The Jenni Carroll Perspective podcast

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Self-Worth and Communication 14:10

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In this episode of The Jenni Carroll Perspective , Jenni takes us on a journey of self-reflection and empowerment through the lens of communication. The discussion centers on the fundamental concept that communication, though often viewed as a two-way street, begins with the individual. Specifically, Jenni emphasizes how our sense of self-worth and personal perspective shape the way we communicate with others, especially within intimate relationships like marriage. Jenni highlights the idea that our connection to our Intrinsic Worth is crucial in how we navigate the frustrations and challenges in communication. She notes that while it's natural to feel helpless or out of control in certain situations, especially when it comes to how others treat us or external circumstances, we actually hold more power than we think. The key, she explains, lies in how we respond to life's inevitable obstacles, which provide opportunities for growth and learning. This perspective shift can help us move from a place of victimhood to one of problem-solving and resilience. At the core of the episode is the idea that the challenges we face in communication—particularly in marriage—are there for a reason. They are opportunities for personal growth, pushing us to rise above frustration and conflict to become kinder, more understanding, and more aligned with our true selves. Jenni asserts that, rather than being trapped by poor communication, we have the power to change how we approach it by shifting our perspective and embracing our Intrinsic Worth. The episode breaks down this approach into two essential steps: first, understanding the broader purpose behind our struggles and recognizing them as opportunities for personal evolution. Second, Jenni emphasizes the importance of acknowledging our Intrinsic Worth, which stays with us regardless of our successes or failures. This understanding, she argues, empowers us to respond to conflict in a way that is rooted in love, kindness, and authenticity, ultimately leading to better communication and more fulfilling relationships. Jenni closes by offering a solution to those struggling with communication in their marriage: a self-paced online course designed to teach the framework for healthy communication. By focusing on practical strategies and personal growth, this course aims to equip individuals with the tools they need to foster stronger, more compassionate communication in their relationships. Key Takeaways: Communication begins with the individual’s sense of self-worth. Life’s challenges, including those in communication, are meant to teach us and help us grow. Shifting our perspective and acknowledging our Intrinsic Worth allows us to respond to communication struggles with kindness and clarity. Empowering ourselves with love and patience leads to more peaceful, effective communication. To learn more about how you can improve communication in your marriage, visit jennicarroll.com/course . Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Cute and a Good Personality 13:49

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Welcome to another insightful episode of The Jenni Carroll Perspective . In this installment, Jenni Carroll delves deep into the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships and communication struggles. Building on previous discussions about successful communication, Jenni takes a step back to explore the underlying reasons behind relationship issues. Why do couples, who start out so in love and excited, often find themselves in a different place years later? Jenni uses the analogy of an iceberg to illustrate how the conscious, feel-good aspects of attraction are just the tip of the emotional and psychological forces at play. Beneath the surface, unconscious factors and unresolved issues drive us to choose partners who reflect and challenge our internal struggles. Drawing on years of experience, Jenni explains how our emotional and psychological "pieces" fit together with our partners, often creating both harmonious and challenging connections. She argues that our chosen partners aren't a mistake but a critical component of our growth journey. By understanding these deeper dynamics, we can shift from a victim mentality to a more empowered perspective, using relationship challenges as opportunities for personal growth and healing. Jenni also introduces her self-paced online course designed to help you navigate and improve communication in your marriage. This course offers practical strategies and tools to transform your relationship and is available at an accessible price. Tune in for a profound exploration of why we encounter certain struggles in our relationships and how to turn these challenges into stepping stones for personal and relational growth. Links: Register for Jenni’s online course: jennicarroll.com/course Connect with Us: Follow us on social media for updates and more insights. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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The House of Successful Communication 17:58

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Episode 20: Building The House of Successful Communication Welcome back to The Jenni Carroll Perspective ! In Season 4, we’re delving into the most pressing issue in marriage—communication. In our previous episode, we explored the formula that leads to communication breakdowns. Today, I'm thrilled to introduce you to "The House of Successful Communication," a framework designed to transform how we connect with our partners. Imagine a house with three foundational steps at its base and three supporting pillars that hold up the roof. This structure represents the core elements of effective communication. Foundational Steps: Expectation Awareness and Management : The first step is to become aware of and manage your expectations in the relationship. Identify both the conscious and unconscious needs and expectations you have for your spouse. Know that unconscious needs and expectations center around our shared need for worth through validation. Psychological Separation : This principle teaches that your spouse's actions and words are a reflection of them, not you. It's crucial to understand that their behavior is not a direct commentary on your worth. Embracing this idea can make communication more manageable and less emotionally charged. Persistent Forgiveness : Forgiveness is about letting go of negative emotions triggered by interactions with others. It's a commitment to moving past grievances and aligning with the principle of Psychological Separation. This ongoing practice helps maintain emotional balance and fosters healthier communication. Supporting Pillars: Validation : Acknowledge and validate your partner's feelings and experiences. Validation is not about agreeing but about recognizing and empathizing with their perspective, which helps reduce defensiveness and opens up more productive dialogue. Vulnerability : Effective communication requires openness and honesty about your own feelings and experiences. Being vulnerable means dropping your defenses and showing up authentically in your conversations, which can deepen your connection with your partner. Boundaries : Establish and maintain clear boundaries to protect your well-being. Boundaries are about defining what you will and will not accept, and they empower you to engage in healthier interactions. The House of Successful Communication empowers you to take control of your communication dynamics, offering strategies to improve how you interact with your spouse. If you are interested in learning more, head to jennicarroll.com to register for my new self-paced, online course. This course is designed to provide you with concrete strategies to enhance communication and transform your marriage. Thank you for tuning in. Remember, you are light and you are love. For more details on the course and to start your journey towards better communication, visit www.jennicarroll.com Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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The Communication Crisis 21:07

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Season 4: Episode 19: The Communication Crisis Welcome back to The Jenni Carroll Perspective ! After a brief hiatus, we're diving into a topic that resonates deeply with many: communication in relationships. As a Marriage & Family Therapist, I’m excited to explore why communication often feels like the greatest challenge in marriages and long-term relationships. In this episode, we’ll uncover why even the best communicators struggle with their spouses. It turns out, the root of the issue is not just about how we talk but about the deeper dynamics at play. Communication is crucial for connection—it's our primary tool for bonding and resolving issues. However, when communication falters, it usually signals underlying problems. We’ll explore the concept that communication issues often stem from unmet needs and expectations, personalization of others' actions, and the quest for validation. These factors create a complex formula that influences our communication patterns. You’ll learn why our internal struggles and personal expectations can disrupt our ability to connect effectively with our partners. Additionally, we’ll discuss how the dynamics of personal worth and validation impact our interactions. Often, when we feel our worth is threatened, our communication can become defensive or resentful. Understanding these dynamics can be transformative, helping you navigate and improve your relationship communication. Key takeaways: Communication Breakdown : It's rarely about the words themselves but about the deeper emotional and psychological dynamics. Underlying Dynamics : Needs, expectations, and personal worth play a significant role in how we interact with our partners. Personalization and Resentment : How we interpret our partner’s actions and our reliance on them for validation can impact our communication. Join me as we embark on this journey to enhance our understanding of communication in relationships. Thank you for tuning in, and remember, you are light and you are love. For more insights, visit our website and stay tuned for future episodes! Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Beauty and Purpose 15:55

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. For our last episode in this series on purpose, we are going to take a slight detour and discuss something that for me is both a priority and a joy - and that is beauty. The quest for beauty has always been a part of my life. My desire, and I would go so far as to say my need for beauty, has not been limited to my personal appearance, or even to my immediate environment, although those have both been priorities. For me, having access to beauty in all ways represents the freedom we have to move past the limits of what we struggle with to access something greater, something special. Unfortunately, beauty is often given a bad rap. Many of us have a complex relationship with beauty, imbedded with feelings of comparison or jealousy. Too commonly, beauty is believed to be reserved for a select few - the wealthy, the famous, the entitled. As a result, the pursuit of beauty seems to be scrutinized and easily judged. If beauty is pursued in a way that hurts others, or is used for power or control or manipulation, then clearly that is a problem. Yet, even in these situations, beauty itself is not at fault, it is the motivations of the fearful, wounded individuals or organizations that need to be addressed. What is important to understand is that we are all entitled to beauty. No one is excluded. But, within this truth, we must also recognize our own worthiness. Our worthiness IS and remains independent of the details of our lives. In order to access beauty in the ways we most desire, we must accept our Intrinsic Worth. Beauty matters because it gives us a foreshadowing of something more. It hints at something bigger, more expansive, more wondrous and extraordinary than what we generally recognize in our limited, disconnected world. Whatever form of beauty speaks to you, it is an expression of Divine Love. The grandeur of beauty reminds us of our own most authentic state. Beauty is easily found in nature. When we encounter beauty in nature, we are stopped short, our senses are elevated. Our awareness is heightened, and we are more present and open than at any other time in our busy lives. Nature’s beauty is the universe speaking to us. Beauty is your right and also your responsibility. Beauty should be nurtured. Cultivating beauty is a way to strengthen our connection with each other, and the thread that binds us all. Creating space for beauty starts with believing that we are worthy of beauty and all of its multifaceted expression. My loving suggestion is to take stock of how beauty plays a role in your life. Is beauty neglected or overlooked? Where is there room for more? You are light and you are love. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Relationships and Purpose 18:45

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today’s episode is about our most important relationships - that is to say our romantic relationships. We will discuss the purpose of love and the hidden reasons we form a bond with that very important person in our lives. By the end of this episode, you may be thinking about your partner or spouse in a slightly different way. There is no doubt that relationships are the boot camp of life. While everyone’s earth school curriculum is slightly different, for the vast majority of us, it is the relationships we have with other people that create our biggest sources of frustration, insecurity, vulnerability and pain. The good news is that it is meant to be this way. Relationships are not meant to be easy. Instead, they are meant to teach us about ourselves. Relationships serve as a stage for personal growth and healing. The problems we have in our relationships come from the personal narratives (the stories inside our head) that project our insecurities, guilt, and judgement of ourselves onto our partner. It is so incredibly powerful to begin to understand that everything we don’t like about our spouse is within our power to change. While we can’t change their behavior, we can change our perspective and decide how much (or how little) all of it will affect us. If we look at our relationships with others from a bigger perspective, we realize that they are not really based on needs but rather on purpose. The purpose is our mutual growth and healing. If you are struggling in your marriage or another significant relationship in your life, rest assured that everything is present for a reason. This reason represents an aspect of your purpose. You have the responsibility, strength, ability and the power to address whatever unhappy issues you are facing and find healing and peace. There are two important ideas to consider. First, we must understand that any romantic relationship and certainly life-long partnerships are meant to be challenging. Whatever we may think, their true purpose is serving as a catalyst to teach us about ourselves, in good ways, but more importantly in ways that will force us to look at where we lack and encourage us to heal, becoming better, greater, closer to our truest selves. When we see our relationships through this lens, we begin to understand our frustrations and our pain in a different way. Secondly, we need to understand that our NEED for this type of relationship is a fallacy. If you are someone who carries a lot of pain and struggle around finding a relationship, or if you are someone who is in a marriage or long-term relationship and feels unhappy, trapped or unloved, know that you are already enough. Whether you find someone to share life with, continue to share life with or instead navigate life all on your own, you are and will continue to be whole. You are light and you are love. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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The Purpose of Parenting 22:06

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today we are going to talk about something that for many of us holds a very special place in our lives, parenting. We discuss both the purpose of parenting from a broader perspective as well as “purposeful parenting” which is a framework for better understanding exactly what our responsibility is when it comes to this important role. The relationship we have with our children is the one of the most valued of our life. We prioritize our children even after they are grown. There is no getting around the fact that once you become a parent, it becomes part of your purpose. The opportunity to parent allows us to connect with one of the most important aspects of our soul - transcendent and unconditional love. This is understood as Divine Love. The purpose of parenting is simply the experience and demonstration of Divine Love. As parents we continue to show up for our children with full hearts despite their choices that cause us frustration, upset or heartache. The love we encounter in every cell of our body and soul is so much greater than a feeling and always endures. In addition, we are able to practice Persistent Forgiveness, easily letting go of negative emotion that may arise from any frustration or hurt. While a parent’s actions can be overwhelming loving, if that parent is not aligned with their Intrinsic Worth, they will not experience the full expression of Divine Love. When we aren’t in alignment with our true selves, we seek validation of our worth through others and this includes our children. When we carry a need for validation from our children, it interferes with the transcendent and consistent flow of Divine Love. One of the most foundational principles to purposeful parenting is understanding that the relationship between a child and parent is never equal. As parents, we hold more responsibility for the relationship than our children do. Even when those children become adults. The other aspect of the responsibility we carry means that we must release any expectations we hold for them. Contrary to what many of us believe, our children are NOT a reflection on us. Psychological Separation is the principle that every action, word, choice, feeling or thought a person has is only about them and not about anyone else. This principle also applies to our children. We often have a natural tendency to control due to fear for our children’s safety. We attempt control to their environment or their actions in order to protect their physical or emotional safety. While creating a safe environment is an important part of our job, we often move far past this to a place of interference. It can be helpful to do some self-reflection to notice where, as a parent, you may be making decisions not necessarily for the best interest of your children, but for your own. Instead of over-control, we must teach our children to recognize their Intrinsic Worth. This starts with understanding the power of our words and actions. If we are sending positive messages to our kids, then we will be making a positive impact. However, if we are sending messages that point to their failings, we will be contributing to the disconnection from their true self. Parenting is a job that sometimes feels overwhelming for everyone. Doing it correctly takes more hard work than any other purpose we could be tasked with. So it is also important to be kind, patient and flexible with ourselves as we navigate this demanding but beautiful role. My loving suggestion is to consider how you personify Divine Lov Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Mindful Manifestation 20:57

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Manifestation seems to be trending and in this episode we are going to take a look at what manifestation is, the difference between unconscious and Mindful Manifestation and how Mindful Manifestation is related to purpose. The heart of manifestation is the experience of something. It is an experience by an observer of something perceptible. When it comes to our lives, manifestation may embody the experience of what we want or desire but much more frequently, it embodies what we believe. Unfortunately, too often manifestation is not generated by what we want or desire, but rather by what we believe to be true. And when it comes to manifestation, what we want isn’t always in alignment with what we believe we deserve. We are always manifesting based not just on our choices, but on our thoughts, feelings and more importantly, the deeper beliefs that we carry. This is an experience of unconscious manifestation. Mindful Manifestation, on the other hand, is the creation of experiences that honor our greatest needs, desires and our greatest purpose. There are two major obstacles to Mindful Manifestation. The first and foremost is a disconnection from our true selves which leaves us with a deep and enduring belief in being undeserving of good. The second is the extremely common, almost universal belief in scarcity. When we struggle to see our true value, our Intrinsic Worth, we get caught up in our mistakes and failures, using our flaws to define ourselves and as a result, live by a negative narrative that ultimately creates suffering and pain. We are manifesting all of the time, and when we are disconnected from our true selves and fail to see our deep and unchanging worth we are manifesting what we believe to be true, which is an undeserving-ness, and sometimes even a belief in self-punishment or self-destruction. The second obstacle to mindful manifestation is the belief in scarcity. Scarcity is the distorted belief that there is only so much good to go around. The belief in scarcity can be applied to anything someone feels is positive or desirable, but most often to money, position or career aspirations, performance, status, and love. In order to practice Mindful Manifestation, three things need to be present. First, we have to trust in the process, we have to believe that we will be supported in our most authentic desires. Secondly, we must be willing to do the work. And finally, we must believe we are deserving of the gifts. So how does Mindful Manifestation connect with purpose? There are two specific ways that purpose is affected by manifestation. When we are engaged in a process of Mindful Manifestation, we are consciously living our lives with intention and presence and purpose. The second is that Mindful Manifestation gives us an additional, powerful resource to honor and fulfill our purpose. We are able to tap into the power to create the experiences that will best support us in what we are most here to do. My loving suggestion is to observe the current circumstances in your life. What are the biggest struggles? What are the most joyful? What beliefs do you carry that are connected to both? How might these beliefs influence your choices? How might these beliefs be giving the Universe a message. Is that the message you wish to give? You are light and you are love. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Authentic Empowerment and The Seat of the Soul 21:55

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today we are going to continue to investigate our purpose as we look at some of the ideas found in one of the most important spiritual books of our time, The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav. We will further explore the principle of Authentic Empowerment, which we mentioned in the last episode. We will also closely examine the differences between our personality and our soul. Finally, we will discuss the difference between a Five-Sensory Perspective and a Multi-Sensory Perspective and touch on the subject of intention. There is little difference between our humanness and our personality. Without our personality, we wouldn’t be present on earth. Nevertheless, like a costume, our personality also serves to keep hidden our truer, whole selves. Our soul embodies our true self. The soul is immortal and isn’t limited by the strengths and weaknesses of our personalities because the soul is connected to Source, to the Divine. The relationship between the personality and the soul is founded on the goal of Authentic Empowerment. Authentic Empowerment is achieved when the personality is in full alignment with the soul, making it difficult to see “where the personality ends and the soul begins.” The personality is tasked with the hard work of healing in the physical world, our earth school. Everything we do, all of the choices we make on a daily basis are opportunities to align with our soul. The foundational principle of Intrinsic Worth is better understood when we recognize the relationship between our personalities and our soul. When we are connected to our Intrinsic Worth (to the greatness of our soul) the easier our lives become. Not only do we experience more joy, more peace and more love, but we also are supported in more easily and more quickly fulfilling our greatest purpose. In order to better connect with the Intrinsic Worth sourced from our soul, we must shift from a Five-Sensory Perspective to a Multi-Sensory Perspective. Operating from a Five-Sensory Perspective limits us to being focused on all that we don’t like and the negative emotion and experience it creates. When we learn to connect with our greater selves, we become Multi-Sensory. We are no longer limited by a perspective that is based on physical senses alone. Even as we continue to use our physical senses to function and participate in our lives, we begin to understand ourselves differently. Gary Zukav reminds us that there is so much power in our intention. Intention sets into motion the experiences that can fulfill our purpose, bringing us closer to alignment with our soul. Or, unfortunately, can instead serve to create more problems taking us farther from Authentic Empowerment. If we are not aware of our underlying intentions, they will play out unconsciously. The principle of intention is another foundational idea and one that we will explore in a future episode. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Four Principles of Purpose 22:04

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Welcome to Season Three of the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Our theme this season will be purpose. “What is my purpose?” is a question many of us have, but not all of us are able to answer. In this episode we will explore the four principles that help us to define and understand our purpose. We will also look at strategies to connect with and fulfill our purpose, giving us a renewed excitement and satisfaction as to why we are here. The first principle of purpose is that it is plural. Rather than having one purpose, we have many. Happily, we also have seasons of purpose, where we are given the opportunity to focus on one of more aspects of our purpose, without the pressure of addressing everything at once. The second principle, not surprisingly, is that purpose includes service to others. There are obvious aspects to service such as the supportive roles we play in the lives of our family and friends. We also clearly see service in jobs that are considered “helping professions” but service can also be found in the attitude and perspective we bring to all of our interactions with others. This truth is connected to the third principle of purpose which is based not on what we do, but on how we do it. When we understand that our purpose lies less in the actions we take and more in how we carry out our actions, we are enlightened to all of the manifestations of our purpose. Service isn’t just what we do, it is the way we embody an intention or attitude. The most fundamental aspect of purpose, as well as perhaps the most surprising, is the responsibility to heal and grow within ourselves. It is our mission to identify and address the pain, trauma and wounding that comes with us into this lifetime. This requires not only our attention but a willingness to do the work. The ultimate goal is to heal so that we may grow as individuals and integrate with our soul. When it comes to finding our purpose, we must first understand that there is no “purposelessness.” We are all here for a reason. There are also strategies available to support us in understanding and honoring our purpose. First, we must be willing to be present. Creating space from thinking mind thoughts and feelings gives us to access our Primary Awareness, the internal wisdom available to each of us. This wisdom will help us better understand ourselves as well as our purpose. We can also employ our thinking minds to examine our fears, vulnerabilities and struggles. As we explore these aspects of ourselves, our purpose will more clearly be illuminated. Working towards honoring our purpose is significant for all of us and better understanding this important aspect of our lives supports us in our ultimate goal. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Ten Questions to Upgrade Your Perspective 22:04

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. For those of you who are interested in changing your perspective, today I hope to provide you with a framework. When it comes to the foundational principles we have discussed, it can be overwhelming and confusing to adopt them in a realistic and practical way. To help overcome that obstacle, I’m sharing ten questions meant to support you in exploring and ultimately better understanding yourself, your current perspective and any shifts that might be helpful to make. Question 1. WHAT IS GOOD? What is working? What are my strengths? What do I appreciate about myself, my life? Question 2. WHAT IS MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY EMOTIONS? What feelings do I have frequently? What emotions would I like to feel more often? Is it difficult for me to allow for my feelings? Why? Is it difficult for me to let go of my feelings once they have run their course? Why? How does my relationship with my emotions support or inhibit my experience of life? Question 3. WHAT ARE THE INTERNAL BELIEFS THAT MOTIVATE MY THOUGHTS? What thoughts do I have frequently? What kind of thoughts would I like to have more often? Do I trust that my motivating internal beliefs are true? Question 4. WHERE DO JUDGMENT AND GUILT SHOW UP IN MY LIFE? What beliefs and fears motivate these feelings (or thoughts)? How do these feelings (or thoughts) keep me from living a different type of experience? Am I open to experiencing and practicing more empathy and compassion? Question 5. WHAT EXPECTATIONS DO I HAVE FOR MYSELF AND OTHERS? How do I handle it when I fail to meet my own expectations? What meaning do I apply to this experience? What expectations do I have for others, especially for the most important people in my life? When others fail to meet my expectations, what meaning do I apply to myself? How willing am I to let go of any of these expectations? Question 6. DO I FULLY ACCEPT MY INTRINSIC WORTH? If not, what keeps me from embracing this foundational truth? Question 7. DO I PRACTICE PERSISTENT FORGIVENESS? What are my beliefs about forgiveness? What fears keep me from forgiving more readily? Where am I willing to incorporate more forgiveness into my life? Question 8. HOW MUCH TIME DO I SPEND IN A HEART-CENTERED PERSPECTIVE? Am I willing to work at making the shift to spending more time here? Question 9. HOW MUCH IS MY CURRENT PERSPECTIVE HOLDING ME BACK OR CONTRIBUTING TO A LIFE EXPERIENCE I NO LONGER WANT? What negative emotions come up frequently for me? What interferes with my peace and my joy? How are my feelings about the external world or other people connected to my inner world and my current perspective? How do I want my life and my perspective to be different? Am I willing to shift my perspective? Question 10: WHAT IS ONE SHIFT I AM WILLING TO MAKE OR START WORKING ON TODAY? Don’t underestimate the power of questioning. Questioning is in itself is a process of change and transformation. Explore for yourself what you truly believe and more importantly, what you are willing to remember. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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The Beauty of a Heart-Centered Perspective 21:19

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today we explore a way to look at ourselves and our relationships with others from a different vantage point. As an alternative to our typical egocentric, personality-driven perspective, we will consider approaching the world from a heart-centered perspective. In general, we tend to operate from an ego-centered perspective where the internal narrative of who we believe ourselves to be serves as the foundation to all of our choices and interactions with others. This personality-driven perspective is closely connected to the thoughts and feelings of our thinking brain. Unfortunately, when we rely too heavily on our ego perspective and our thinking brain, we miss out the on wisdom, clarity and peace that is always available to us. In contrast, a heart-centered perspective doesn’t rely on thinking mind thoughts and feelings. In fact, the heart carries an intelligence of its own. The heart understands that we are more than our human selves and that our personalities serve only as costumes we wear. While necessary to function, these costumes also hide our truest, most authentic and enduring selves. Unlike the brain, the heart doesn’t struggle with feelings and thoughts that are negative. The heart carries a purity of emotion, which we understand as love. When we shift from a personality-driven perspective to a heart-centered perspective everything changes. We begin to understand and connect to both our Intrinsic Worth, the innate value present from birth and not dependent on who we are or what we do, as well as our Primary Awareness. Primary Awareness is the innate wisdom that offers us information, direction and peace and is always available to us. When we are no longer distracted by our confusion, worry and indecision we begin to notice the subtle power that resides within us. Approaching life with a heart-centered perspective also diminishes the fear we carry, the deepest motivator of all negative thought and emotion. We begin to see our relationships with others in a powerfully different way. Many of us are understandably skeptical of the necessary changes that come with living from a heart-centered perspective. It is okay to be skeptical, but there is much value in an open mind and a willingness to consider that our personality-driven perspective may be limited and holding us back. We can begin our desired shift with just observing... noticing and being present with what is currently happening in our lives, while at the same time maintaining some distance. It is also critical to be willing to regularly explore our deeper selves. The good news is we don’t need to chase perfection. In fact, stepping into our heart, even occasionally, has the power to dramatically change our lives. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Compassion & Empathy Vs. Judgment, Anger & Guilt 21:49

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. In today’s episode we dive deeply into some specific emotions and how those emotions impact our relationship with others and with ourselves. We consider the human feelings that represent both our highest selves as well as those that most showcase our wounding, pain and struggle. While we usually consider love as our “highest” emotion, empathy and compassion are truly the building blocks of love. Without empathy and compassion, it is difficult to demonstrate the love we feel. At the other end of the spectrum, it is judgment and guilt that tend to most represent our pain, vulnerability and our wounding, keeping us from our truest selves. Judgment arises from anger turned outward towards others. Guilt is anger turned towards ourselves. All negative emotion stems from fear, but we are more readily aware of anger rather than the fear hidden in our subconscious. Judgment is a very human experience, and arguably can embody both thought and feeling. Judgment is a reaction to our frustration, fear and lack of control. Yet, judgment is also a façade, as giving ourselves permission to judge does not in any way offer us control over other people or our environment. We must become aware of our judgment and consider an alternative path. This path begins with allowing for the thoughts and feelings that arise as we process our environment. But then, choosing to “let it go” because ultimately, the actions of others do not belong to us in any way. Finally, we must replace judgment with compassion. Here is where we experience peace and embody love. Guilt is emotion that stems from an inability to see past our own mistakes to the innate value within. Guilt is anger and fear directed at ourselves and is just as damaging and as prevalent as judgment. Guilt serves no beneficial purpose but rather interferes with our ability to move forward. Self-awareness, including taking ownership of all of the decisions we make, is healthy and necessary. But alongside awareness of our choices and our responsibility, there is also room for approaching ourselves with compassion. Developing empathy and compassion is easier when we embrace our Intrinsic Worth. Knowing our Intrinsic Worth supports us in gaining true freedom and living life in an easier and more extraordinary way. Consider connecting to your Intrinsic Worth and begin replacing anger, judgment and guilt with empathy, compassion and love. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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Choices 20:25

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. Today’s episode focuses on the meaning and significance of choices. Decision-making serves a consistent, challenging role in our lives. So much so that it seems to encapsulate the very reason we are here. If life is a school, then choices, both big and small, are our tests. Tests aren’t supposed to be easy, and the choices we are tasked with on a daily basis are definitely meant to challenge us. Thankfully, there is usually room for error in our everyday decisions, but it is important to notice how patterns of decision-making create a backdrop to our lives. Do seemingly trivial, mundane decisions honor our value and support us in fulfilling our purpose, or do we approach daily decisions with carelessness or a lack of interest in our greater well-being? Interestingly, even in small and arguably healthy decisions, there is always a trade-off. It is at this exact point, where we are systematically pushed to create the life we want to live. The impact lies in the patterns of our decisions. Specifically, it is the beliefs we hold that create the thoughts that influence our decisions , that matter. Busy with all of our everyday choices, we are occasionally faced with decisions of a different magnitude. These decisions involve situations where a single choice can deeply alter our life’s path...a job or career change, having children (or not), or the beginning or ending of a relationship. How we manage these types of decisions is yet another level to our purpose, another type of test. In order to support ourselves in making decisions that are aligned with our best interest and greatest purpose, we must look at how we make decisions. Thoughts and feelings are both important and necessary elements to the process. But, both are also inherently flawed and limited in their reliability. We can and should utilize our thoughts and feelings, but we also need to be mindful of the automatic trust we often have in our thinking mind. Here is where foundational principles serve us again. When we look to our Intrinsic Worth and the inherent value within, our choices naturally become aligned with our best interest, greatest potential and greatest good. And when we tap into our Primary Awareness, the internal wisdom within each of us, we are consistently and concretely supported in finding the necessary clarity to face our tests and successfully make all of our choices with wisdom, confidence and love. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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The Power of Thoughts 19:11

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Welcome to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. In today’s episode we are going to explore another part of us that holds an incredible amount of influence over both how we experience life and also what we experience in life. The part of us that holds so much power is our thoughts. While we have heard it said that “thoughts become things” rarely do we fully understand and appreciate the extensive power within our thinking brain and how thoughts ultimately shape our reality. Thoughts are always influenced by our experiences, our emotions and our belief systems, and as a result they are never neutral. Sometimes thoughts reflect a momentary influx of feeling and are not representative of what we believe to be true. Other times, thoughts reflect deeper belief systems that are exactly what we believe to be true at our most foundational level. While we should always “hold loosely” to our thoughts, it is nevertheless important to pay attention to the types of thoughts we have, especially patterns that emerge. If we notice consistently negative thoughts, then we must decide whether or not we want to continue to adhere to the belief systems that are the source. Every loving thought is true, and every other thought is an appeal for healing. Understanding this truth encourages us to explore the pain and fear that motivates unloving, negative thoughts. Many of us ascribe to the superstitious belief that if we assume the best, we will be disappointed. And if we anticipate the bad, then we will somehow avoid what we most fear - loss, death and pain. Many of us also default to self-critical, judgmental, negative thinking. Here too we are superstitious, believing that without the constant self-deprecation, we may become selfish, egoistic or “a failure.” Our negative, critical voice speaks only to the disconnection we have from our Intrinsic Worth. It does not in any way serve us, but only prevents us from experiencing life in an easier, more extraordinary way. Understanding the driving force behind our negative thoughts helps us to choose differently. Exploring our deeper belief systems, including how we view ourselves, our purpose and the world around us is the first step. Ultimately, we must decide whether or not we want to continue to adhere to beliefs that cause us confusion, frustration and angst. We always have the opportunity to reject negative thoughts, replacing them with new ways of thinking that more accurately reflect our goals, our needs, and our worth. There are foundational spiritual principles that will positively inform our thinking. Truths such as Intrinsic Worth, Psychological Separation and Persistent Forgiveness will support us in developing belief systems to manifest the very thoughts that will reflect our truest, kindest, most authentic selves. Thank you so much for listening. If you enjoyed the information presented in today's discussion, please consider subscribing to the Jenni Carroll Perspective. https://www.jennicarroll.com https://www.pinterest.com/jennicarrollperspective/…

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