The Tell-Tale Signs of Abusive Pastors

Rainer on Leadership

Abuse originates in how victimizers view others. At some level, they believe that other people exist to fulfill their desires. Pastors who take advantage of others place themselves at the center and try to control the orbits of vulnerable people around them. Victimizers are not necessarily brash or overpowering. They may be sensitive, subdued, and even charming. Many abusive pastors have likable personalities. So what are some warning signs to watch for? Josh and Sam discuss this difficult topic.

• • Entitlement: “I deserve your attention.”
  • Superiority: “I am always right.”
  • Duplicity: “I do not need to follow the rules.”
  • Justification: “My anger is warranted.”
  • Manipulation: “Your questions attack me.”

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• “Make My Church Safe” by Sam Rainer

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• Church Answers Central

• The Hope Initiative

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