He Said/She Said: Parallel Parenting vs. Co-Parenting, What divorce eliminates for the kids

The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing

Join Mick and Kindra as we discuss our conversation with Hope Firsel, life coach and trauma survivor.

Hope is a Life Coach who survived infertility, cancer, and divorce. She hired a surrogate mother and is co-parenting after her 18 year marriage ended.

Therapy helps us to understand ourselves and therapy can help others.

Co-parenting is a business relationship with finances, coordinated calendar, and tasks.

In the midst of chaos, parallel homes work with shared values. Respect each other and let parenting work.

Keep hostile discussions away from children and use technology tools to your advantage: communicate by text, phone, and Zoom.

Parallel parenting means working for the best interest of the child or children.

Take care of your mind and spirit. Have an outside source to shine light on your life.

Always suggest including a therapist early in a relationship.

A life coach can help you be an advocate for yourself.

Life coach vs. therapist: a life coach is for your future whereas a therapist discerns your past to help in healing.

We are only responsible for our own actions; we should be self-aware.

The biggest lesson learned from divorce is that no one is coming to save us; healing comes from within.

Work on yourself and be self-sufficient but you can find help for what you need from others.

The miracle of life shows us that we have superpowers, unique talents, and abilities to recognize. Use your gifts.

Dress yourself and pick out how you want to present yourself daily as you do as you don your clothes for the day.

Often, we are angry at ourselves and there are strong emotions during trauma but we shouldn’t target others, usually our ex.

Art, music, journaling, exercising are all good outlets for our strong emotions during a traumatic time.

Conscious parenting shares the alienation of negative emotions but reminds children that as parents you still love them. That love does not end.

Everyone should take time after a trauma and often friendships with the opposite gender can be helpful before getting into a new relationship.

Be whole first as yourself.

Visit her website to learn more. https://hopefirsel.com/

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In the Best Interest of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Strife (kindraspeaks.com)

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