Craving change? Here's how (and why) to reinvent yourself without moving

Awkward Etiquette: Old Money & New Manners

Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor – Episode: “Starting Over Without Moving Zip Codes”

Think you need a new city to reinvent yourself? Think again. In this episode, Romance author and old money and etiquette expert Kiki Astor dismantles the myth of “new city, new me” and reveals how true personal reinvention happens quietly, elegantly, and right where you are. From the psychology behind why we crave fresh starts—like escaping our past selves, chasing romance, or seeking novelty—to the subtle, old money–approved strategies for refining your identity without uprooting your life, Kiki shares actionable insights that blend sophistication, etiquette, and real-world charm.

Discover how to: Embrace subtle reinvention by editing routines, wardrobe, and rituals instead of making dramatic changes Build community credibility and strengthen your local social circle while evolving your personal brand Become a tourist in your own town, uncovering hidden gems and cultivating intellectual leisure Refresh your home, hobbies, and reputation with grace, polish, and elegance Avoid common mistakes like equating reinvention with relocation, chasing trends, or broadcasting your “new self”

Packed with historical and cultural examples—from Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis to Princess Diana and Lady Ottoline Morrell—this episode blends romance novel fantasy with real-life psychology, showing listeners how to cultivate sophistication, confidence, and transformation at home.

Whether you’re craving personal growth, elegant reinvention, local chic, subtle transformation, or old money wisdom, this episode teaches you how to feel renewed without a U-Haul, turning your everyday environment into a stage for your most sophisticated self.