Finding Balance and Resilience While Caring for a Parent’s Mental Health with Rahshaana Green

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Rashanna Green joins Yuliana today as the pair discuss Green’s mother and her life-altering battle with late onset Schizophrenia. A Dartmouth graduate turned nonprofit executive and forest yoga lineage guardian, Rashanna details the moment she decided to institutionalize her mother, how that choice impacted her own psyche, and the stigma surrounding mental health in the black community.

Green begins the conversation by describing her childhood growing up in an unsafe and impoverished neighborhood. It was difficult to discern whether her mother’s fears and behaviors were a rational product of their surroundings or a mental disorder. She decided to admit her mother after a psychotic break in her 50s. Taking away her parent’s autonomy was a traumatic event for both mother and daughter. Rashanna was in business school at the time and struggled to find balance between taking care of herself and her mother. As the oldest sibling, Green felt it was her responsibility to keep everything under control, despite feeling like she was drowning under all of the pressure. She felt selfish for wanting to be rid of the financial and emotional burden and resented that she needed to care for the woman who was supposed to be her guardian. And while her mother is stable today, living on her own and taking daily medication, Rashanna found it extremely challenging to start prioritizing herself. Only when she began her yoga training did she start to live life for herself like she had always done for others. She learned to ask for help, ground herself in her emotions, and take a step back sometimes. Yuliana and Rashanna close the conversation by discussing mental health approaches or lack thereof in the African American community. Green argues that avoiding the impact of slavery, poverty, and discrimination does little to heal generational trauma.

Episode Highlights:

  • Green’s decision to institutionalize her mother for schizophrenia
  • Feeling like she betrayed her mother
  • What it was like growing up in an impoverished community
  • Her mother’s experience losing her own mother at the age of 10
  • How Green’s care for her mother prevented her from caring for herself
  • Resenting the financial and emotional burden of her mother’s care
  • Becoming a forest yoga lineage guardian
  • How yoga helped her care for herself first
  • Her mother is presently healthy and independent
  • Why the African American community should confront trauma instead of running away from it
  • Why Green would like to meet Malcolm X the most

Quotes:

“Whatever she was going through was something she bottled up and shoved somewhere deep inside, and was putting her head down and getting through.”

“It was quite disorienting, but I had to forcibly have her institutionalized to start to get some care, which is, in and of itself, a very traumatic event to experience. Your daughter—is saying something’s wrong with you that you’re not connecting with. And the next thing you know, you’re being held somewhere against your will. So it’s very disorienting, compromising trust.”

“That is a very difficult thing to be in that moment where you’re taking that choice away from your parent, where you’re stepping in a caregiver role, and you are trying to do what you think is best for them, even if they don’t see it.”

“The first barrier is breaking the pattern of putting your head down, acknowledging that it’s okay to ask for help to get that assistance, that it doesn’t make you lesser than, it doesn’t make you less capable.”

“My practice in force yoga is something that brought me to an introspective, contemplative way of unliving.”

“The struggle in the African American community in general, is a cultural thing, especially my mom and her siblings— coming from parents and grandparents who have come through slavery, post slavery, and the desire to move beyond the struggles of the past, and to try not to feel like you’re wallowing in them—that you’re not letting them hold you back.”

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