon.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction and the Influence of Society on Love

18:36 Codependency and Complex Trauma in Relationships

26:18 The Dance Between Narcissism and Co-Narcissism

32:11 Addressing Personal Baggage and Childhood Wounds

34:20 Understanding the Fear of Abandonment

35:14 Patterns and Cycles in Codependent Relationships

38:26 Unconscious Behaviors and the Role of Trauma

45:08 Healing, Setting Boundaries, and Unpacking Baggage

50:44 The Addiction to Chaos and the Fear of Calmness

57:31 Understanding the Neurochemical Processes in Complex Trauma

01:04:58 Expecting the Best and Planning for the Greatest

Expect the best. Plan for the greatest.