How to stop 'Self Sabotaging' relationships

Principles into Practice with Kain Ramsay

Have you ever found yourself self sabotaging a relationship? And have you ever thought for a moment as to why you would even do this? One of the things that may help you to recognise self-sabotaging behaviour is to recognise that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself. We all have a survival part that is programmed into us, psychologists refer to this part of us as our defence mechanisms. They get activated by fear and go into action in the attempts of protecting us from getting hurt. You might find yourself operating from an unhelpful belief that tells you something along the lines of, "I can't deal with emotional pain," so, you end up finding yourself fleeing uncomfortable relationship situations, or engaging in some other self-protective/self-sabotaging behaviour, as if there is a real physical threat, when in reality the only threat is coming from your very own thoughts and beliefs. As I mentioned in on one of the Section One stories, we become who we believe we are and will generally get the results that we believe that we will in life. If you believe that you're useless - you are! If you believe that you're of no value - you'll act accordingly and prove yourself right. If you believe you will fail - you already have done! Human beings 100%% follow through with who it is that they believe they are in life, so a great place to start in view of preventing future self sabotage attempts, get clear on exactly what you can expect from yourself, from others, and how you can compliment another human being to create something greater than what has previously been. This lecture is a 'biggy' so you might want to spend some good time reflecting upon the principles I share in the video - if you have any questions on this lecture, please dont hesitate to get in touch! Kain http://www.kainramsay.com