Why You Should Break Up With Your AI Lover, w/ Book Author and Historian Jennifer Wright

AI-Curious with Jeff Wilser

Millions of people are finding companionship -- or even love -- with AI bots. (The heart wants what the heart wants.) In this episode of AI-Curious, we dive into the strange, sticky, and sometimes surprisingly emotional world of AI romantic partners.

We’re joined by author and historian Jennifer Wright, who recently wrote a sharp op-ed for The Washington Post titled “Please Break Up With Your AI Lover.” While millions are already turning to AI bots for companionship, Jennifer makes a compelling case for why this trend—though rooted in real loneliness—could be deeply damaging to our ability to connect, to grow, to give love.

We unpack:

• The surface problems of AI boyfriends/girlfriends, from poor memory to the illusion of affection
• Why constant flattery from bots may feel good—but ultimately erodes something essential in real relationships
• The importance of sacrifice, caregiving, and challenge in human connection
• Whether AI companions, even with future upgrades, can ever replicate the messy magic of real love
• What AI fiction gets wrong—and why most AI-generated stories are (still) terrible
• Her take on AI and historical accuracy, and the troubling implications of getting facts wrong at scale
• Why creativity matters even when the output is bad—and what we lose when we outsource it

Plus, Jennifer gives us a preview of her next book about America’s Gilded Age, and we swap war stories about terrible first novels, romantic relationships, and the puppy-induced joys of caretaking.

Let’s get curious.

Links from this episode:

• Jennifer Wright’s Washington Post op-ed: Please Break Up With Your AI Lover
• Jennifer’s latest book: Madame Restell: The Life, Death, and Resurrection of Old New York’s Most Fabulous, Fearless, and Infamous Abortionist
• Jennifer’s upcoming book: Glitz, Glam, and a Damn Good Time: How Mamie Fish, Queen of the Gilded Age, Partied Her Way to Power.

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