أفضل بودكاسات Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (2024)

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Responsive Desire Only Kicks In If You Are Enthusiastic About Her 14:27

3d ago14:27

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Some guys are so bored with their partner that they execute foreplay like it's the Bataan Death March, or like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho without the murder, and then wonder why their wife's responsive desire doesn't kick in. If she thinks you're only into her if she does XYZ in bed, then it is adaptive and self-protective not to have sex w…

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"I Wouldn't Date My Spouse If I Met Them Now!" 12:44

5d ago12:44

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Nobody would go on a date with a bored, dull married person lol. Here's a question to ask yourself instead, and see how the reframe opens your mind to examining your role in your marital dissatisfaction! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes!…

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Are You Acting With Your Spouse As You Would With Your Next Spouse? 12:27

9d ago12:27

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A useful reframe for anyone who complains about their spouse and who's never been divorced/remarried! Spoilers for some of this book: The Divorce by Moa Herngren https://amzn.to/4g97b3k. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subs…

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Don't Believe Your Own Bullshit... And A Helpful Hack 13:50

13d ago13:50

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A helpful hack to make you realize how deeply biased you are toward your own perspective... albeit unintentionally! Game changing advice. And a story about me in highschool! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episod…

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If She Just Lays There And You Forge Ahead... You're Risking Being Thought Of As Coercive Later On 16:29

16d ago16:29

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After reading Mad Wife by Kate Hamilton (https://amzn.to/3OyCr04), I realized that I need to be far more direct (rare for me) about the tremendous risks of having sex with a woman who isn't into it. How does this interact with the idea of responsive desire, drive decreasing within monogamy and with age, and more? Listen and learn! The straightest t…

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When You Are Scared Of Your Wife's Mood 17:22

18d ago17:22

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Some guys are scared of their wife's mood... even when they are happy! This episode teaches you why you feel this way, how to reframe your wife's mood, and ways to communicate more successfully. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most rec…

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Yes, Therapy Can Help With Standing Up To Your Spouse 13:57

20d ago13:57

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Some people say, "My problem is I can't stand up to my spouse because if I do, they get upset/would leave me. So how could therapy help with that?" Well, individual therapy or coaching can definitively help you with self-advocacy and assertiveness, and I've seen this in practice for a decade and a half! Here's how! Subscribe if you love the DPM sho…

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Why Some Women Hate Kissing 15:10

25d ago15:10

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All about why some wives hate kissing their husbands! Common issue and here's why it may happen. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Ways To Take Care Of Your Wife!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best …

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And The Stupidest Mistake Young Men Make When Dating 13:54

27d ago13:54

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Today's episode discusses the stupidest move men make on the dating market. A fitting companion to the prior episode about the stupidest mistake young women make! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Ways To…

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The Stupidest Mistake Young Women Make When Dating 15:49

29d ago15:49

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Today's episode discusses the stupidest move you can make on the dating market. We have all been here (at least those of us who have been young women who were preoccupied or "romantic" lol). Listen for what it is!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonu…

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Top 4 Female Fantasies 14:28

1M ago14:28

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Today's episode discusses the four top female fantasies: why they arise, which ones your wife may have, and what impact her fantasies can have on your sex life! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Huge Red …

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"I Have A Perfect Life... Why Aren't I Happy?" 14:36

1M ago14:36

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When people say this, there are usually two issues they aren't examining the depth... career and marriage. Today's episode discusses how you can feel that life is unfulfilling even if it looks "perfect" from the outside! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesom…

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Having An Orgasm Doesn't Mean It Was Good Sex 12:34

1M ago12:34

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Many lower libido people say things like, "You got off, what more could you want?" This is not badly intentioned, but comes from a place of not understanding much about sex. Having an orgasm means nothing about the quality of sex just like having had a meal means nothing about the quality of the food. Understanding this idea can be transformative f…

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Self Compassion And Why You Struggle With It 13:10

1M ago13:10

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If you are harder on yourself (and possibly your spouse/kids) than on anyone else, this is the episode for you. Here's why you may struggle with self compassion and how to start treating yourself with more kindness and grace. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my a…

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"If She Needs Foreplay, She's Not Attracted To Me" 14:58

1M ago14:58

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Some men believe that if a woman needs touch to be aroused, then she isn't really attracted to you. This is not accurate, and this sort of distorted thinking ruins many sexual relationships. Learn about attraction, foreplay, and arousal in this episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subsc…

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Your Sibling Relationships Also Provide A Template For Your Marriage! 13:44

2M ago13:44

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Your relationship with your parents and the relationship you observed between your parents aren't the only subconscious templates you learn in childhood for later relationships. How you interact with your sibling(s) are also a huge source of information about relationships, expectations, and scripts. Learn more in today's episode! Subscribe if you …

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Sex As Life Activity vs Sex As Porn Scene 18:12

2M ago18:12

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The ubiquity of internet porn has made many men think in unhealthy ways about married sex. Kinky or new activities are not the norm for most married couples, except on special occasions. Thinking about sex as a life activity, similar to exercise or eating, can be a very healthy way to reframe sex if you've had a history of porn use or have been tol…

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"Highly Sensitive" Doesn't Mean Difficult And Dramatic 13:06

2M ago13:06

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Some people think that "highly sensitive" means highly difficult. Get a pen and paper to take the highly sensitive person quiz I'll read you for the first few minutes and listen to everything I tell you about HSP's... you DON'T have to walk on eggshells around them! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsych…

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What Would Your Most Confident Friend Say To Your Partner In Your Place? 13:04

2M ago13:04

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What would your most confident friend say to your husband/wife about their rude or dismissive behavior, if this friend was married to them? Using this lens can give you a real wake up call and deeper motivation to change how YOU let people treat you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscrib…

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In Your 40's, You're An Old Young Person, And In Your Fifties, You're A Young Old Person! 14:22

2M ago14:22

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This can also explain the U shaped happiness curve! Buckle up and listen if you're in or expect to be in your 40's or 50's :) Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marri…

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Red Flags In A Second Marriage! 15:29

2M ago15:29

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Here are some very important red flags when looking for a partner after divorce!! Essential listening if you are dating! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marriage?"…

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"You Can Always Have More Kids But A Good Man Is Hard To Find" Hard No 15:22

2M ago15:22

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An internet comment so wildly off base that it needs its own episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "What Are The Two Components Of A Happy Marriage?" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've…

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"Masking" Is Also Known As Being Flexible Within Loving Relationships 18:46

2M ago18:46

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On the internet, people are reading that if you have any type of neurodiversity then your brain is just different and you shouldn't be expected to "mask" to try and "pass" as neurotypical. This makes some people say they are neurodivergent so all touch or intimacy is off the table. Wait what? Listen for my take on this idea.Subscribe if you love th…

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Do You Ignore Your Wife's Drinking Because It's When You Get Laid? 14:21

2M ago14:21

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And what does this do for your marriage and especially your kids? Related to a prior episode on when your wife is only fun when she drinks. And also: what's the analogue for women whose husbands drink? Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! M…

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"I Have A Great Idea"... aka How To Communicate With Enthusiasm So That Your Wife Responds Well 15:33

2M ago15:33

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If you communicate in a negative, sulky, passive, or anxious way, then it's no wonder your wife responds poorly. With this one magic phrase, you can transform your dynamic, or at least put it on the right track! All about how to communicate differently and how you can set your wife up to succeed! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcaste…

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When Your Wife Stops Trying As She Ages 18:42

2M ago18:42

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Some guys are upset that their wife no longer dresses up or gets her hair dyed... here's a whole episode going deep into this idea and potential ways to think about it. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "I…

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Look At How Your Partner's Parents Treat Each Other To See How They Will Treat You 16:05

3M ago16:05

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Common sense advice that many people ignore in favor of "but they saw what NOT to do!" Today's episode dives into why pattern recognition is important... and then a twist ending! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber e…

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When You're Trapped In The "Victim-Perpetrator" View Of Your Previous Relationship, You Can't Move On 15:05

3M ago15:05

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When recovering from the end of a difficult relationship is particularly difficult for you, e.g. you keep obsessing about it, keep blaming the other party, and are unable to focus on moving forward, you are likely missing a key piece: going back into family of origin. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsy…

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Each Partner Doing What They Are Best At Separately.... The Commonsensical Approach To Marriage That Has Fallen From Favor 17:00

3M ago17:00

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It used to be that each spouse doing what they were best at was an accepted and even extolled strategy. Now, there is an idea that the man needs to be able to do what the woman does as well as his own stuff. This is mainly applicable in situations where the woman struggles with untreated or undiagnosed anxiety or depression, and is the avoidant par…

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When You Don't Notice Your Partner Isn't A Good Fit Because Of Other Variables 14:54

3M ago14:54

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If your needs are being met by other people/activities during dating, you may not realize that your partner isn't as good of a fit as you imagined! Then when these external variables change, you fall squarely into the disillusionment stage. What do I mean? Listen to find out. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship…

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"Good Mom" And "Good Wife" Are Often Opposite 14:32

3M ago14:32

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There's a huge difference between how a woman acts before and after kids, which is evolutionarily mediated! Listen to ensure you aren't expecting contradictory things... the mom you wanted your kids to have but the girlfriend she used to be.Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: h…

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How Porn Influences How You Treat Your Wife 13:09

3M ago13:09

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I’ve discussed in many places that porn use is not helpful for marriage, particularly in cases where there is a libido disparity and partners are trying to come closer to one another’s levels. In this post I will address a phenomenon that many women describe in therapy, which is how differently their husbands act when they are using porn, why this …

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Should You Wait To Leave Your Marriage Until The Kids Are Out Of The House? 20:36

3M ago20:36

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Many clients of both genders struggle with the decision of whether to get divorced before or after the kids leave home. There are pros and cons to each decision, discussed on today's episode! Straight talk as usual. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness: https://amzn.to/3WQoA8X Su…

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Which Guys Hate The Idea Of Responsive Desire? 16:27

3M ago16:27

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Most men find it very useful to learn about responsive desire, which means needing to be touched in order to get excited. This is the kind of desire women generally have within monogamy after the honeymoon stage, and contrasts with spontaneous arousal, or being excited even before touching happens. When these men understand that responsive desire k…

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Little Ways To Connect With Your Partner Every Day 13:21

3M ago13:21

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So many people who grew up in dysfunctional homes have no idea how to connect to their partners in a playful and sweet way without doing some huge gesture that can't be done very often (e.g, an expensive meal out). In this post I discuss a few little ways to make your partner feel loved, especially if you struggle with romance or daily connection! …

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When You Are Wealthy, The Only Meaningful Currency Is Time 15:39

3M ago15:39

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In my wealthiest clients, the only metric that makes sense of what is meaningful is time. Since you can't buy more time, here are ways people try to approximate doing just that, and the ways of being that are associated with this realization. Buy my newest book! Couples You Meet In Counseling: 7 Common Relationship Dynamics That Sabotage Closeness:…

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Remember, Your Life Would Go On Even If A Bad Thing Happened 18:17

4M ago18:17

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Many very anxious people are consumed with fear of their own potential devastation or inability to cope if a bad thing were to happen to them. Some examples include: What if my partner was unfaithful or left me? What if my partner died? What if my child got ill? What if I was no longer physically attractive? What if I die earlier than expected? And…

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The Real Compatibility: Having The Same Idea Of How Important The Relationship Is 16:29

4M ago16:29

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This is stuff that securely attached people know from their upbringings and the rest of us have to learn. Can be a game changing paradigm shift! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Her Lack Of Desire Isn't …

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Emotional Labor Isn't The Problem 17:50

4M ago17:50

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Emotional labor isn't the problem guys. This term is so widely misused it's nuts. Here's who uses it and why. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Everything Does End, Sorry To Tell You." For my secret Facebook group, the "best m…

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"Nothing Is Only Good" AKA The Anxious Mantra 16:40

4M ago16:40

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Many clients I see are unaware that they are anxious, which is why I write so many posts about how to recognize your anxiety. As I’ve often discussed, I grew up in an anxious home and have seen firsthand how anxiety is passed down through generations. This is why a mainstay of my clinical work is anxiety, including helping people recognize it and u…

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If You Can't Do Scary Things For You... Do Them For Your Kids! 16:53

4M ago16:53

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Many people can't put themselves out there and do scary things... until they figure out a motivator that makes sense to them. For many parents, this is their kids. For women, specifically, kids can help you try hard things in your career. And for men, the kids can be your motivator to be more emotionally present in your family. Also: how I use this…

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Your Partner Shouldn't Be Your Only Friend 16:04

4M ago16:04

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Some people have very few social relationships and almost nobody, or truly nobody, that they feel close to except for their partner (and kids). Here's how this sets you up to fail in your marriage, and how to work on it for the betterment of yourself and your family! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and…

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"Am I Bad In Bed If My Wife Doesn't Want Sex Anymore?" 15:26

4M ago15:26

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This episode dispels the myth that you are the sole reason that she doesn't like sex with you anymore. Here is a pep talk with concrete points to try if this is your situation... and don't worry, this doesn't mean you're "bad in bed"!Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus e…

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Expectations... How They Mess Up Your Life 16:34

4M ago16:34

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Expectations steal your joy and sabotage your relationships. In this episode, I discuss how unrealistic expectations and comparison points hurt your self-esteem, your relationship with your kids, and your marriage. And then I add in stuff about friendships for good measure! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

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Die With Zero... A Transformative Book For Many At Midlife! 16:03

4M ago16:03

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A book review of Bill Perkins' Die With Zero! Really interesting philosophically, and dovetails well with a lot of the internal work my clients do every day in session! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drps…

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What Was Your Mom Like At Your Wife's Age? 16:25

4M ago16:25

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A helpful reframe for empathy! What was your mom like at the age that you're expecting your wife to act so sexual, exciting, and dynamic? Probably not acting that way either. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho…

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People ALWAYS Have Dating Options... Hitting The Wall Is A Myth 13:53

4M ago13:53

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There are ALWAYS dating options! Here's what the internet tells you and why it's wrong. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

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The CCF Method For Reframing Your Marital Issues 16:09

5M ago16:09

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I did a little video about this and I'm expanding on it in this episode... presenting the CCF (Child, Coworker, Friend) Reframe for how to think about your marital problems! This is easy to remember and can be a huge reality check if you think that you are behaving well in your marriage but you're still having issues for some unknown reason. Subscr…

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3 Reasons That Highly Sensitive Women Are More Likely To Divorce You 15:29

5M ago15:29

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Highly Sensitive People (HSP) definitionally feel things more intensely than others. Does this mean that HSP women are likelier to leave? Here's what I've seen in my practice! Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show…

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Should Your Wife Have Veto Power Over Your Work Schedule? 16:00

5M ago16:00

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Here's a terrifying thought... what if your wife had veto power over your work schedule??? Actually... this may be the best thing that ever happened to your marriage, and here's why! Also covered: who this works for and who it doesn't work for. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…

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