This week, a submissive has been assigned the task of coming up with ideas for punishments and rewards in their new D/s relationship, and they’re not what to put on their list. Here’s the... The post Q&A: What Make Good Punishments and Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

If Kayla Rants™ are one of your kinks, our BDSM Reddit episodes are made for you. In this week’s Reddit response, we talk about spanking “ugly” butts, learning to be a Dominant, soft limit... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question is something both of us have dealt with – and there aren’t any easy answers. Here’s the question: How do you handle family members and/or friends who disagree with your kink... The post Q&A: What Do I When People Reject Me For Being Kinky? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We didn’t have it in us to focus on a single topic, so this is a bonus section episode – rambly, pointless, and chaotic (on purpose!). If you prefer a topic-based discussion, feel free... The post A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster feels like they’re the only monogamous person in their local kink community, and it’s really bothering them. Here’s the question: I recently got involved with a local kink community, although I’ve been... The post Q&A: Are Most Kinky People Also Non-Monogamous? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week’s topic came straight from a recent Patreon live stream where we were asked about how to be confident in a power exchange dynamic and within your kink identity. Here are our thoughts.... The post Building Confidence in D/s and Your Kink Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We are so sorry for the sound quality on this episode. We knew we had issues with the video, but we didn’t realize the mics wouldn’t be picked up when we switched cameras. The... The post Q&A: What Kinky Lingerie Options Are Available for Big Breasts? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We are so sorry about the audio quality! We had tech issues for the live stream/video side of things and didn’t realize until afterwards that the fix for the video had caused our mics... The post Do Submissives Really Have All the Power in D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster’s ex-spouse figured out they were kinky during the divorce, and it impacted the divorce decree. Now they want to introduce their sub but are worried about being found out later. Here’s the... The post How Do I Introduce My Kink Partner and Honor the Requirements of My Divorce? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

We’re back from our break and answering some random relationship questions we found on Instagram! In this episode: Get your free ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, April 8-11! Questions: What’s your favorite... The post Answering Random But “Deep” Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

A kinkster is part of their local community but still finds it difficult to make connections, especially with a possible long term partner. Here’s the question: I’ve been an active member of the community... The post Q&A: How Do I Connect With People in My Local Kink Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

We’re going on break next week but before we do, we asked for your kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions over on Instagram! Here’s what we think… In this episode: We’re taking next week... The post Responding to Your Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster had a question about specific items they wanted to use in kink which gave us a great excuse to talk about pervertables in general! Here’s the question: I am on a budget.... The post Q&A: Will These Household Items Work as Pervertables? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For this week’s episode, we asked for your questions over on Instagram. In this episode: Check out our newest products on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Yes, we’re answering the questions that allow us to... The post Ask Us Anything! appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The person who submitted this question said it was complex, and they weren’t wrong. Here’s the question: I have a question on how to handle loyalty conflicts in complex situations. I live in Europe,... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate a Complex Poly and Kink Relationship with Two Partners? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week’s episode isn’t meant to be a continuation of the pleasure Dom discussion from last week – though it seems that way. Instead it’s a reminder to (too many) kinksters that yes, submissives... The post Submission and Pleasure appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question comes from a submissive who’s getting their desire for kink and sex back but doesn’t want to feel like they’re telling their Dom what to do. Here’s the question: I (31F... The post Q&A: How Do I Let My Dom Know I’m Ready for Sex and Kink Without Feeling Like I’m Initiating Play? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

Pleasure Dominant is a relatively new term, probably born from the internet, but what does it even mean? Let’s talk about it. In this episode: New products available on our Etsy shop! Disclaimer: Regardless... The post What is a Pleasure Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question comes from a submissive who wants to be told what to do in power exchange, but their Dominant can’t handle the mental load. Here’s the question: I ask my Dom, “What... The post What Do I Do When My Dominant Can’t Handle the Mental Load? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s been too long since we’ve responded to the BDSM side of Reddit, so here we are! In this episode: We’re live streaming on Friday, February 16 at 9:30pm ET. Help kinksters in Atlanta... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster wants to be their most authentic self with a close friend but isn’t sure it’s working. Here’s the question: I am currently struggling in a friendship and wondered if yall had any... The post Q&A: Can I Be My Authentic Kinky Self With a Vanilla Friend? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Think of this like a “state of the union” but for a D/s relationship – specifically ours. In this episode: One week left of our Patreon membership drive! Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this... The post The State of Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s question, a kinkster wants to explore their Dominant side and wonders if they can use that to work through their anger. Here’s the question: I’m a submissive but I may be... The post Q&A: Is Anger Part of Dominance? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve talked about age differences in D/s relationships before, but this time, let’s discuss the perception/belief that “all” age gaps are bad or predatory, and why we (mostly) disagree. In this episode: Sales at... The post Age Gaps in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s question, a submissive asks how they can keep things going in their D/s even while apart. Here’s the question: How can I make the most out of my long distance D/s... The post Q&A: How Do We Make the Most of Our LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode was inspired by a conversation we recently had about how we behave and act as Dom and sub and how that doesn’t always match the way we’d like to behave and... The post How We Show Up in Our D/s Relationship appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There’s no episode this week because JB got sick and needed to rest. As of the day this commercial-like episode goes live, he’s feeling a bit better and is moving around a bit. Normally... The post A Commercial Break Ramble appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s question, this couple asks a question that a lot of kinksters have gone through — how to go from a vanilla relationship to a D/s relationship? Here’s the question: My husband... The post How Do We Renegotiate Our Marriage For D/s? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

When we started researching this episode, we thought it would just be on the concept of sexual free use in power exchange. But there was so much more that we had to talk about... The post Free Use and Blanket Consent in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we answer a question from a submissive who wants punishment outside of a fun, sexual moment but doesn’t know how to get it. Here’s the question: I’m in a wlw... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Kinky Punishment Without Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In what seems to be a new tradition, we’re sharing our plans and goals for 2024 and reviewing our goals from 2023. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Going over our 2023 goals... The post Our 2024 Kinky Goals and Plans appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, a Dominant worries their submissive expects certain rules due to their past trauma and not because of the dynamic, and they don’t know how to stop worrying. Here’s the question:... The post Q&A: Is This Past Trauma or a New Beginning for My Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week, on our way out for a two week break, we’re doing the last BDSM Reddit response episode of 2023! There be rants ahead… In this episode: We’re going live Friday, December 15... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, someone asks how to negotiate with someone who doesn’t even really know if they like kink yet. Here’s the question: Hey long time listener enjoying most of your long ones... The post How Do I Negotiate When They Want to Experiment With Kink? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re back for another BDSM in the news episode, talking about articles we’ve come across that focuses on or mentions kink in some way. These articles have been included in recent newsletters, and we... The post BDSM in the News appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive likes the positive reinforcement of rewards in their dynamic, but they don’t feel like they’re getting enough or the right kind they want and need. Here’s the... The post Can a Submissive Negotiate Their Rewards? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We were inspired by Therapy Jeff on Instagram again and decided to answer questions he advises people to ask to figure out how well they know their partner. In this episode: Join us on... The post How Well Do We Know Each Other | Answering Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s Q&A episode, a submissive can’t wrap their mind around the kinky scene their Dom wants. Here’s the question: What to do when your Dom brings up a kink that is not... The post What Do I Do When My Dominant Wants Something Silly? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Things happened this week that derailed the podcast a bit – plus we’re getting ready for Black Friday for our shop(s) – so we kept it simple for ourselves with a bonus section episode.... The post Pure Randomness | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Even if your kink life and/or power exchange relationship feel natural and good, that doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy. On the other hand, sometimes the parts you thought would be the most difficult... The post What We Find Easy and Hard About Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question takes a turn from where you think it’s going based on the title. They were in a long distance D/s relationship for six years. Once they moved in together, all the... The post How Can We Have the D/s We Planned While We Were LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re back for another look at what certain terms (that you may or may not have heard of before) mean and how we feel about them. This time, we’re talking about brat tamer and... The post Brat Tamer vs Brat Handler appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s question is similar to a previous episode about how a submissive gets their needs fulfilled. But in this situation, this isn’t about preventing it from happening but figuring out what to do... The post What Do I Do When My Dom Leaves Me Hanging? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We celebrated our wedding anniversary on October 28, and that particular milestone got me thinking about how much we’ve both grown and changed over the years. This week’s episode is all about what changes... The post Changes We See In Each Other After a Decade appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Yes, another one, lol. But we promise we have a very good reason. JB is under the weather, but insisted on recording, so we needed something easy to talk about. Ranting over the antics... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re talking about something that might be more common than you think — needing to plan and schedule your kink scenes but feeling like that kills the spontaneity. Here’s the question: How... The post How Do I Get More Kinky Fun When I Hate Planning For It? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Buckle up, y’all, this episode is a ranty one. Too many times we’ve heard, “Relationships are hard!” But we don’t believe they’re meant to be hard. Instead, they require effort and sometimes hard work.... The post The Difference Between Power Exchange Relationships Being Hard vs Requiring Effort appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week, we answer a question that a lot of submissives have at some point in their kink life — how to get your own needs fulfilled while fulfilling your Dominant’s needs, too. Here’s... The post How Do I Make Sure My Submissive Needs Are Fulfilled? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

I (Kayla) am often in a silly, goofy mood, and thankfully JB either is or will play along. So let’s talk about it from a power exchange perspective. In this episode There are several... The post Silliness and Playfulness in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s our first Q&A episode! These will be short episodes that focus on a single question that we’ll answer with our D/s perspective. Here’s the question we received: “I recently got out of a... The post How Can I Be Vulnerable With New Dom After Bad Vanilla Break-up? appeared first on Loving BDSM.