#66 How to prepare for geographical separation: Tips for families with one parent about to live abroad – with Rhoda Bangerter

Holding the Fort Abroad

Synopsis:

Living geographically apart can be a challenge, but with the right preparation and support, it can also be an opportunity for growth. I'm Rhoda Bangerter, host of Holding the Fort Abroad. In this episode, I share three essential ways to prepare for this unique lifestyle once the decision has been taken. This episode follows episode 42 about deciding whether to take on an assignment which would mean geographical separation. Tune in to learn more! You might want a pen and paper to jot down the questions to ask yourselves.

Three Essential Ways to Prepare:

1. Observe and Adjust:

Write down and observe what each partner contributes to the household before the move. This will help in delegating tasks and understanding what needs adjusting when one partner is away. Also include where and how each partner receives emotional support and whether adjustments will need to be made.

2. Communication is Key:

Establish a communication plan to keep your relationship strong and avoid misunderstandings. But hold on to it lightly as things can change once the assignment is under way and also as it evolves as time goes on.

3. Involve the Kids:

Keep kids engaged in the transition by having family meetings. This ensures they feel heard and can express their thoughts about the changes. Identify each family member's love language to maintain strong emotional connections despite the distance.

4. One step at a time

Don’t try planning for the whole assignment, take it one section at a time (i.e. one departure and one return at a time)

Preparing for this new phase thoughtfully can make the journey smoother for everyone involved. For more insights and tips, listen to our full episode!