In this episode of the Heart of Shadow podcast series, Luke Adler and I talk about the habit of men using ejaculation for self-regulation, and how a powerful alternative is to step more into our experience via checking in with a men’s group. Join the Heart of Shadow waitlist at heartofshadow.com Click the icon below to listen.…

In this episode, I explore the important difference between integrity and congruence, and how crucially important it is to understand the distinction for nice guys. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

This episode is short and sweet and about the important reframe of focusing on a better, not easier life, and how connection and community are the most powerful ingredients for that to happen. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I chat with my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Luke Adler about the common experience of men wanting to understand everything and how that’s often a way to resist feeling. We go deep into how this can lead to staying in the realm of the mind and avoiding emotional connection. We explore the power of moving from the head to the heart…

Inspired by one of my favorite Pearl Jam songs, in this episode I talk about what it means to “Do the Evolution”, and its significance in personal growth and development. Drawing from developmental theory, I explore what it means to “do the work” through the lens of subject-object relations and how our awareness evolves allowing us to “see” more an…

Every intimate relationship will cross a critical, often make-or-break threshold moment in which the two foundational components of polarity and intimacy invert. Tune in to this episode to learn about this important milestone, what often goes wrong, and what tools can support your relationship in thriving beyond this moment. Click the icon below to…

In this episode, I’m excited to welcome friend and healer David Romero to delve into the healing potentials of psychedelic medicines. David shares his fascinating journey from the military to yoga, mental health, and psychedelic healing. He shares the importance of developing a relationship with the medicines, how they aren’t a magical cure-all, th…

In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of shifting our mindset from ‘moving away’ to ‘moving toward’, a crucial pivot that can radically alter our lives. I shine a light on our common male tendency to dodge emotional discomfort and the profound healing that unfolds when we bravely face our feelings. I then explore the vital role of …

In this episode I explore a lesser-known aspect of the saying “If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you” that can be particularly hard for men! Watch: Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I explore the significance of having a safe place to return to after facing setbacks or feelings of shame in life, and how the power of a men’s group and community can be the key to moving beyond our shame by giving us a place to consciously come back to relationship. Click the icon below to listen.…

In this episode, I’m once again joined by Luke Adler to explore the sense of hurt and disconnection that many men are experiencing today, and how having the courage to feel is the medicine we desperately need as men to drop below all the surface-level forces that try to pull us away from our discomfort, whether it be relationally, politically, cult…

In this episode, I delve into the topics of purpose and passion, two crucial aspects of a man’s life. Contrary to a lot of the talk in the world of men’s work, finding our purpose is often a lot less straightforward than we think, and not always as simple as “do what you love” or “follow your passion”. Whether you love what you do or are yearning f…

بقلم Evolutionary Men

Anger and aggression are NOT the same thing, and the most dangerous men are aggressive men who aren’t aware of their anger. In this episode I break down the all-important difference between anger and aggression, and talk about the three keys to embodying healthy anger in the world, and why our planet needs a whole lot more men doing it. Want a safe…

In this episode, my co-host Luke Adler and I talk about why us men can be so hard on themselves. We delve into the roots of this harshness and scrutinize its impact on overall health and happiness. Drawing from personal experiences and knowledge gained from our work with men, we provide viable strategies to navigate through the maze of self-critici…

In this episode, I explore ‘Nice Guy Syndrome’, its origins, and how to overcome it. Using Dr. Gabor Mate’s idea of two primary human needs: attachment and authenticity, I explore how men often suppress their authentic selves to secure attachment, leading to Nice Guy Syndrome. I then discuss how reclaiming authenticity is one of the most powerful u…

In this episode, Luke Adler joins me once more to explore an issue many men experience – stagnation, or feeling stuck. Men in particular often suffer from emotional stagnation, manifesting as feelings of despair, depression, or emotional numbness – all of which can have serious physical and spiritual consequences. Luke enlightens us with his knowle…

Discover the key to shifting your patterns and attracting better intimate partners and deeper connections through the power of inner work. Join The Heart of Shadow men’s group now! Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I discuss two important concepts related to men and masculinity: precarious manhood and the man box. The first refers to the sociocultural belief that manhood is a fragile status that needs to be constantly defended, while the latter is a societal construct that dictates norms and expectations for men. These concepts contribute to …

In this episode, I once again explore loneliness among men and highlight the detrimental health risks associated with lacking meaningful connections. Then I break down the difference between loneliness and social isolation, the importance of the quality of our connections over the quantity, and how men’s groups can provide the depth of connection s…

In this episode, I explore one of the main ways men often keep themselves stuck. Many of us will default to soothing ourselves when in distress instead of focusing on actual healing. Tune in to learn the difference between the temporary relief of soothing and the long-term change that comes from healing. Click the icon below to listen.…

In this episode, discover the importance of doing your ’emotional work’ as a man in order to thrive in life. Our emotions can greatly impact our stress levels, health, decision-making capabilities, and how much others trust us. This is a topic you won’t want to miss. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode I break down three of the big reasons I see men show up in men’s group and step onto the path of men’s work. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

Long time listeners know that I believe every man should be in a men’s group, and in this episode I dive into one of the many reasons why: they can help us get clear about what we need and want in our lives and relationships. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

Attention and Tension are two terms that are deeply related when it comes to what makes the masculine inside all of us tick. The ability to consciously wield our attention is a great power and easier to do when we hold less tension in our bodies. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode I unpack a common phrase: “Well, I had a pretty good childhood” to explore what lies beneath this common phrase, why it’s so commonly used by nice guys, and how our childhood can be the key to our growth as adults. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

An all too easy trap on the path of growth is to get hyper-focused on enlightenment, which if we’re not careful can become just another way to get away from one’s experience. Join me and my fellow Heart of Shadow facilitator Luke Adler as we talk about what’s possible when we focus on the path of intimacy instead. As a men’s guide, I’m increasingly…

One of the many gifts of shadow work is how it can help us crack open to the deepest parts of ourselves, bringing us into more intimate contact with all of who we are. In this episode, Luke and I explore what it means to crack open and bring our buried shadow elements to the surface to be met with awareness and light. Are you ready to dive into sha…

Dating can be an exhausting enterprise for many men and can feel like a neverending battle that can get very disheartening, especially if we lose sight of the true purpose of dating. Tune in to this episode to find out how to reclaim your power as a man so that you know your purpose in dating. Click the icon below to listen.…

Want to take your relationship to the next level as a man? One of the more important changes you make has to do with how you receive feedback or hurt from a partner when they’ve been impacted by you in a negative way. It’s easy for us guys to “lawyer up” in these moments instead of showing up first as a lover. Listen in to learn more about being a …

Sexuality is one of the most powerful energies on the planet and one that can easily cause great harm if not matched with consciousness. We’re living in a time when we men have the opportunity to take charge of our sexual charge and use it generatively rather than destructively. In this episode of our Heart of Shadow series, my co-facilitator Luke …

When it comes to any kind of meaningful practice, the aim is to train at the edges of our capacity and stretch ourselves so that we can live with more ease back in the middle. Tune in to find out how this shows up in all facets of men’s work, be it physical, emotional, or spiritual practice. Click the icon below to listen.…

Ever had one of those moments or days, when you just FEEL OFF, be it stressed, depressed, anxious, or unmotivated? Listen to this episode as I explore the three keys you can use to regain your center and come back to yourself in a grounded and regulated way. Men’s work is a powerful way to put these combined keys into action, so check out my upcomi…

Leading with vulnerability is one of the most potent things I coach men on and it creates some unique challenges for us as men. Tune in to learn what I mean by vulnerability, what it often means when our partners say they want us to be more vulnerable, how we can bring it as masculine leaders, and what exactly makes it a significant act of leadersh…

I’m again thrilled to be joined by Luke Adler, my friend and co-facilitator of The Heart of Shadow program. In this discussion, we share about our own shadow work processes that we worked through on a recent retreat with each other, and how this type of shadow work can facilitate a core level of healing that gets to the very essence of our wounding…

I recently got to spend some time watching a very herky-jerky lizard while on retreat, and in today’s episode explore how its movement can be so representative of the brain state many of us men live in on a moment to moment basis. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I chat with my lovely wife Violet Lange about the importance of doing co-ed work and how it can amplify and refine the work we do together as men. We explore what co-ed work can look like, how it can benefit us whether we’re single or in a relationship, and the specifics of her program Radiant Love which is a powerful container for…

Men’s work is having a moment in our culture right now, entering more and more into the mainstream each and every day. In this episode, I explore what I think the true purpose of men’s work is and some of its common styles. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

There is a crisis of male loneliness, and it started long before COVID. In this episode, I chat with friend and co-facilitator Luke Adler about how deeply this impacts men, why it’s hard to make new male friendships as we age, and how transformational programs can create bonding experiences for men that last a lifetime. Watch below, then join The H…

In this episode, I share one of my favorite stories about musician Prince and dive into how it exemplifies the superpower of being a yes to what is, which is the ability to turn toward reality rather than resisting it. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I talk with Luke Entrup, a leadership coach and teacher that leads rites of passage programs for fathers and their sons. We talk about Luke’s program, how it aims to connect fathers and sons, the importance of young boys spending time with powerful men, the hero’s journey and how it shows up in men’s work, and the power of tech-fre…

One key to meaningful masculine leadership comes from being able to name what you notice. This simple concept can improve your relationships, work life, and even your ability to make better choices for yourself in any given moment. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

Men and the masculine are getting a lot of heat these days, including from director James Cameron who recently said that testosterone is "a toxin that you have to slowly work out of your system". Listen in now to find out what he gets wrong in his assessment and what the real problem actually is. Click the icon below to listen.…

As humans, we are WIRED to be social and relational creatures, and co-regulation is one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal for our well-being. Being held in safe and attuned relational space allows our body-minds to process traumas in ways we just can't do alone. So often the missing component for men to fully be present to their gr…

Face your dragons. Unleash your life force! I'm super excited to chat with friend, healer, and all around badass Dr. Luke Adler about shadow work, men's groups, and our new intensive program, The Heart of Shadow. Luke and I discuss what shadow is, why we're creating this program, and how this work has not only impacted our clients, but our own live…

Dabble in men's work long enough and you'll hear the term "holding space". In this episode, find out what holding the moment actually means, and how understanding it can have a massive impact on our intimate relationships. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

One of the most powerful tools in transformation is ever present, free to access, and an incredible gateway between the unconscious and conscious in ourselves. Tune in to learn about the power of breath. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

Tune in to learn how a potent piece of philosophy can dispel the myth that women only want to be with jerky guys. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men

Joseph Campbell’s work on the Hero’s Journey provides an incredible roadmap for what so many men are missing and yearning for these days. Men’s Work and in-person retreats can fill that gap. When you hear the call, it’s crucial to leave your ordinary world and find out what you’re made of with other men. Learn about the Summer 2022 Evolutionary Men…

One of the most powerful shifts men can make in relationship is to be the kind of man your partner can push INTO, and not just push over. Tune in to learn about the power of welcoming it all. Click the icon below to listen.بقلم Evolutionary Men