Episode 16: Being a Power Couple

Lunch With The Garzas

5 Skills needed to become a power couple

Things to avoid:

Criticism:
Complaints are fine. Criticism is more global- it attacks the person instead of their behavior. ‘They didn’t take out the garbage because they forgot, but because they’re a bad person’
Contempt:
name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. It is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you are disgusted with them.
Defensiveness:
defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect ‘the problem isn’t me, it’s you. Defensiveness escalates the conflict, which is why it’s so deadly.
Stonewalling:
tuning out, disengaging. This doesn’t just remove the person from the conflict, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship.

Power couples are focused on..

Magnate Lifestyle
Building powerful family dynasties for generations to come

They are on the same wavelength when it comes to goals, ambitions and vision This requires work both individually and together

Shared vision and goals

Should share a similar vision So important because both people can hold each other accountable for the goals necessary to reach that vision When this doesn’t happen, one side tends to waste time convincing the other side why a new idea or venture is a good idea instead of creating the first steps necessary to get the ball rolling

Our goal is to help as many people as we can become successful and inject as much value into the world as possible

“The more people you help become successful the more successful you become.” - Steve Harvey

Money just represents the amount of value that you bring into this world, the more value you bring, the more the money will follow

Effective Communication

Level of honesty with each other that is always aimed at bettering each other Being aware of each others struggles and weaknesses then brainstorming on how to fix them Brainstorming instead of venting sessions Less Gossip more talk about goals

Personal development

Being able to grow professionally and intellectually is such an awarding feeling in a relationship If you both are learning and growing individually, imagine how strong your two minds together will be Proven fact that personal development builds confidence and a strong mindset, multiply that by two and you have a hell of a power couple

Quality time

Being an entrepreneur, its easy to put “quality time” to the side and grind but that can have long term effects QT is a great way to reset as a couple, work will be there when you get back so take time to catch up and talk with your partner A power couple is only a power couple because of how strong the commitment is to the relationship, not just their business Know when to turn the phone off and focus on your sig other Never stop reminding your person how amazing they are
This is easy to forget when you have kids or get lost in career stuff Compliments go a long way
Go on dates and reminisce on how far you two have come and where you’re going Never stop being physical
Sex is key everyone, its natural, its human nature The longer were together and get lost in being parents and entrepreneurs the easier it is to put the intimacy section on the back burner You need that time where its just pure admiration and appreciation for each other, other wise relationships go stale

“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships” - Tony Robbins

Endless Support and encouragement

Power couples get this and make it a top priority When your on the grind and you hit those roadblocks, not too many people will be in your corner, except your partner who is there waiting with food and a game plan Two people in a relationship with a shared goal, vision, and mindset are more powerful than business partners Find someone who has just as much hustle as you and help build each other

Support each others’ pursuits and ambitions fully, even if that means taking turns

Help out with the “Household Chores”

Helps with self discipline which is key in success anyway Appreciation will go a long way for a healthy relationship Knock them out first thing in the am, chances are sliced in half if you wait until after work Tim Struggled with this badly last year

Start a “family business” together

A couple that works together stays together Solve problems together Going through the start up phase together Builds a stronger bond Gets the kids involved and focused early Make sure theres a strong foundation, a family business can also cause divorce so this is not something taken lightly

Make your combined network unstoppable

Between both of your phone books, your network basically covers everyone in your industry as well as friends in some high places You’ve rubbed shoulders with some impressive people that will help you where you need to go You both make an effort to keep expanding your phone resources by building your network