44. The Lies Caregivers Tell Themselves - and How to Rewrite Them

In This Together: Building Resilience When Your Partner Has Cancer

Send us a text

In this episode I reflect on a conversation with a client whose husband has end-stage pancreatic cancer. After nearly a decade of caregiving, she shared the all-too-familiar feeling: “I’m so over this. And yet, it’s not over.”
Her words opened up a discussion about the stories we tell ourselves as caregivers—the ones that focus on our exhaustion and struggles while ignoring our resilience and strength.

Caregiving is hard, especially when your partner is battling cancer. It’s easy to get stuck in a loop of self-talk that magnifies the challenges and minimizes your efforts.
But what if you could shift that narrative? What if you could see both sides of the story?

This episode introduces a simple yet transformative tool: the word AND. Using AND allows us to acknowledge our pain and exhaustion while also recognizing our incredible resilience. You can be tired AND strong, scared AND capable. This small word creates room for a more honest, empowering story about who you are and what you can handle.

Join me as I share practical strategies to shift your self-talk, find the resilience in your story, and embrace the full truth of your caregiving journey. You’re stronger than you think—and AND can help you see it.

Tune in to transform how you see yourself and navigate the challenges of caregiving with greater strength and clarity.

As a Resiliency Coach for people who are caregiving for their partner, I'm here to support YOU, the caregiver. Learn more about my work at www.coachmarika.com.

فصول

1. Challenging Self-Talk (00:00:00)

2. Embrace the Power of 'And (00:11:55)